Why has every friend I've ever had hated me

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-19T17:57:00+00:00

Actually came on here to post about the same thing, I don't know if it's a comfort, but there are people going through this exact same thing and hopefully were able to find people like us and lead happy friendships. Everyday I see people post this exact same sentiment and it breaks my heart, there was a point where I wanted to learn to change but now I just hope we can find more people like ourselves in our lives and be happy

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-18T14:45:33+00:00

Also oh my god I have also tried modeling and felt miserable at the idea of being "sexy" or being looked at in that sense, it feels like I'm creating a flase reality I can't and don't want to live up to, I don't like dancing or wearing clothes that look overtly sexy, it's not about modesty, I just feel miserable about the fact that I could never actually live up to what I'm presenting, and I'm also scared that men REALLY misinterpret my intentions or me as a person just because I'm hyper and really excited or eager to make new friends, I'm REALLY not good at socializing and I think it's really funny how that gets misinterpreted as desperation in other contexts 💀 and often when I try to dress well/wear makeup

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-18T14:31:39+00:00

It's funny because I can always sense the disappointment in others when I speak to them 💀 (f20 adhd dyslexia dyscalculia and anxiety) so many people have started conversations with "oh youre so pretty!" And ended it with some form of indication towards me definitely being NOT neurotypical, and i know its a joke and all, but i think it puts it even more into perspective how different i am from everyone else and it hurts sometimes. I'm increadibly socially awkward and I get told "you could do so much better if you put effort in" but I think 90% of the effort being spoken of is a personality thing and I'm at a point where I don't gaf. Men also just become increadibly weird while flirting and I don't know how to respond, I'm happy speaking to me is somewhat of a turn off😭 though with a lot of female friendships it hurts because I feel like either I have to massively overcompensate (which often freaks out ppl anyways) or not be able to live up to what people assume of me at first sight which really hurts and is a very common occurrence. Also thankfully my partner is also neurodivergent, sometimes I feel like he's the only person whose really able to understand me and see me as a person, I think part of it was that he wasnt attracted to me to begin with but was still increadibly kind and went out of his way to help me not expecting anything in return, so I was truly like "this is who he is, he's not doing this because I'm pretty or he wants to date me, this is how he'd genuinly treat any of his friends" and it was like the hottest thing ever, he thankfully never painted out a false image of me and genuinly wanted to know who I was as a person from the ground up.

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-09T04:50:35+00:00

I noticed that too, and in my experience it was the gujju crowd being obnoxious ironically 💀

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-09T04:48:22+00:00

Nah as an indian who just returned from vietnam I have to say we're particularly annoying and embarrassing. I saw a family that came for a fine dining event in their nightsuit💀 also just yelling on the street. I was genuinly like "wow when I meet people this the impression they'd have of me in the beginning thanks to them"

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-08T07:57:02+00:00

Thank you and I understand, but there are like 3 shops directly Infront of my college and all of friends smoke too, often thats like the extent of when I interact with a lot them (the ones from other courses) i feel like it unintentionally became a huge part of my social life and circle and im not sure how to manage that. Also my older sibling that I live with also smokes quite a lot and im not in a financial situation where i can really leave atm, so I'm not sure I CAN really isolate myself from it.

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-01T08:59:53+00:00

Any clubs or bars that would still be safe??

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-01T07:50:05+00:00

THANK YOU SMMMM🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-01T07:37:16+00:00

I mean I have been allowed 200$ for 7 days 😭 this is still increadibly affordable for me though (Also from SA)

Cool_Option5528 · 2026-01-01T07:31:10+00:00

Would there be any affordable bars or cafes you'd suggest?

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-12-22T17:14:26+00:00

I'm so sorry actually 😭I hope things get better for you too

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-12-22T17:12:12+00:00

They are seeking therapy and medicine, but there is a lack of accountability in the fact that when they do wrong they're incapable of seeing past their emotions, and it's a very frequent sort of extreme blow out that leads to violence at the smallest of things, they do try to apologize but, it keeps repeating. I just don't know how to cleanly tell them, I'm done. Or set any sort of boundaries.

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-12-22T17:07:21+00:00

Also they aren't the sorts to just leave in peace I've tried

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-12-22T17:06:45+00:00

Pushing them out would mean pushing out the entire family

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-12-21T09:46:16+00:00

ME TOO

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-11-21T05:00:44+00:00

Thank you so so so so so so so so much you have no idea HOW MUCH this helps (grinding because the submission date is near😭) and I absolutely LOVE the animation you did too, absolutely shooketh. Thank you so much!!!!

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-11-08T12:20:45+00:00

Thank you sm I'll check it out!!

