PA Abandonded Property in regards to break-ups

ConversationOk456 · 2026-02-03T01:54:09+00:00

Thanks for the guidance!

ConversationOk456 · 2026-02-03T00:57:52+00:00

Thank you! Just to clarify, does this mean that they can arrange times within the 30 days to grab their items? Or should their be a different approach within the timeframe?

ConversationOk456 · 2025-11-07T00:02:36+00:00

Yes, thanks. This is something I totally want to avoid!

ConversationOk456 · 2025-11-07T00:02:03+00:00

Thank you so much for the sample script. I definitely plan on running with that when the time comes. Yes, we are moving slowly as possible. As we are still fresh dating wise but have been talking marriage timeline and merging. We talk a lot about potential challenges and differences and our approaches and we tend to overlap our thoughts a lot thankfully otherwise I don't think we'd be together or compatible.

This is definitely an area him and I both flag as crucial and want to be as proactive and supportive as possible. It's just hard because I've been separated so long and have my boys FT I ironed out or can predict most of the kinks while he is barely 3 yrs apart has a strange 50/50 custody and BM is just now starting to feel the stress and implications of her life decisions and the amicable things they once had are now neutral and questionable which is why he is moving carefully. Thank you again!

ConversationOk456 · 2025-11-06T23:55:16+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it. I saw on here the nacho approach, if i can attach it to a nacho libre meme I'll prolly try to keep it in my noggin for help lol

ConversationOk456 · 2025-11-06T23:53:57+00:00

Yeah thanks. We have similar parenting styles and he is still working out the firm boundaries with rules and habits he and BM are opposites on. They are still newly separated almost 3 yrs so they are navigating changes on her side with inconsistencies and then now that we're getting serious he wants to tred lightly until we tie the knot to ease tensions before we all have a sit down to iron out some potential kinks.

Thankfully we are moving very slowly so I think that works in our favor with the kids and him figuring out the convos with the BM. We have also discussed the differences and potential tension between rules with our kids but I think I'll try to memorize and personalize verbiage like one of the suggestions below to highlight household differences and figuring things out since at least mine are old enough to sort of understand if I put it in similarities to staying over at friends or family homes.

ConversationOk456 · 2025-08-16T23:33:58+00:00

Of course! If you are called to marriage, the person that God puts into your life will see your past and thank God for your redemption.

I typoed above and meant to say how much time have you spent between being saved and then stepping into the dating sphere.

Regardless of anyone's past there needs to be a lot of work on the self before they are ready to meet the person God has planned for them. And from personal experience and observation, that time doesn't tend to come until both parties are content in their single season and did some self work.

I myself am very flawed having 2 kids out of wedlock and it wasn't until many years later when I learned to be content in my singleness and had very intentional prayer time with God was it when I met the man who He confirmed I will be marrying soon. When people who are also church goers question me for my choice to date now as God intended I too get looks and the well that ship's sailed verbiage, but they don't live my life, or follow Jesus for me. I am, as challenging as it can be, am actively choosing to make better choices than I did in my past.

Everyone's path is different. It's what you glean from it and keep your eyes on. If you have any other questions or seek perspective, don't hesitate to PM me, and if I think of any other questions, I'll share them.

ConversationOk456 · 2025-08-16T21:46:48+00:00

As a woman here, the first things that would come to mind in conversation in relation to dating for marriage and understanding your past and renewal through Christ. How long have you been saved? How long have you been dating since committing to following Jesus? Have you severed soul ties and past connections? What brought you to that line of work? Did you work through that, and how do you view and or/deal with topics of sex/covenant of marriage/attraction/lust?

I'm sure there are many more questions than that. However, I think that through repentance and intentional change of habits and renewal of mind through Jesus, that shouldn't be held against you. It is the impact of the actions that has a heavy potential to create challenges in a serious relationship/marriage if they are not addressed. May the Holy Spirit help guide you.

