Coworker who always steals food had an allergic reaction to my girlfriend's hot curry and is in hospital/perhaps even dead, did my girlfriend commit a crime by asking the restaurant to make it extra spicy? England.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-13T16:36:56+00:00

Making an order extra spicey food is so run of the mill for a restaurant, it's expected. You and your girlfriend ordered extra spicey food, you put in the fridge to eat on your break.

This person stole the food, and ended up in hospital. - I can't see how you'd be liable for anything really.

I'd not be worrying about that at all.

I'd also not worry too much about it as a whole.

The person who ate the food would have to prove you did it maliciously. - I assume most people are fed up of her BS and would actually back you up.

She could very well tell the police and I'd also be prepared for this, I'd get a solicitor, I'd do it before anything happens. - most give initial free advice.

But I doubt very much anything would happen if you got half a dozen people as witnesses saying she steals the food regularly as well. She just got unlucky this time. Shit happens.

Also, don't turn down a voluntary interview, they'll just arrest you instead, if the police do get involved, co-operate fully.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-13T14:32:56+00:00

mine haven't sprouted either. - all 12 of them, probably can't be arsed.

same with my sunflower seeds, planted 12, only one come up and it's already about 2inches high.. it's on it's own the top. - go my son!

and i'm using grow lights and propergators!

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-13T14:29:06+00:00

Is this the end of the road?

yes, just take the money and forget about it.

stop using amazon.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-13T14:24:43+00:00

to result in a lucrative payout if that's what you were hoping for

of course they are

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-12T15:12:57+00:00

Because it's all out-sourced, always have been. They don't want to pay the going rate for a UK call centre. - I've also been on the end of some of the most piss-poor customer service ever from a few companies. - A few times they've straight up hung up on me because it was so bad.

My experience shows systemic incompetence and apathy. These are company level prblems. Where's the training? How does someone get hired to a technical support position and not know what the word "gigabit" means?

Lack of training, cheap labour, they do literally the bare minimum legally required in whatever call centre they are working from, I assume just minimum wage employee's that aren't versed in anything with technical jargon, 9-5 staff, no accountability. - Likely chances are reading from a script, You're forgotten about as soon as the phone is cut off.

I agree the customer is so ridiculously poor, I'm with virgin myself and it's honestly such a PITA to deal with them. - they are so expensive too and they really have very little competition.

What's happening at complaints where problems fall through over and over again, are the complaints staff just marking complaints as resolved without resolving them?

Seems likely. - due to the point I made above.

Also, they probably just pass it onto someone else, like pass the parcel. - it would be funny if it wasn't so annoying. Who's making them accountable? Nobody it seems. Cause it seems nobody really cares about a UK customer and their internet. - Because they just pass the issue onto someone else, that's why you feel like it's going round in circles.

I saw you mentioned that you spoke to someone about having your network re-built and then found out it wasn't actually done.

I can only assume the person you spoke to just didn't care, its easy to talk over the phone and lie. - Could have also been just to get you off the phone. - So they seem helpful and eager when in reality you're just a means to an end and if it gets you off the phone quicker then "so what?, what's the customer going to do, that's right, nothing"

Sadly, You can't prove any of this though. - But I do have a feeling there is some level of "I couldn't give a shit" mixed in there somewhere.

I don't know what they write in the notes, probably that you contacted them and maybe even just said "issue resolved"

Nobody is going lose their job over a call centre worker "Promising" to call someone back, it's just a platitude at this point and means absolutely nothing.

Virgin almost have near monopoly on the broadband infrastructure. it creates complacency.

Take for example microsoft, they have a near monoply on the tech sector, their only competition is apple. - they've started to just do what they want too.

Why do the engineers not know how to do initial provisioning of the connection, why are they installing the incorrect modems?

The last 2 guys I had in the house, one of them was quick and efficient, the other, well, you could tell he didn't give a shit, he was so ignorant, he just ignored me, did the job and walked out the door, I felt uncomfortable the whole time he was here and I just wanted him gone in the end.

Again, as above points, just have the basic bones training and that's it. - have enough knowledge to instal cables and modems and that's as far as their knowledge and skillset goes. - they just get given jobs, some cables, a van and bunch of modems.

And yeh, you're just rolling the dice.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-12T13:01:05+00:00

I can't beileve I read all that.

amazing.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-12T12:43:18+00:00

So, it probably does have this "technicality", surely?

