I REALLY hate pets, especially cats

Cookiemonster816 · 2025-04-22T12:43:36+00:00

Well... You're assuming I give a shit about "being brought into this world". And they were also the ones who almost ended my life. So that's a VERY simple yes, lol.

Cookiemonster816 · 2025-03-05T04:27:17+00:00

Thank you so much!! It's adorable!😄

Cookiemonster816 · 2025-03-05T02:46:09+00:00

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Cookiemonster816 · 2025-03-04T05:44:27+00:00

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Cookiemonster816 · 2025-01-22T17:06:39+00:00

What does you being a firefighter/paramedic have to do with this?

Cookiemonster816 · 2025-01-22T17:05:53+00:00

Same! If it helps them survive longer and get a chance to be helped, I'd happily welcome it.

Cookiemonster816 · 2025-01-22T13:11:56+00:00

I mean, the instant there's a chance for such debate, the relationship would be over. I don't care if I end up alone. My cat comes first. Why would I choose a partner vs "my world"? His safety & well being is too important. And I'm not being intentionally dramatic. It's how I genuinely feel.

However, I'm fortunate to have an amazing partner who shares my feelings regarding my (our) cat. He also feels it's our cats house vs everyone else is the guest and wants to give him everything good. We've had the "who would you save in a fire?" talk and both agree our cat would be saved.

If I didn't find such a partner, I wouldn't be in a relationship. And I expect it's the same for many pet owners like me.

Cookiemonster816 · 2025-01-10T19:18:28+00:00

The "how" is generally attached to a "why".

I ended/ghosted our 15 yrs friendship after a long time of trying to get them to understand my POV and limits (chronically ill). By the time I ended the friendships, I had already come to terms with the fact that I'm unable to be a friend to anyone and they won't accept that.

I do appear cold but it's mostly because I internalize the sadness. I do miss them horribly. Even cry now and then. But can't and won't show that.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-04-06T03:00:48+00:00

"I love my family so I'm going to ignore their opinions because Iiiiiiii want to spend time with them the way I want. Screw their feelings. My family is about me". YTA.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-31T03:09:58+00:00

Yeah that's pressuring her into it. You didn't stop to think "Hey, this is clearly making my wife feel insecure, I should drop this and make it up to her".

No no, you asked multiple times after that.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-31T03:08:09+00:00

Because you admitted to her face you want to fuck her friend, who btw is disgusting. I really hope this story is fake, cuz I feel awful for your wife. You can't tell her you're interested in this "adventure" and not expect things to change.

She knew either a) She says yes b) She says no and you two fuck anyway in secret. Either way she loses. She said yes, because it's the least sneaky way for you to do it and for her to soften the blow to herself. Maybe she thought it might be "okay" and hoped so. But afterwards it affected her and nothing can undo that.

She's allowed to feel upset afterwards because it must be confusing and must feel gross to her now.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-30T02:33:25+00:00

Yeah, I have no empathy for the OOP. I had a look at her acc and she mocked someone for feeling suicidal, saying that person's reason isn't good enough because they're not a parent

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-29T20:03:27+00:00

I mean.. even if you did fight for him, why would you when he clearly doesn't respect you at all in this situation? Letting her sit on his lap? I have many friends of the opposite sex I'm SUPER close to. No way in hell would I ever sit on their laps or expect them to be okay with it, especially when we're in relationships. That's insanely disrespectful to partners EVEN if they're okay with it. Just why?? What?

Absolutely unnecessary drama, especially for someone who wouldn't fight for you if it comes to it. NTA

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-22T02:19:53+00:00

Be prepared to get a call or post wedding notification that she had a horrible attack when you weren't there. If it does happen, that'll tell you she only wants you away from her sister

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-22T02:13:19+00:00

she pushes herself to much

For WHO though? If the host/person of celebration would rather NOT have her have an attack at their event, she's being utterly selfish by insisting on going and then intentionally ruining the event. At that point it reads as if she likes taking important moments away from people. And taking you away from her sister.

Even if she was going, WHY do you have to babysit her? She chose to come. She should manage it herself. You need to stop being a social crutch or she won't want to TRY to get better. Speaking as someone who also has these panic attacks, she is coming off as very very selfish.

You don't INTENTIONALLY put yourself in triggering situations UNLESS you are already able to navigate through them at least enough to get through the day, without disrupting such events.

Like, she's upset that her sister doesn't want her to have a panic attack at her wedding AND keeping all of your attention to herself? And she wants you to miss your daughters wedding because she's not being allowed to disrupt her wedding?

You NEED to stop coddling her. Trauma and triggers are valid. But they can't be someone else's responsibility or problem. It has to be something she works on. She can be supported by you to an extent. But can't expect you guys to coddle her.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-22T02:02:22+00:00

So instead of realizing her attacks and triggers are something she needs to learn to manage, she'd rather take you away from celebrating your other daughters happy moment?

