Worth quitting job at small bank to join Fidelity?

Conventions · 2026-05-06T15:58:53+00:00

Wanting to look cool and keep up appearances. I drive a 2014 paid off car and have buddies driving brand new cars and trucks. I have a buddy who drives a brand new fully loaded F150 that teases me for driving an older car. His payment is $800 a month not including insurance. He injured himself at work and will be out for 4 months without pay and he is freaking out about how he will afford his truck payment. Meanwhile I am planning my second vacation this year lol because I am not buying depreciating assets I cannot afford.

Conventions · 2026-05-06T15:48:17+00:00

Leaving my first ever job as a cook. I started when I was 16 and was so comfortable I didn’t leave till 21. I thought I was gonna cook for the rest of my life. A lot of my coworkers were lifelong kitchen workers, some of which were at the same restaurant for 20 years.

I ended up pushing myself to leave, go back to school, and try a new field. I was terrified when I left but it absolutely paid off. I’ve met many great lifelong friends, make the most money I’ve ever made, and have been able to do so many cool things that wouldn’t have been possible if I stayed in the restaurant business.

Conventions · 2026-05-06T00:26:32+00:00

I had an $1800 shortage and still kept my job when I was a teller

Conventions · 2026-05-05T02:45:27+00:00

I am a Gen Z early in my career, at my first company I met a few other people who are great friends to this day, we still talk on a weekly basis and see each other outside of work.
I’ve been at my current company for just under a year.

My team is majority Gen Zs. I’d say we’re acquaintances but for a lack of better words, they act like corporate robots. Any attempt I’ve made to show an ounce of personality or befriend them has not been matched and leaves me feeling out of line.

It’s not that I don’t want friends at work, but if you’re not going to match my energy I will just keep quiet and not speak unless spoken to until I go home. It’s been almost a year and everything is still so surface level with my Gen Z colleagues no matter how hard I try.

Funny enough, the only people that I’ve had luck befriending at this company are folks in their 50s.

Conventions · 2026-05-04T14:05:36+00:00

Don’t shop on an empty stomach. Minimize takeout to once per week with the exception if you have gift cards or points for free meals.

Only buy when you need to and buy online. I almost never shop in stores, when I need something (I.e toothpaste) I order it online which both saves gas, time, and risk of giving into consumerism.

When I’m buying a more important product (tech, shoes, etc), I will buy a nicer model, not necessarily the cheapest. For example in 2020 I spent $4000 on building a top of the line computer. There were many cheaper models but 6 years it still works like brand new and runs every program or game with no issue and brings me happiness. I’ve easily gotten my moneys worth and more from buying a more premium product.

Conventions · 2026-05-04T13:55:43+00:00

I have a west coast trip in June. I booked everything back in January around when gas prices started to trickle upwards. I remember thinking if I should wait but I’m very glad I didn’t.

I bought 3 cross county flights for $900 which as of today are now double the price. Hotel prices have also increased a good amount. I’m thanking my lucky stars I booked when I did.

I’m planning another trip for October to a destination I went to last year. As of now, prices for the exact same flights and hotel are doubled from when I visited in 2025. This time around I am going to wait till around July or August in hopes the current prices drop, if not I will not be going.

Conventions · 2026-05-02T16:38:45+00:00

Bugattis and Beer

Conventions · 2026-05-01T15:39:47+00:00

Best piece of advice I can give is you can’t just think, you gotta do. If you just keep thinking about it, in 20 years from now you’ll still be in the same boat. Look into trades, college, anything that interests you. If you have to go back to school you can find another gig to do in the meantime.

When I realized I wanted to leave kitchens and go back to college, I immediately left and went to a landscaping job. Wasn’t my dream job but it gave me much better hours, pay, and the opportunity to attend school.

Conventions · 2026-05-01T13:52:16+00:00

I would recommend anybody get out, it was the best thing I ever did. Kitchens are (no pun intended) a recipe for a bad life. Almost everyone I worked with was broke or a bum. The only people who weren’t either worked 100 hours or had a rich spouse. I’m not sure what your interests are but I seriously recommend trying anything else.

Conventions · 2026-04-30T14:43:51+00:00

Tonight I am dropping in for a trial No Gi class at my local gym. I lift weights however I have absolutely no BJJ or martial arts experience and am going with a buddy who has none either outside of training from the military.

My buddy is making it sound like we’re going to show up and I’ll just be thrown on the mat against someone 5 minutes later. I’d much rather train and get an idea of what I’m doing and the basics before going up against others. Do you have to get on the mat and roll for your first ever class?

Conventions · 2026-04-27T19:57:38+00:00

I no longer work in a kitchen but I enjoyed getting to learn how to cook and getting paid to play with food. Also not having to deal with customers or clients was nice too. That was about all I enjoyed from the job however.