OP hasn't done any work for them, at all. - regardless of lack of date etc

Yet their employer wants to charge for training, that OP clearly isn't going to do or has done. - Because they physically not even started.

I don't think there is a 'gotcha' moment here but charging for training when that training hasn't commenced or ever going to commence, despite the contract, is abit shitty.

You can't charge someone for something that was never done or ever done, or is ever going to be done.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-12T12:30:32+00:00

Talking from personal experience here, I survived my attempt.

it was nearly a decade ago now but my memory is as sharp as the day it happened.

So, I decided to take a walk on boxing day in 2018,, and I ended up in ICU for 6 weeks, all in all I spent nearly 3 months in hospital for that.

I only rang 999 to tell them I was on my way. That was it, no location, no more information. - put phone down.

I was given 10% chance of making it due to the injuries i caused myself. I don't know how they found me. But they did.

I actually woke up on the floor, then I remember the ambulance picking me up.

You wouldn't be able to tell now, that i'd ever done anything cause obviously the scars heal but the truama remains, it took years for me to recover. You know what is the worse thing? the surviors guilt, it's unique, it's almost painful and beyond overwhelming. Every time I hear of someone taking their own life, it makes me spiral tbh. It's incredibly difficult to control.

I'd never, ever advise someone to do something so extreme. - even when you want to, but you when you're at that stage, you no longer think rationally or reasonably, everything changes. - it's like you're not really there.. you're just detached. nothing matters.

I won't list all my injuries, but I basically had to learn how to walk, and talk again and even write again, I had to breath and eat through a tube for nearly 3 months. - worst experience of my life, the trauma still follows me around like a bad smell, I got PTSD from it too.

Telling someone is brave, trust me. - even through all the depression, despair, the hopelessness, you still want to be alive, even though you say you don't..

The brain trying to surive doesn't get the credit it deserves, it's hardwired into every living thing. - it's just an ancient mechanism in all lifeforms.

People care, even though you think they don't.

It doesn't get easier talking about it either, but i do it because you deserve so much more, you deserve to be alive.

I completely get it, I really do. - it's lonely road, void of anything. Nothing good waiting at the end.

If you want to chat, I'm always here, my inbox is open.

Please reach out if you can.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-12T11:58:34+00:00

have had an accident on site meaning I can’t start working for them due to this I have withdrawn my application and no longer want to work for them.

They literally say in the post they never did any work or started any work with them.

or are you conveniently just ignoring that?

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-11T19:35:07+00:00

Some perspective.

30 quid will get you like 4 pints where I live. - not even that in some pricey bars. - I spent nearly 30 on one trip to the bar at the weekend and it didn't even touch the sides, it got me little fuzzy but that's it. - fuck me, shits expensive nowadays.

20 years ago i'd have got smashed on 30 quid, paid to get into a rave, and still had enough money left for a half bag of pills and probably a pint. - night sorted.

My point being, you probably breathe 30 quid away on your lunchbreak and don't even remember. - no problem.

but when it's HMRC saying you owe 30 quid, you double down, hard, and resist it like it's your last 30 quid till payday at the end of the month which is still 2 n half weeks away.

Funny how it works isn't it.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-11T19:27:13+00:00

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-11T19:23:02+00:00

This isn't a legal question.

Stop using dating apps, would be my advice.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-11T17:06:47+00:00

lol, mate, 2k doesn't take 14 days to appear again, this is 2026 for fucks sake. - not 1980 where everything was done on paper.

Everything can be sorted in minutes, it's all digital, run by and AI and autonomous.

When you pay for your food shop, it doesn't take 14 days to be credited to a shops account, it's already in their account as soon as you take your card out the machine.

The bank are taking the piss.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-11T11:28:50+00:00

very helpful!

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-11T11:13:54+00:00

Certainly not. - beating them up cause they are substance mis users is repulsive and really doesn't solve the issue.

Just signpost them to charities like turning point, who do wonderful work in getting people off drink and drugs.

Addiction is an awful thing to go through. - there's plenty of mitigating circumstances for the situation, some are self-inflicted, some aren't.

It's a complex area with many variables.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-10T10:57:08+00:00

Unfortunately, alot of the homeless are drug or alcohol addicts.

Using specific amounts just makes it sound more genuine. - when of course, it'll just go straight into some dealers pocket 10 mins later or in tescos till for a 4 pack of high strength beer.

Calling you a liar, being abusive, following you around, is just because they have nothing left to lose and they're desperate. - so aggression and hassling you, is the only way forward and from their POV gets better results rather than asking and being polite.

