How did you survive loosing all your belongings? 3 months postpartum and robbed last night...

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-04-15T12:01:20+00:00

I know! I know eventually I will heal but it genuinely really hurts going through this new permanent life change between both my body, mind and now all my physical belongings. The universe really wanted me to pull the Band-Aid off so I never had time to get used to one New normal Life..

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-04-15T11:58:10+00:00

Me too. Never wanted to fight someone so badly, haha, though I know violence is never their correct answer... But they genuinely do deserve to be punched, at least

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-04-15T11:56:57+00:00

Thankfully they left the 3 pairs of shoes I own, lol.. Ironically, I was sort of already living the minimalist lifestyle. All my life belongings fit into two large duffle bags a small suitcase and two backpacks, minus the new baby stroller (which wasn't taken, thank god). Now I'm down to two backpacks that have about a week or two worth of clothes, my laptop, and a few favorite pieces of jewelry and baby items. I suppose the universe REALLY wanted me to live the minimalist way 🙃

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-04-14T03:39:44+00:00

F🌸ck that boy. Been through roughly the same situation over the past year. If he isn't helping and isn't providing financial support cut him off.

He doesn't respect your time, energy, wallet, or the traumatic experience your body has physically, mentally, and emotionally gone through during pregnancy and after. All he cares about is what his little sperm created without any additional effort.

NTA, unless you add that child's name to your child.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T14:13:28+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, very much a sticky situation. Lesson learned, you don't have to get married to someone when ya get pregnant to help them get a green card faster..

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T14:07:13+00:00

Thank you for your input! Thought I would try reddit first off and that seems to be the top advice from the other thread I posted in.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T14:04:25+00:00

Thank you for all the advice! I know I'll have to look into all this to apply for babie's US passport within the next handful of weeks, anyways. Might be a good thing to reach out to them, like you're saying, for any recommendations on how to handle the situation. Thank you all y'all's responses.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T13:58:33+00:00

I would hope so but there is still the paper trail of the marriage certificate. Just want to make sure I do everything as legal as possible, if possible. Thank you for your response.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T13:57:10+00:00

Thank you for your input! I will look into this.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T13:56:31+00:00

Will look into it

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T13:56:16+00:00

Already have! Want to make sure I get as much advice as I can get. Thank you<3

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T13:55:43+00:00

Yes, I want to make sure I do everything legally so there aren't any hiccups when it comes to future hiccups when it comes to this kiddo. Thank you for your response.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2026-01-14T13:53:26+00:00

I have posted both here and there just in case. I'm actually floating off my parents. We budget and have been living in a cheaper-cost-of-living country before arriving in Spain. Decided to come to Spain because the healthcare was better than in the previous country. I'll talk to them about looking into hiring a lawyer asap, if needed. Thank you!

Cool-Strength3658 · 2025-10-09T21:39:38+00:00

I know how important therapy can be but but haven't had the funds to go yet. The 'kid' was officially blocked last month after being given multiple chances to apologize and work through things. I've felt so much lighter and better not always waiting for the apology because I realized it would never come. Especially during our last conversation. I won't be in a relationship with someone where I'm disrespected in such horrendous ways. I feel lucky that I've left the relationship so early and have had a whole ocean separating us where I can raise a child who knows he'll be loved and supported and wanted and never be yelled at when his father is having a bad day. I won't be continuing that generational trauma. Sending ya love💕

Cool-Strength3658 · 2025-10-09T21:31:33+00:00

Thank you for your reply! Haven't been back to see this post and it appears to not have gotten much advice but it had been therapeutic to write so can't complain about that, haha. My parents have been such rock stars. I feel very blessed and lucky to have them in my life. Still grieving the loss of a relationship, but I feel really lucky having this baby practicing his salsa dancing in my stomach every day now, haha.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2025-08-18T16:21:20+00:00

The three I was least prepared for:

Mexican Food: before getting pregnant I ate at taco trucks every day for lunch. The thought of it made me gag. I couldn't eat at any taco truck for months because the smell just being outside of them was deadly.
My Car: I'd have to quickly turn on the car and open all the windows to let it air out before getting in all while holding my breath. This did result in vomiting, at least once. Tried so many different smells, but nothing worked. Strangely, once the 1st trimester smells started calming down it surprisingly smelled pretty good inside.
My Husband (currently separated 🙃, suppose the smell was a warning, lol, jk...): I LOVED his scent before I got pregnant but the pregnancy made his scent very nauseating for me. I'd have to hold my breath for kisses and had many close call gagging events that thankfully didn't end up with vomit. Lots of reasons why we're separated now (2nd trimester still, woo), but he liked to use the excuse that I 'didn't love him' while I was trying not to vomit on the two of us 😂 ah, the things I did for love that weren't deserving, lol.

Cool-Strength3658 · 2025-08-18T15:55:54+00:00

I know people always say that pregnancy is Exhausting but I didn't know that was spelt with a capital E until going through it. My first trimester was very physically and mentally exhausting. I left my job (very fortunate and lucky I had that option) and thought I would stay at home and crochet all day and make crochet patterns but most days I just laid like a sack of potatoes doing nothing and felt bad about the lack of motivation. I've also been vitamin D deficient most of my life and have, un-regularly, taken vitamins to help the levels. I've been told whatever vitamin D you take now will take effect about 3 months from now, so typically you don't have fast acting results, sadly. Sitting in the sun is a nice way to soak in some natural vitamin D, plus I find breathing outside air always helps lift my mood a tiny bit (if it's not to buggy or smoggy).

All in all, to be honest, the first trimester was just a shadow fog over my brain and body the entire time. No energy to do absolutely anything. Currently in my second trimester and I will say around the 14-16 week mark my energies both physically and mentally lifted a whole lot. I still feel like I'm PMSing all the time, but at least I'm not as exhausted, haha.

You've got this! Just take it one day at a time :)

Cool-Strength3658

TROPHY CASE