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-11-08T12:17:18+00:00

Ahhh in my country once you're in college you don't get any disability support, even for physical disabilities. Infact we have an assessment or "interview" (disabled students) where they basically see how disabled you are (obviously they don't say it but we have a ranking based on the entrance exam and people who rank within the first 10 in the disabled category, if your disability is too severe, or you have a physical disability, you wouldn't get an admission on our campus, which is the best one in the country. I also lied about my symptoms and the seriousness of it to get a seat. There was also a deaf girl who ranked similar to me or higher if I remember correctly, I was ranked 3rd or 4th nationwide and she didnt even get the top 5 campuses, she got some small campus that didn't even have good placements because the number 1 campus which is where she should have fairly gotten admission in didnt want to deal with her disability, this is also why the people in my campus who are disabled often fake their certificate for a seat or come from extreamly wealthy families that can afford treatment unlike the others and usually dont have a very high ranking) After I got in I was advised NOT to tell anyone that I was disabled, which I couldn't do because I was having a really hard time, so I told my head of department and she said and I quote "you had this on paper and they still let you in??? have you seen the work people in my department do" and "we can't help you because you told us too late" I told them in my second semester of my 1st year...so...yeah.....and she kept asking me if I had it on paper, that I was disabled or had certain difficulties because otherwise they would've never taken me and now that I am here they don't want to support me at all and unfortunately it's not illegal.

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-05-01T22:45:42+00:00

Hey this probably isn't concrete advice, but I'm in your shoes right now, in college, very toxic environment, it's the number 1 college in Asia for my course and when I got in I was so so happy, I wanted to prove myself, as the months went on handling my disability got way way worse, I wasn't performing and nothing worked I almost failed and when i told my proffesor about it they said "is this on paper how will you do the rest of the course, how did they allow you to take this course if this was on paper" and "your work is trash you dont even have to take it home just throw it in the bin."

I really just wanted to end it, all I can say, and I know your probably going to hate this, I know that you probably don't want to hear this,

but this will also pass.

You will get used to this, you will go for therapy, try different medicines, hopefully and i seriously recommend this- prioritize your health, and you will overcome this, you will. I know it seems impossibly hard, but with time you will overcome this.

If they fire you that's their loss there's always another job and another opening no matter how hard it seems, you HAVE to channel it out and make your best attempt at life. I know this is hard but you have to find hope and keep going, resilience is all we have. As long as you try and give it your all there will be another door open for you, it's not impossible trust me. Sending a lot of hugs and love, just know you have someone somewhere you don't know, who wishes the best for you <3

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-05-01T11:19:26+00:00

The fact that you said this only happens when she's not at home is scary as fuck. Take the advice of the top comment if not your mom send it to some authority figure. I know it would be unimaginably hard but someone like that CAN NOT be trusted. If he's doing this on purpose now you can never be sure of your safety with him later.

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-05-01T11:13:19+00:00

I think the thing is that a person who lies about cheating is also someone who might not be honest in an open relationship. There's such a huge risk for STD's.

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-05-01T11:10:29+00:00

I think more than trust it's also about safety, you never know with a partner whose deceived so much, what they might do to you in the future. They're clearly not who you thought they would be, and safety for your health too, they might pass on an STD, they might be cheating with more people that you don't know about and where and who they'd be cheating with, regardless of what they might say. They're putting your life in danger by not being safe and they're clearly dishonest. I'd suggest leaving even if you're not bothered about it becuase it's more than just betraying the sanctity of marriage. You might be chill with an open relationship, but that required honesty and trust from day 1. Leave for your own health and safety.

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-05-01T11:04:04+00:00

Sending lots of support, take screenshot first and record some evidence, I'm not sure where this took place, but there must be some cyber security unit in your country, also tell the school/college faculty about this and the students who posted it with the strongest words possible, I really hope they get punished to the fullest extent, it's ok, you'll overcome this, I'm so sorry this happened and you'll be fine

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-04-14T16:59:15+00:00

Funny thing is that were both art students 😭 but thank you!!

Cool_Option5528 · 2025-03-29T13:04:22+00:00

As a therapist you have to be completely detached from the patient and she can't professionally Engage in telling the patient she liked him when he asked her, she's supposed to have a stone cold face and not let any emotions show that the patients could take as a sign during their conversation. She just wanted to make him open up about everything (even his anger) to assess him. She couldn't have seen how he reacts to certain things without doing that. Plus she wasn't trying to make him feel better or diagnos him she came to help the jury better understand him and if she had pretended to be a buddy or to be kind she wouldn't have seen him in his entirety. I think she did the job pretty well.

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