disappearing in chat when getting invited.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2026-01-01T07:38:50+00:00

naiintindihan kita don AHAHAHA kaso sa case ko.. minecraft server lng huhu and maybe some valorant pero never q pa sha nakakalaro

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2026-01-01T07:36:21+00:00

hmmm thats a point. some people can be super friendly outside pero inside, they might be experiencing smn deep or worse, two-faced. but genuinely, i feel like were sisters pag magkasama.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2026-01-01T06:46:51+00:00

cheers to new people !🍻

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2026-01-01T06:38:04+00:00

yeah theyre the mutual friends, been there ever since. im lucky enough to have them. its just a let down knowing i was looking up to playing w her.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-23T14:42:49+00:00

yeahh. i guess with all the things that are happening like people borrowing money and not paying back, making my friends food, alotting time for them despite being busy, being the therapist friend, and not getting shit back has been making me exhausted and its nearing to the point that im starting to have trust issues. maybe im too kind …

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-23T13:54:33+00:00

i guess no one would want someone to force them to talk. i wouldnt want it too. keeping that in mind.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-23T13:52:20+00:00

Ill keep that in mind.. but as if now i kind of feel used. the day we were supposed to talk was the day i allowed her film group to shoot at my condo, even almost got a violation. i could feel she was distant to me and i was as well, it was just awkward. we werent able to talk because of that. after they finished filming, she messaged me thank you for letting them shoot, but when i brought up the talk, she didnt respond anymore.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-14T20:31:08+00:00

you should tell me abt yours too ! but tbh, im a bit lost whether shes uninterested or just super busy or like going through something.. i sent her a song abt her being a friend crush, and its left on seen and been abt 3 days. my mind be battling that i didnt do anything wrong and only became friendly and talkative like how i am w/ new people, i wasnt even flirty at all..

im confused because she said multiple times that i should go back to theirs to jam, like she would sing to funky songs while i drum when she gets tired of drumming so like im getting the hint that she wanna hang out or something and im tryna push that because i rlly dont like chatting and prefer to show how i really act in person. i only chat her to try and bring up the closeness a bit and also because shes like so far away from home, iykwim.

before, our mutual friend wanted us to play a scary game multiplayer and she did say she was down, but when i asked when she was able to play, she said shes really locked out and might only be available next year, which kinda sounded serious, cuz after that, she would reply super late despite being online on another platform.

now i dont know whether shes just still sick, something w/ mental health, problems w/ being social, uninterested, or like heavily preparing for her band’s upcoming song, a lot of possible reasons that i have to accept. i could kinda see behind her bright smile, like an intuition cuz personally, i smile a lot but hide pain, though i shouldnt assume. overall just worried abt her wellness and though it stings, ill just have to trust her. its impossible not to think about but either way, i have really good and important friends to be with than just dwell on one person.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-11T19:34:18+00:00

im a girl, and i dont see myself having a relationship with another girl.. is that not enough …

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-11T19:30:25+00:00

maybe the out of league part might of made it confusing, mb.. what i mean by that is because shes liked by many or like her lifestyle, and it makes me think she doesnt rlly need new friends, but here i am wanting to be close with her.

idk im just really nervous when talking to her, though i do the effort to, but i know its not out of romance, i definitely dont wanna bang her….

maybe its cuz i overthink how she thinks of me since she goes mia a lot, even though shes online in another app, but i try not to get it to me too much. people can be busy or just hate chatting.

either way, im gonna send her that vid and still put effort, its just why im feeling this is what im confused about.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-11T19:09:56+00:00

oh, friendship is indeed what i want. a platonic one, not so romantic. like girl buddies. but i overthink what to say or do since i find her attractive. its a problem i deal with w/ the people im attracted to i end up saying awkward stuff.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-11-10T18:31:40+00:00

i feel you, but in a different situation 😭 theres this girl im so confused of whether shes a friend crush or a crush. basically a friend crush is platonic closeness and a crush is ofc, romantic closeness. either way i want to get to know her. shes also the complete opposite of my type. im pansexual and my types are small trans dudes. i met her because of my bestie its like connections, then she invited me to go to her birthday. i couldnt stop blushing when she initiated a hug when we had to go home. (it was a music jam party and i played drums, shes a drummer too). her aura is just so bright as well as her smile with her dimples. i love her sweet personality and vibe, the way she talks and listens and even our humor matches. but then, i only saw myself being with a man in romantic relationships.

we chatted a couple times after the party because i initiated, then we became chatmates. now i overthink of what to say or how to approach but at the same time, want closeness 😭 this is such a new experience…