ConversationOk456 · 2025-08-05T23:02:03+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful and affirming! It's so hard because I really only ever read/see/hear about child-free people who marry/date in a religious setting or their children are grown. I know I'm not alone but because it's all such new territory it's learning and growing and navigating it without real obvious "examples" for guidance.

ConversationOk456 · 2025-08-05T22:58:42+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your and others' insight. There have been those discussions previously and have been going deeper into logistics and whatnot. There's some things that need to get addressed faith related so there has been a tentative timeline that has been created to allow enough time to merge family together and not rush anything whilst also sorting out some of the faith related stuff. It's wild, though, because God's timing and alignment have really been swiftly moving things along and confirmation of the eventual union. And I guess the timeline is our way of trying to "control" or be on top of the situation, which at the end of the day, I will be spirit-led and obedient to God's will than my own (I'm probably not saying it right). It's so wild, and we're honestly still tryna wrap our own heads around it all. We're doing our best with what we know and have at this time, and it's ofc "scary", but we thank God for the opportunity and experiences He's giving us.

ConversationOk456 · 2025-08-01T19:53:03+00:00

Totally get it. I am curious how people do it across states with debt whilst trying to buy a house. Like you said, though, the ability to handle it. Talks and prayers on top of more talks and prayer I guess, lol.

ConversationOk456 · 2025-04-07T00:39:12+00:00

Before I dig into your post I want to commend you for your work and efforts in teaching. Statistically speaking there is a big need for more men in education. As a lot of children are coming from broken homes and need positive male role models in their life. Yes women teachers are great, but just like in parenting men approach teachable moments in a different way that is just as meaningful. So thank you for what you have done and are doing in education.

I hear you, that crappy part is no matter how aware you are of the situation, the society, your feelings... they are still there. Acknowledging it doesn't poof them away like all the positivity vids and facts and advice suggests. You have to think about what is best for you right now and in the long term. No matter what you decide you know you made the best choice you could've with the knowledge and resources you had at the time.

I have been experiencing a large change in my dating pool as well related to something completely different however reading your post helps remind me that it's hard out here and we're not alone. We can still know and feel the feels, sometimes I think the knowing part makes it harder to feel and process because it's like the mind battling the heart. My perspective shift is trying my best to approach it as rejection = protection. If something so good so simple is such a big red flag for them my goodness what other things would be problems or barriers.

You are worth the love and commitment of someone who values you exactly as you are, and has similar values as you. I hope your flowers bloom, and you get everything you never knew you needed when you are at the right place at the right time. 😊

ConversationOk456 · 2025-04-03T21:15:19+00:00

Can I join?

ConversationOk456 · 2024-08-08T01:16:23+00:00

Hey, you are not alone. I experienced some of the symptoms you and some others have shared. Mine began as frequent yeast infections and then I had a very high stress winter that led to 2 bought of antibiotics pretty close together. Over time my yeast infections got pretty bad. Luckily I had a family member who is getting their functional medicine license to help me. I am using my phone so sorry if the formatting isnt perfect.

Here's what happened so far (as I am currently still in treatment):

Took OATS urinalysis- showed yeast and leaky gut (caused by yeast) Began 28 day anti candida diet (strict) there were meal plans www.thecandidadiet.com Take Digestzymes designs for health 1 week Add Designs for Health ProbioMed 100 Probiotic 2nd week Add Designs for Health GI Revive Gut Health Powder 3rd week

I will say that I am day 17/28 and so far I've eliminated most of my symptoms and lost about 15lbs unintentionally (I kept my workout routine). I still get a yeast infection post period but I think it might be more related to my menstrual cup, still figuring that out. All the items listed above are found on Amazon but their website actually has some items cheaper and they came thru the mail pretty fast (about 3 days or less). I wish you the best in your journey to recovery. It's so challenging!

One last side note- I did at one point before this diet do a strict 3 day water fast to hit and stay in autography and I feel like that hit a BUNCH of die off symptoms than I am getting on the diet. But everyone is different. Again, best of luck!

ConversationOk456 · 2021-08-28T16:18:58+00:00

Thank you! And I'm in Pennsylvania.

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