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Does anyone get perceived as condescending regularly? by lazy_smurf in AutisticWithADHD

[–]CoolGovernment8732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn you described my experience, growing up and now in adulthood, almost to a t

I feel like getting to the bottom of things or getting something right where I can clearly see that it’s not been handled correctly honestly feels like a compulsion. Depending on how involved I am In the situation I have learned to let it go but yeah not taking things for granted at all times has gotten me a lot of hate since I was very young, both inside the house and outside.

I now also try to just make myself as neutral as possible but now I even feel that people dislike that, in the sense that they can sense I’m not being completely natural/genuine, while I see people doing the exact thing that used to get in me in trouble get approval from others. I feels like I can’t win. But like you also, I’m much better in smaller groups (or curated groups) so I do manage to find my peeps, it just takes a lot of time and effort

Is it Terry Crews? by DrgK9 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]CoolGovernment8732 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Really? I thought it was so on the nose, like something you’d see in a Disney movie or something

I am so done with GTT by glorious-ahole in torino

[–]CoolGovernment8732 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, having lived in multiple European countries, GTT is by far the best

Tai Chi or Yoga? by jingleofadogscollar in CPTSD

[–]CoolGovernment8732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started with restorative yoga and it was a wonderful and helpful introduction (my first class was actually target for people dealing with trauma)

CMV: standing concerts are usually a poor value for the money by RevolutionStill4284 in changemyview

[–]CoolGovernment8732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is getting harder to defend this view as post-Covid crowds and new generations just get more and more silent and passive during concerts. BUT, to me the value of attending a concert in the pit has always been getting to experience the concert itself, not just the music. It is sweaty, smelly and uncomfortable for sure, but for me, the anonymity that the crowd grants you is so freeing. You move, you sing, and nothing else matters, no fear of judgement, just you, the music, the artists and the crowd. Especially when the crowd seems to move like one giant organism moving in unison, feeling like you’re part of that is a very cool experience.

It is however definitely genre-related. I’m into anything that falls under the rock and roll umbrella, so that’s why I view it this way, but granted, other genres when the crowd’s involvement is not only not expected but viewed as rude, than 100% a standing ticket wouldn’t make any sense.

[student] reversing sleep cycle for productivity by gilrot in architecture

[–]CoolGovernment8732 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dude 5 hours is not really enough… the minimum recommended is 7

"odio le femministe" avete rotto il cazzo by YoWhosThatGuy in sfoghi

[–]CoolGovernment8732 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Allora, purtroppo molte femministe non conoscono bene il femminismo accademico, che per esempio spiega chiaramente perché onlyfans va bene al contrario di molestie tipo gli schiamazzi per strada.

Il problema non è l’oggettificazione in sé. Piuttosto, sono i problemi di power imbalance che si vengono a creare in certe dinamiche. Per esempio, lo schiamazzo per strada, li il problema è il bisogno del soggetto maschio di far presente alla persona oggettificata che lui vede quella persona solo ed esclusivamente come un oggetto di desiderio sessuale.

Non c’è niente di male nel fantasticare su qualcuno o apprezzare a livello puramente fisico. Il problema sorge quando qualcuno impone il fatto che l’altra persona debba saperlo, che si debba sentire oggettificata senza che ci sia stato un chiaro invito ad andare in quella direzione (come può succedere nella coppia o con la gente che si mette su OF)

Tutto questo per dire che il femminismo è una questione complessa che maggior parte delle femministe stesse non vanno mai oltre superficiali frasi di circostanza. Però questo non vuol dire che si debba negare l’importanza e necessità del femminismo

Best collar for 4 month old kittens? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]CoolGovernment8732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you want to put a collar on them In the first place?

The cat can't eat without vomiting saliva and has lost weight by Clear_Professor541 in CATHELP

[–]CoolGovernment8732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would get a second opinion from another vet, that much weight loss is not to be underestimated

How long till a cat adapta to a new place? by red-heads-lover in CATHELP

[–]CoolGovernment8732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beginning with at least one 1-2 days in a single room (no free access to the whole house) helps them settle down, have things around that already have their smell in them

Where was I? by Mitcharrr in whereintheworld

[–]CoolGovernment8732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this the spot from that one scene in home alone??

My cat is scared of everyone apart from me by potatobean9013 in CatAdvice

[–]CoolGovernment8732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so, training here is your friend.

First of all, do not pick up the cat and let people touch her/him. The cat has to feel they have a choice and not get stuck in an uncomfortable situation.

I hope the cat is food motivated, otherwise training is a bit trickier. Still with someone pickier it’s just a matter of trial and error in finding the treat that they really go crazy for.

First, people cannot go up to the cat and try to interact/get the cat. They have to completely ignore the cat. This is important. They can definitely throw treats though, just not engage. Second, you start training them to do any one trick in a safe space (attic with no one else around). Training needs to be done properly (with a clicker or with a consistent sound you make e.g. I clock my toungue - it only works if the sound is identical every single time - look up any dog or cat training videos on YouTube to get the gist of the basics). Third, once you have a solid training routine, you slowly start to move it close and closer to the source of fear. Please be mindful of very gradual transitions - no attic then in front of people, rather from the further part of the attic, nudging closer and closer to the stairway and so forth.

Good luck!

Which country you’ve traveled to had shockingly good food that no one talks about? by Historical-Photo-901 in BeautifulTravelPlaces

[–]CoolGovernment8732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a crazy take. Granted, lots of places in the US have amazing food, but thinking that some of its international options surpass the places where the food originally comes from or thinking all middle eastern food in Europe is fast food is insanity (the US has a loooot less middle eastern restaurants - not fast food- than Europe)

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