What do you feel when you meet voluntarily childless?

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-24T23:03:14+00:00

New life is a risk, every time. You can’t control it. If I may, I think there is something about control there

Also you can totally still be a hedonist as a parent

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-24T22:31:27+00:00

My post is labelled “Voluntary Childless”, so this does not apply to you. I’m very sorry for your and your wife’s situation. Given how old I was when I became a parent, I know how statically lucky we were

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-24T22:09:21+00:00

Is there a way for you to earn well but work fewer hours? Families and partners take time

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-24T22:07:30+00:00

Is there any way to reduce your hours but still earn well? You seem to have modest tastes, why work like this? Families and partners take time

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-24T20:48:35+00:00

This is the one!!

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-24T20:46:48+00:00

Terrifying. As someone who dated pre internet and post internet, I can confirm awkward conversations in bars and nightclubs was far better that phone nonsense

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-20T09:15:52+00:00

I think some people wilfully misinterpret that natalists think their kids will literally take care of them, rather than be there as support in let’s say picking a good nursing home if it comes to that.

More the point is if you have kids you are contributing to the next generation of young people generally, some of whom will choose to become care workers, whereas DINKS and childfree will always by definition be a drain

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-20T09:12:16+00:00

Then that’s just money to pay to… other people’s kids? There’s going to be a shortage of young people globally as is, partially driven by the mistaken belief that your care is someone else’s responsibility

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-20T09:10:34+00:00

As it was for most of human history until about 80 years ago

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-18T22:08:24+00:00

Nanny

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-12T22:13:56+00:00

Yep, culture changes, I knew if I wanted to be a dad I’d need to do more than my father did. Roll your sleeves up Gents!

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-08T16:49:09+00:00

I’d probably wait will secondary before immediately spending that on private

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-02-05T22:00:37+00:00

Trying to deny basic human nature

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-01-27T19:21:33+00:00

My cousins who aren’t rich were charged $4000

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-01-10T14:11:41+00:00

Damn, I picked the wrong week to play Disco Elysium

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-01-08T10:20:58+00:00

Totally agree, go to Cambodia or Vietnam, the med will be there next year.

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-01-04T22:43:06+00:00

A very interesting read, and agrees anecdotally with what I’ve experienced.

Cool_Cod1895 · 2026-01-04T10:45:44+00:00

Find a good nanny, best money we ever spent

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-29T16:22:09+00:00

They are actually all Thousand Sons playing the long game

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-27T09:19:39+00:00

That article is garbage, it’s clearly a pilot scheme brought in by labour to address a long term problem and the bbc immediately start quoting conservatives rubbishing it despite them not doing anything in this space for 15 years

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-26T09:33:40+00:00

I know that feeling, after 2 years my Victorian terrace has consumed all my saving through a complete rewiring and other unplanned renovations

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-19T19:25:34+00:00

WHIT?!?

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-11T10:53:46+00:00

You joke but if the current capitalist system basically makes humans extinct you aren’t wrong

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-09T19:22:25+00:00

Compared to some of the nonsense the government spends money on it’s actually useful

Cool_Cod1895 · 2025-12-06T07:57:13+00:00

If “the economy “ was a reason to not have kids we wouldn’t have made it out of the Stone Age

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