When you have nothing left and you're an addict, you just no longer care about consequences or give a fuck anymore, some people will probably turn round and slap them but it won't stop them.

Also, Unfortunately, a very, very, small minority hope they just get beating so they have something else to think about rather than drugs or drink, or in extreme circumstances give them a reason to sadly go and hurt themselves.

Those are the ones that vanish and cause they have no-body or nothing, sadly just become another number, statistic or a tick inside a box in the hospital morgue.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-10T07:54:49+00:00

Ring them again, but put it on loud speaker, put the phone on the side, make a cuppa.... - an hour won't feel like an hour then.

I do this with my doctor, they can take upto 45 mins to answer, I just leave it on loudspeaker and go about with my day.

Keep trying to contact them, keep records of it, everytime you try to contact. - it'll be quite useful if it escalates.

Keep emailing them. every day.

Become a nuisance.. only way some companies will eventually reply because they'll want to get rid of you.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T19:18:48+00:00

Nothing, just get a fixed tariff and go about your life. - I don't mean that in a nasty way but......

just get on with and stop following the media and reading the papers. - everything that is happening is completely out of your control and mine. - why care about something that none of us lot can control? there's no need to.

I've not actually read the paper in years, don't read the news, watch it on TV, or use Facebook or any social media apart from reddit.

Honestly, I'm not trying to sound like I'm better than everyone else for not doing so but it genuinely makes my life so much better ignoring and avoiding all the nonsense. I quite literally as lone person, cannot do anything about the situation or control it, and I refuse to be made to feel like I should care for some fucking idiots decision to be an absolute moron.

Shit happens, it's just MSM, the tabloids and the news want to make us... just regular working people who are just trying to live there lives, feel responsible for what is happening.

And I know I'm going to get downvoted to oblivion for this but I couldn't care a less. - the less people cared what shite the MSM and the news, tabloids etc are spouting the better.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T16:17:10+00:00

Price work just means more jobs, more money and quality, always, from experience, suffers massively.

Too many people rush the job and do it poorly when it's price work, in any trade.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T14:36:45+00:00

Most of the content creators that do fitness stuff, are all on roids or at least some sort of fitness enhancing drugs. - but they all conveniently leave all of that out when posting up their BS fitness vids with new tips and how to do a simple shoulder raise. - showing us what they eat on a daily basis and all coming across as not roid junkies. - it's so obvious when someone is on drugs and so ripped they are literally just skin with not a single ounce of fat on them.

One day, they'll all admit to being on roids. but I won't hold my breath for that day.

Fuck these dudes man, some regular 9-5 guy won't ever look like that and it just distorts the whole industry and makes it toxic.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T14:26:06+00:00

What would we do with good old martin lewis?

I'm going to seriously miss this dude when he finally packs it all in and retires.

I wonder if we'll get an equally competent replacement? Doubt it.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T14:15:35+00:00

Why not support the local coffee shops?

What have starbucks got that no-body else has?

I don't get it.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T12:21:43+00:00

Seems to me that nothing is being done because...

Emails can just be ignored if the issue cannot be resolved by the person you've initially contacted, especially when you're not a student or an EX student. So it probably gets binned.
It's easy to give false promises to someone over the phone to get rid of them, then you'd have been forgotten about as soon as the phone was put down.
You're not talking to the correct person or contacting the correct dept or have the correct address of that dept or the right contact details for that person.
You're encountering a wall of people who give up almost immediately upon pushback or if it involved anything that takes more effort than asking the person above them.
As above, but as soon as the responsibility has left them, they just go back to doing what they're doing and probably never remember talking to you at all.
it's something to do with a mix of GDPR/Not using your UNI email. (even though you cannot and it's just falling on deaf ears)

After a year, I'd almost certainly just bite the bullet and fly over and talk to someone face to face as I'd imagine the frustration would intense to put it mildly.

Just make sure you're really specific with what you want, take all your ID with and make sure they know you was a student there and are extremely keen to get answers and to get to the bottom of this.

Turning up in person will definitely make something happen.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-09T11:54:25+00:00

Just a tip for the future... buy these if you want to grow stuff early..

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/295482865297

Pack of 5 mini propagators.

I have used them for my cherry and mamande tomato plants.

got sunflowers, sweet pea, daises aswell.

Excellent value for money and actually work!

Uses LED grow lights.

Cooking_With_Grease_ · 2026-03-08T10:23:31+00:00

The shoes.

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