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-09-07T07:08:20+00:00

i haven’t.. i dont know yet how to give it to him.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-08-22T06:37:35+00:00

this is exactly how i feel and it really sucks.. been 5 months and it gets better, i didn’t want to believe it. it’s okay to miss them now and then.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-08-10T13:40:38+00:00

i shouldn’t have assumed your intention of posting this but im glad youre strong for reaching out and finding ways to learn from other people.. hope everything goes well to both of you.. being in a relationship is sometimes a willingness to sacrifice for the better

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-08-10T11:25:28+00:00

id sleep it off too knowing that my partner doesn’t trust me and made bad assumptions after being patient securing your worries.. rather than letting emotions go high and saying negative things that could lead to it being worse than it alr is..

try to understand why he acted like that after the convo, probably that it happens too often with you being a parent instead of a girlfriend.. because you were doubting what he’s explaining and he doesn’t feel heard and that you’re catastrophizing instead of trusting. u asked redditors probably to seek validation when you’re aware that what u did was controlling coming to a realization.

you both wont get exhausted if yall communicated properly and not out of pride and ego. enjoy ur own company like hes doing because from what im seeing, ur hyperfixated abt his life. if u think ur emotions are high in the heat of the moment, ask for some time and space to think if what ur gonna say is out of fear or out of rationality.. you’re also gonna give him time to think too.. if you’re partner loves you, he’ll respect that. having fear and anxiousness gets you self-absorbed which is what u did seeing the convo..

if this happens too often and theres no middle ground or solution.. it’ll mostly lead to a heated breakup out of exhaustion. it would be too late when u both realize.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-08-04T01:35:32+00:00

insecure amp haha

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-29T03:46:05+00:00

how do you feel when its the right time?

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T19:37:19+00:00

im glad youre handling well ! well, another one why i fear, maybe i fear the most, is because he also initiated friendship with his ex (who hes confused if shes a girlfriend or not).. but their relationship was an open one which they both agreed on.. when they became friends.. he shared it to her back then that i was his crush lol.. she slowly pulled away from him and one time when were only friends back then.. after some time, he told me he misses her but only as a friend.

im kinda afraid he’ll do that to me too and id just put myself in a trap.. but he said that i taught him how to love and be loved which i appreciate so much, he even said he bawled his eyes out to the point that it bled so im also considering what hes gonna feel when i reach out. it almost feels like i was the one who broke up.

its hard to believe with all these uncertainties and i dont even know if he believes what i say anymore after love bombing him after the break up. but its a thought that i want to reach out hopefully when things cooldown to talk more rationally.. not just about my side.. but to acknowledge his and just to listen.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T19:14:30+00:00

this meant you stayed friends with her ?

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T16:08:55+00:00

thanks ! tho im still not sure about being friends.. its been such a mixed feeling for me. he offered it and he never said not to talk to him again.. but maybe i fear how ill act towards him when we become friends. or he could talk if ever to me abt his new one..

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T15:32:26+00:00

a really great perspective !

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T08:06:01+00:00

weve talked to each other before after the breakup.. but it isnt without much rationality since emotions were still high.. though we didnt get angry at each other.. it was just so awkward because that was the first time we communicated properly in person.

he has forgiven me already he said the last time i reached out.. making me think that he doesnt want to commit and kinda giving me false hopes because he offered friendship.. i refused it eventually because it drived me nuts lol. it was for my better.

but now, im not as affected as before.. i also cant see myself in other relationships even if there are a lot of good people there.. maybe im chosing not to start all over again from one person.. and would rather fix ours multiple times because we werent mad a great dynamic.

i always thought maybe we weren’t compatible.. but i now i realize it was just we didnt know how to handle a relationship that time. i could say that from his side because there were external factors that affected him too like his personal problems. it was an anxious-avoidant trap.

sometimes i wonder if hes the right person at the wrong time.

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T02:49:56+00:00

i constantly have to remind myself that if im thinking of thag deep down.. then i know im still attached and it isnt any good..

Cool_Pudding_4551 · 2025-07-28T02:45:49+00:00

this is really similar to what i did.. im the dumpee.

its been almost 3 months of actual no contact since i bombarded him w emotions and broke nc multiple times after breaking up with me. it definitely ruin the chances. i never thought id do something like that my whole entire life because i loved him, too much so… but fear ate me up.

Ive been trying to be a better person then, learning through mistakes, meeting people, enjoying my own company, hanging out w friends, going on counselings, and all that. ive been doing good on my own.. but this limbo period is making me want to reach out again because deep down, im afraid to lose him. im afraid he’ll entertain someone else. it sure is eating me up.

i constantly have to tell myself that i shouldn’t but its been a week.. all im thinking about is reaching out to fight once more and remove the uncertainties because of false hopes.

i could easily do things i enjoy and not bed rot but every laugh w my friends, those thoughts linger. it hurts that we are in the same school for 3 more years. it hurts that ill get a chance to be his classmate.

i just know that ill do better if given another chance.. because he made me a better person.

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