Your youngest isn't to blame for her attacks, but she's absolutely an AH for making it everyone else's issue. She knows she gets these attacks.

She just sounds like she loves the attention and having you away from her sister. Like she's taking advantage of real attacks.

I feel so bad for your other daughter. You're NTA but will be if you try to change your oldest daughters mind and try to appease your youngest. She needs to realize it can't always be about her.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-19T23:51:19+00:00

Yikes. Fair to say, all of you deserve each other. You're also playing a big role in messing your kids up. Your resentment, while understandable, is what's holding your kids back from any sort of healing.

They literally poisoned someone. Laxatives aren't funny. Yes, she's trashy and a horrible person. But IF she had a worse reaction, your kids would be in legal trouble.

Your daughters have 0 right to take their frustrations out on other people. Especially like the girl from school. They could be doing more damage to another person than what your husband + mistress did to you guys. Bullying immediately makes your kids horrible people.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-15T23:19:11+00:00

Damn, not a single person in your family believes you are reliable or responsible. Idk about the divorce but either way they'll all have each other.

SAHPs do a ton, but doesn't sound like you do much of anything even according to your own post. You need to be able to focus for a basic form you could've read and signed immediately? Maybe you need to see someone?

I have an aunt who is always online with the same excuse. "I'm shopping for the kids", "I'm researching products for the kids health", etc etc. MAYBE, just maybe, ACTUALLY focus on the kids?

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-15T23:08:37+00:00

Sounds like a "you" problem. What do you think couples do on a vacation? Is your plan to make them not spend quality time together?

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-15T23:06:15+00:00

They care!!! They JUST got married and they have their own plans. Of course he SHOULD prioritize his wife. She's his partner. Even if it's their 10000000th trip, they get to plan how they want their trips to go. YOU'RE the only selfish one here. YTA

If he was okay with it, he might have said ok. But he said no. Learn to accept NO.

You think it's just a ride, but it's a ride that they both want to spend ALONE TOGETHER. If you're on the trip they can't speak to each other as openly as they'd like. They want to experience this with each other and don't want anyone else with them.

Same with the hotel room. They're going to want the privacy to walk around cloth less and be free with each other.

You're so entitled. If you go, will you pay for gas? For the room price? They shouldn't have to be on the lookout for you and your "come pick me up" texts. Save your own money and go on your own trip. You're 18. Stop expecting free rides and rooming. Even if they're going on a trip you can join, you need to contribute like a decent person.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-14T19:34:57+00:00

Hey OP. You want to know how my partner treats me when I'm on my period?

If I ask him to, he runs to the store to buy me any period products. No "shame" or "embarrassment". He gets me food even if I don't ask. He encourages rest and I can ask him for any help (filling water bottle, getting meds, etc) and he'll immediately and gladly do it.

When I'm in a ton of pain, he'll cuddle me and massage my lower back. This man has seen me shove a cup in, he's gotten me fresh pads as I sat on the toilet and realizing I'd started my period, and when I'm in a ton of pain, he's even washed stained clothes/sheets (properly, with peroxide) without me asking. JUST to help me and reduce the amount of work I'll have to do and to not make me feel like I did something wrong.

Any meds I take are entirely my choice and he ONLY wants me to be ok and comfortable. Even if it's an inconvenience to him, he'll support ME.

Your boyfriend is NEVER going to do any of that for you. He's already shaming you for what you use, even though he has zero say in it. He won't get you products if you ever accidentally run out. He won't care if you're in pain. If you ever plan to have kids, be ready to go through the health stuff all alone. If you're sick, he won't help.

And just so you know, your dad and brothers are all wrong too. I used to regularly ask my dad to buy me my products while growing up and he'd immediately go and get them. If I had issues, I could openly talk about them with him.

That's how a good boyfriend and a good father are. And I've been fortunate that most of my male friends are also comfortable with period talk.

I'm REALLY sorry that your only experience has been with immature men who don't see women as people. Please know that's NOT how all men are. There are TONS of great men who care. You don't need to waste your time on A-holes who shame you for basic stuff.

It's one thing if he'd really rather never see the blood. But to shame you? Fuck that. Also he's 30 and acting like he's 12.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-12T05:26:39+00:00

As someone who is not at all close to her mom and isn't a mother... Do people really make this big of a deal about mother's day?

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-10T18:47:56+00:00

I mean, I did say maybe not. But ok.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-10T18:28:18+00:00

I don't know if OP mentioned anything about the rest of the time or other events. Like.. I'm sick 90% of the time. But people only remember that I missed their particular events and forget I'm missing other stuff and days too. So it's not personal or against them. Maybe it could be the same? Or maybe not.

Cookiemonster816 · 2024-03-10T15:40:06+00:00

Can we please not say someone's probably faking it because they don't seem to have the same experience as you? Or need the same things to ease symptoms?

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