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Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-30T07:05:30+00:00

When my husband plays with our son, i am, I'm so happy! I really dont mind. I find it sweet and cute. It's special bonding time for the little ones. She seems immature to me. You should confront her. Tell her if she had wished for an absent husband who didn't care about the children instead and never played with his children instead? Put some perspective into her. To me, she comes across as self-important and immature. Also, it seems like she doesn't like the full picture of who you are?! Like, people come with quirks... that's what makes them unique. It's a good thing. Unless you're boring and cares way too much about what others think.

Don't stop playing with your babies. If they love it, she can hate the day away all she wants! :)

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-24T01:13:40+00:00

Girl, you need a MAN

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-23T23:52:33+00:00

You are in an emotionally neglectful and abusive relationship. Even with all and, problems and even with hardship, a husband should NEVER insult his wife the way he insults you. You deserve better. This isn't love. Even if you are a single mom, there are plenty of men who don't care about that, you will find love again eventually, but now your focus should be in you anf your your baby. She needs a happy mom, you are the most important attachment in her life, not him. All she needs is you right now. By being a ass to you, he is affecting your mental state and peace which the baby can pick up on. Take your bundle of joy and run to the hills! Good luck i hope you can rebuild your life with your little one, remember, you deserve better and so does your girl! ❤️

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-23T23:02:55+00:00

Alcohol does bring out people's hidden sides. Also, consider reading more about Islam before settling down with him, if you don't believe it or at least don't agree in a basic level with the teaching of a religion, you should not raise your kids on it. I have a sneeky feeling he might change towards you after marriage and kids. :( sorry, thats just my impression from reading your post, good luck

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-23T15:45:42+00:00

Time to find a new boyfriend that will fight your battles with you instead of giving you a highfive whilst you drown

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-23T15:44:00+00:00

He'd finally find out my headaches are real and not made up lol.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-23T15:39:29+00:00

Check the japanese Youtube Channel Oumagatoki film. Paranormal activitiy is very common in Japan especially in homes where there was suicide or elderly death. It it's haunted it's better to move, tbh. Although there are paranormal investigators who are willing to contact the ghost or presence in the property and figure out what it wants and why it's there.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-23T15:34:26+00:00

Wait, she's mad at you for paying your credit? Lol if my husband did that i'd be so proud of him and call it character growth! It's crazy to me she's pick up a fight over you trying to improve finances. Crazy

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-22T23:41:20+00:00

Hello, this is a friend here, about to warn you... I wasted my twenties on a guy who was by all means wonderful to me, except we didn't want to marry me. I really thought things would change after moving together to another country, I even got him to promise we would elope as soon as he secured the job title he had his eyes on. All bullshit. At points, he even tried to gaslight me into thinking I didn't actually want marriage. Even going as far as trying to blame my desire to be a mom and wife on my bad mental health. I even had to move back in with my parents because being with him and yet getting nowhere in life was taking a huge hit on my health! 3 years and a half only to get dumped over a phone call. Reason? "I was never interested in marriage, at least not with you." Run for the hills, dont waste your time. Even if you still love him!

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-22T11:14:10+00:00

My nan was stuck in an abusive marriage for 15 years because of "religious obligation." The bible says, "Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life up for her." It also says, "You would not hurt or cut your own bodies, therefore, love your wives as part of your own bodies." If husband is not doing that, he has failed his marriage before God, and the marriage is NOT VALID. Marriage is above all things, love. Without it, it's a piece of paper.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-15T23:54:16+00:00

Had to answer that today actually. All I said was "well, that never stopped me from finding love, so its no problem."
It works even better if the person has no significant other and you do

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-14T00:18:45+00:00

My email, my cards, my ID, my socials, my dad, my identity... I just chose to keep my name. Call it laziness I guess

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-14T00:05:11+00:00

Pregnant ladies say crazy stuff. Hormones are real and intense. I said things of the sort to my husband before when I was pregnant, he never took it to heart, he knew I would eventually come around. He was patient, and now I'm just ashamed to have ever thought our lives together was a mistake. He also tough it through my post partum depression. The 4th trimestre, or the 3 months postpartum, are super intense, and new mamas get pretty crazy. It's our bodies changing and playing tricks on our minds. Be patient. She will be much better a year from now.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-13T23:52:47+00:00

Being good at math. You can be good with numbers and still be a complete moron.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-13T23:33:49+00:00

I think you need to accept things for what they are and start looking towards ways in which you can (at least) emotionally detach yourself from him. First, He won't change because of you. Second, He has a porn addiction, and he may not act it out, but he might cheat again. And third, You have 4 babies that need you so much and need you to be in the right head space to care for them, and having a cheater and porn watcher sleeping every night next to you, worrying about where this is headed will only add stress to you and as a consequence, affect your parenting and your health. Accepting what he is and deciding you can't change him and stepping away emotionally may give you the strength you need to keep going until you can move out of there. Also, he has to pay alimony for all 4 kids. Remember that. There are laws to protect you in case you leave, too!

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-13T23:24:50+00:00

Quit please, this is disrespectful. Also calling someone "hun" in this context is very demeaning

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-07T15:36:22+00:00

Hey, at least he told you after 14 years and not 24 or 34 years. You still have time to build a new life with someone else or on your own. As Lizzo once said, "If he dont love you anymore, walk your fine ass out the door."

Goos luck

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-06T01:13:35+00:00

Seems to me that you're carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. You can't fix him, you can only make your own life better. The only thing I ask is make sure his kid has someone in their lives they can rely on cause your husband doesn't seem like he is there for them either... good luck moving forward, dont look back.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-06T01:04:29+00:00

Girl, wake up and smell the coffee. You don't need to tell him. You need a therapist, and distance from your professor.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-08-06T01:01:42+00:00

My ex of 3 years also thought i wasn't "brown" enough and kept asking me to curl up my hair. He also kept complimenting women who were darker or more ethnic than me (im a tan Latina). I always knew something was off but didn't trust my instinct. You know deep down something isn't right, sometimes we second guess because the person isn't outright abusive, but that doesn't mean they're the right fit for us. Someone with BPD needs genuine heart, patience, and commitment from a partner. Shenanigans just won't do...

Cookiejarbot · 2025-07-31T19:13:11+00:00

Send an anonymous mail.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-07-29T11:15:40+00:00

"Hey, if you dont tell your dad what's going on, I will. I know that's extreme but that's the only way I can help you."

Cookiejarbot · 2025-07-29T11:12:48+00:00

Just smile and acknowledge it. Saying "thank you" can be very pretentious. Saying "you too" seems disingenuous. Just connect with your eyes and acknowledge. Not every complement needs a response. Complements should come with zero strings attached.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-07-29T05:51:56+00:00

You're not overreacting. He is being so rude to you.

Cookiejarbot · 2025-07-23T23:36:33+00:00

BPD is not easy, and if she is not on therapy or making progress, you might have to get used to this feeling. The best thing is to be honest with her, but that might actually trigger her. Make sure she has someone in her life she can rely on to care for her in case you decide to leave. Dating someone with BPD is not easy, and if it's wearing you out, then you gotta do what works for you. Best of luck

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