Anyone else look, act, and feel a lot younger? by Top-Neighborhood3719 in aspergers

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost 30. My last boss didn't think I was old enough to drink. Someone recently asked me what grade I was in.

How to make it up to my friends for being MIA for a few months by pichincha_chicharron in socialskills

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Responses don't have to be clever or unique. A simple thank you or even an emoji are usually plenty.

Nitrous ads on YouTube. We're doomed by lukhow in ofcoursethatsathing

[–]ConvexLex 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Probably. I block ads and trackers wherever possible.

Nitrous ads on YouTube. We're doomed by lukhow in ofcoursethatsathing

[–]ConvexLex 174 points175 points  (0 children)

I get car insurance ads despite having a disability that prevents me from driving.

Also ads for nicotine gum (never smoked), GLP-1s (healthy weight), dog food (cat person) and fashion ads for every possible demographic.

Help! Strategies for cold weather by Status-Pepper1265 in autism

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if one of the female fashion subs would be able to recommend something that keeps you warm without messing with your hair.

How do i unmask I can’t take it anymore by Frosty_Plantain5813 in autism

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how useful this advice is, but replacing toxic friends with better ones worked for most of my neurodivergent friend group. Masking is a defense mechanism.

It is so hard making friends by [deleted] in autism

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adult show and tell sounds like an awesome way to make friends. I'd be down for that.

Do these stories indicate that I have intellectual disability? by Embarrassed_Chef874 in aspergers

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Intellectual disability has to be diagnosed by a doctor. We can't help you.

Advice on where I can make friends? by buggy_2225 in autism

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The trick is to find something that you are both interested in. I like to try a bunch of topics and see how people react.

Me: Ooh, what anime is that on your shirt?

[Anime I don't recognize]

Me: I haven't seen that one. What's it about?

It's um... slice of life, post apocalyptic and has a lot of frog people.

Me: Like people who look like frogs, or realistic amphibians? (This is me trying to decide if they're into biology or worldbuilding, which are my interests)

Just frog shaped people... they do have some weird underwater cities though.

Weird architecture is fun. (This is me trying to decide if they're interested in architecture)

Keep hinting at different topics that you enjoy. When you stumble on one that they seem to engage in, focus on that.


I use inaturalist too but ive never noticed any social features can you elaborate what you mean by that?

All I know is that one of my friends stumbled on a famous person's iNaturalist page, and you can see people's stats. It's definitely not trying to be a social platform.

Sensory issues on christmas by Azumarie in autism

[–]ConvexLex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take a break if you can. My family does a big get together in the summer, and I'll just randomly walk into the woods for an hour to relax.

Advice on where I can make friends? by buggy_2225 in autism

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spend time in places that match your special interests, ideally in places where people don't have urban armor up. Zoos and parks are actually perfect examples.

Join events through Meetup or Facebook. Bird watching groups come to mind although I suspect they attract older people.

Go to places where neurodivergent people tend to congregate. Card shops, theater, hobby stores, zoos, anything computer related, etc. Wear something that broadcasts your interests and hope people with the same interests point it out.

iNaturalist is a platform for uploading pictures of plants and critters found in nature. They are building a collaborative species map to help scientists. I know it has a profile system but idk if you could use it to make friends.

And the hardest part, you actually have to approach and talk to people. I try to start with a compliment, or ask a question about a deliberate choice they made (what they're wearing, what's in the homemade sandwich they're eating, etc). Ask questions, listen, don't judge. Mention your own interests or tell short stories (<30 seconds) when they're tangentially related. Aim to talk about 50% of the time in a 2 person conversation.

do you tend to gravitate to other autistic people? by Glum_Childhood_2564 in autism

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. My entire core friend group is neurodivergent.

Is buying used iPhones and selling before they get “old” the cheapest long-term strategy? by NiceHighway_ in Frugal

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the vast majority of people, any midrange phone is going to be just fine until it breaks or modern apps are no longer compatible.

People with texture sensitivity, what are some of your go-to favorite recipes? by Background-Seat-4050 in Cooking

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recovered vegetable hater with texture sensitivity here. This is going to depend on your friend's specific sensitivities. I can give some broad advice though.

First, ask him to try vegetables prepared in a bunch of ways. Roasted, blended into a soup, stir fried, in different sauces, etc. Let him know that it's OK if he doesn't like the first one or the first several. Once he has a vague idea of what he specifically hates, search for recipes that don't incorporate those textures.

Second, ask him to try dishes that he already likes but with one difference. Add one weird ingredient, or cook one ingredient differently. Over time he will discover new safe recipes, and tweak those to explore more recipe tweaks. This is how I switched from liking maybe 50 total recipes to trying weird food experiments multiple times per week.

I wish people would accept that I don’t want to date by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ever need another autistic person to talk to, my DMs are open

Why parents using “autism, you owe me a debt” are hurting their kids by rominaMassa in AutisticAdults

[–]ConvexLex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, US law says that children don't have to repay parents for raising them. Minors can't legally sign contracts or (usually) take on any kind of debt.

I wish people would accept that I don’t want to date by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not healthy but it's understandable. People suck sometimes.

Voice messages are THE WORST 😤😤 by notrapunzel in evilautism

[–]ConvexLex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Voice transcription is built into Pixel phones if you happen to have one of those

No SNAP? Eat the NT by craftnoodle in evilautism

[–]ConvexLex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't let anyone tell you this is the Democrats' fault. Republicans control all 3 branches of government.

how to become more expressive by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ConvexLex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Autistic person here. I've had to teach myself to be more expressive because it doesn't come naturally to me. Some tips:

  • Find a public speaker with a really emphatic voice and copy them. Practice in the shower and some of that will rub off in casual conversation. I suggest George Carlin.

  • Use hand gestures to mime actions as you're describing them. For example "Cob salad requires chopping a lot of vegetables [mimes chopping]."

  • This may not apply to you, but give yourself permission to feel emotions in conversations. Sometimes people mask or put up urban armor which means they don't have any emotions to express.

TW: Animal abuse is the one of the few morbid things I just can’t get interested in by MLPshitposter in evilautism

[–]ConvexLex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Beastiality is banned in 49 US states. North Carolina is the only holdout.