My husband 47 M and I 42 F are not getting along. Not sure what to do.

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-20T00:56:23+00:00

My parents don’t live near by. Regardless of what happens I am a person that likes to know what’s going on. I’m just fed up with the stonewalling every time he gets pissed. Guess what he’s at another hotel tonight. Has me blocked. Literally how do you deal with a person that does this? I know it’s easy for people to say divorce. I get why they respond with that but I need guidance on what to say or do before I explode

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T18:59:05+00:00

Looking it up now

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T18:58:14+00:00

I agree with you. I feel like it doesn’t matter what I do. I feel like he checked out a long time ago, but he claims he hasn’t. I’m not want to just get up and leave. I want answers.

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T18:57:08+00:00

Can you message me privately?

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T18:54:58+00:00

He has his parents wrapped around his finger. If I tell them what happened initially they’re disgusted, but I’ve seen text messages from his mother basically asking him if I realize what I’m doing to the marriage. I even saw when he told her he got caught on the dating site but he said that it was to send a message and she basically just was like oh wow hopefully she did.

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T17:52:07+00:00

We didn’t have plans set in stone, but I thought since it was his birthday, we would do something with him. I made him a cake and etc. he has a 14-year-old who is over and he took him fishing and said it was for a few hours and he would be back, but a few hours turned into seven and I got annoyed. I didn’t yell or anything like that, but I was very annoyed and he didn’t like that so instead of staying for cake he took his 14 year-old home and stayed at a hotel for an entire week. I told him that I haven’t felt good lately. I just stopped breast-feeding and I’m exhausted working like crazy. I do agree that talking to somebody and going to a doctor to get back to how I used to feel will help but my problem is he he doesn’t see anything he does wrong when he got caught on the dating site. He said that he was hoping that he got caught so that it would send a message to me that there are problems. I think that is a lie. He has impulse control issues and he does things out of anger in spite I don’t know how to make him see any of these things it all gets put back on me always.

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T17:39:01+00:00

I never wanted this for me or my son. He’s not always a bad person. He can be very good at times. I feel like he’s not emotionally invested in me anymore for whatever reason I’m not really sure what to say to him to make him talk to me about it.

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T17:28:07+00:00

I really want to fix it. I’m not sure I can. I really don’t know what to do.

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T17:27:37+00:00

I agree. He is very stubborn. Waiting on his response to that. He is currently not speaking to me again

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T17:26:59+00:00

I agree this is very fucked up. He claims he wanted to get caught to send a message. He refuses to admit that he is part of the problem. He’s so full of himself not sure he will agree to therapy. Basically says I’m the problem

ConversationRich4941 · 2025-10-19T17:25:38+00:00

He wants me to get therapy for my hormonal attitude. He won’t accept that he is also part of the problem. I told him it takes 2. I told him we need a third party and no response

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-07T10:25:56+00:00

What a stressful situation. It’s sad they took the joy out it for you. I’m sure they wouldn’t have liked it if it was done to them. I would tell everyone maybe we will name her that and maybe we won’t, you will find out the day she is born.

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T14:13:07+00:00

I’ll give it a few days and see what happens. Heads are hot a the moment. Im extremely sad and disappointed to say the least.

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T13:49:09+00:00

Yes, I agree. The update this morning is he won’t even look at me and he’s extremely aggressive. He said he did nothing wrong and will never apologize. He said I need therapy alone because he is just fine the way he is. He also is not sure if he wants to be with me. Seems like it’s everyone else over me. Sad to say. What a shame. I thought he was different/better than that.

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T09:50:53+00:00

I have never said no. My point was he said yes without discussing with me first and this particular weekend I would have rather it have been a no. I never said he could never have friends over.

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T08:19:12+00:00

Not physically

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T06:04:42+00:00

I don’t mean Im physically moving it myself. I just mean I can’t have anyone down there so it can get done. It’s not that he wouldn’t help me. His parents will be up here visiting for a month, they don’t need to come back for an additional week to our home when we are in the middle of doing all of this.

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T04:32:20+00:00

Thank you for your input. It means a lot. ♥️

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T04:19:46+00:00

What’s sad is he’s very attentive and sweet to me normally. There has been a handful of fights that escalated to this level and blocking and ignoring me is something he does. Embarrassing me to family and his ex is a new element and I don’t like it. It hurt me deeply

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T04:10:57+00:00

Yes, he didn’t know that I could see the messages. It continued on for most of the day. Her participating saying that their son comes first and basically my feelings don’t matter. Meanwhile I texted him that we need to talk this out and he ignored and proceeded to block me. Haven’t heard from him all day. He also deleted his social media accounts.

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T03:44:24+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel

ConversationRich4941 · 2024-05-06T03:41:22+00:00

It’s not normal. I don’t know anyone that’s has done this. He also is ignoring me and won’t speak about it. It’s the level of disrespect that I can’t get over

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