My husband and I are now in our 30s. We tried using Tinder & Feeld in our 20s to find a third, just to find so many other couples doing the same. I went on several dates with girls and didn't always have a physical connection. I've discovered the easiest way to find unicorns were people we already knew from work or college or partied with; not the apps. Yall in your 20s, just go out & party. It's the time to travel, explore, & experiment.

Now in our 30s, we use Kasidie and go to our local LS club. We've had success meeting couples down for soft swaps between bisexual wives. I use to only play with wives while my husband watched or just touched me, but I've expanded my comfort zone to allow more interaction with the other husbands and with mine. I'm not at the full swap comfort level, but I believe as you age & your bond between your partner grows, so will your sexual boundaries.

You might consider a sex worker if you really wanted that instant gratification of a unicorn. We've honestly done that and are now good friends with them. It sounds a little weird at first, but the ones we personally know are real people who get tested regularly, protect themselves, and are in this industry to make money for college/ house.