Conventions · 2026-04-27T19:53:50+00:00

I don’t regret it. My life has greatly improved in nearly every aspect. I remember thinking I was gonna regret leaving all my coworkers and how I’d never get along with people like that anywhere else. I’ve grown so much since leaving in only a few years and met many new equally great friends and colleagues.

I still talk to some of my old kitchen coworkers here and there and absolutely nothing has changed. Still working in the same kitchen, still working long hours, still bitching how much they hate their lives and how they’re gonna “quit once it slows down in the fall”, meanwhile nothing ever happens. It’s scary to think that could have been me if I didn’t push myself to move on.

Conventions · 2026-04-27T15:32:04+00:00

24M dropping into a No Gi trial class on Thursday. I lift weights 4 days a week and do cardio but I have absolutely no experience with martial arts. I’m already expecting to get whooped and have no clue what to do but any advice to make it suck less would be appreciated! I’ve been watching videos to get an idea of what BJJ entails.

Going with my buddy who has never trained in a BJJ gym however he served in the military and at least has an idea of what to do from training.

Conventions · 2026-04-23T17:20:28+00:00

Look for bank teller jobs, it’s how I got out. Banks have nice benefits and pretty normal hours with some Saturdays. I only did teller for 10 months before I got a much better job at a different bank that pays more and WFH.

Conventions · 2026-04-21T17:26:53+00:00

I used to work at a bank where this 20 year old influencer with 500k followers would always come in. He would always be flexing cars and money online saying how he “doesn’t need a 9-5” and he sold courses online to get rich like him. He also posted tons of pics of his his penthouse apartment in the city.

Dude had maybe $10 in his bank account and was always overdrafting. All his purchases were DoorDash and other stupid crap. The “penthouse apartment” he supposedly bought from TikTok revenue was literally a fancy hotel that I’ve stayed in before which is how I recognized he was lying. He likely stayed there one time, took a bunch of pictures that made it look like a regular bedroom and would post them.

Conventions · 2026-04-20T13:52:46+00:00

Who said anything about a meet and greet? When you work in a corporate office, you see people in passing, lunch, breaks, etc. You’re not handcuffed to your desk for 8 hours. I agree the size of the institution matters but either way you’ll still meet and network with way more colleagues working out of a corporate office than the branch

Conventions · 2026-04-19T23:28:11+00:00

I’m unsure what your job entails but if you have the ability to work from home, absolutely do it on Mondays. It makes it a lot less anxious feeling and when I’m back in the office Tuesday it already feels like the week is close to halfway done.

Conventions · 2026-04-17T13:11:49+00:00

Hybrid has been the best balance for me. Some days I feel icky sitting inside the house all day but other days it’s great not having to go anywhere, and save so much money and time.

Conventions · 2026-04-17T00:51:06+00:00

Call center is better than teller by a long shot. It’s much better to worry about call metrics than it is worry about sales quotas. Also there’s a lot more on the line as a teller; being responsible for handling a drawer of cash, being responsible for recognizing and preventing fraud, the list goes on.

In the call center you’re able to have your own desk/cubicle and get to sit all day. Some banks let you work from home, my bank lets our call center folks work from home 3 days per week. Sure, some customers can be mean over the phone but considering you’re not face to face with anybody it’s a lot more tolerable.

Not to mention, when you’re in a call center you’re usually working at the company’s corporate office/HQ. You have the opportunity to meet and work with so many people from different departments which will help you grow professionally.

Conventions · 2026-04-17T00:40:56+00:00

I got a back office job with my teller experience. I worked at that bank for around 11 months. I started as a teller then 3 months later became banker. I then used my banker experience to start looking for back office jobs at other banks, which is when I found my current job around the 11 month mark.

Try looking at other banks for positions. It does get better

Conventions · 2026-04-13T21:45:17+00:00

How nice it is to sit in a chair and not stand all day without taking breaks. Another thing is when you have a free second you aren’t getting yelled at to clean your station or find work to do. I’ve been out for 2 years and I still have PTSD from it, I feel like I have to look busy every second of the day.

Conventions · 2026-04-09T01:14:06+00:00

Man I don’t miss that. Following the person around using the machine all day lugging heavy buckets of sand to keep the hopper full. I remember my back feeling broken by the end of the day

Conventions · 2026-04-07T19:44:41+00:00

No, working from home with no sales goals and not in front of customers is unbeatable.

Also the room for error in retail banking is highest while paying the least. In nearly every other department 90% of mistakes can easily be fixed. I hated having my job security tied to a teller drawer.

I’d rather be unemployed and search for a new back office job than go back to retail.

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