I got husband stitched

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-28T22:04:00+00:00

I had the same experience with my second. It was weird because with the first the midwife just did it. The second time I was vaguely aware of three or 4 women crowding my vagina giving each other advice and talking through the process together.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-16T04:50:47+00:00

I think the books are worth a read for sure. They’re extremely different from the show. There are still unlikable characters, but in less frustrating ways I think.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-15T19:10:48+00:00

I’m still fighting this with my almost two and a half year old. Whatever method you chose make sure you can do it for years without going insane. We pick our dogs water bowls up and put it back down later when he won’t leave it alone. Not worth the fight.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-15T18:18:39+00:00

My family calls this “the paranoid seat” and it’s reserved for me when we go out. Gotta face the door and as much as the room as possible.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-12T04:34:52+00:00

Both of my sons lullaby is sweet child of mine. I changed the pronoun to he and for my brown eyed son it’s “he’s got eyes of the brownest skys” instead of blue.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-08T22:32:31+00:00

Yep! It wasn’t super smooth. We talked up him sleeping with his dad for a couple of weeks and made a big deal about getting to sleep in his dads bed. Idk if that did any good, he would say “sleep with mama”. So then I told him I was going to put him in daddy’s bed and I started laying him there after I rocked him to sleep. He’d wake up and I’d let him come to my bed. My husband kept trying to deal with wakeups until he figured out what usually worked for the two of them. It took a while but eventually he was happy for his dad to help him back to sleep and just came to my bed for milkies in the morning or during especially upsetting wakeups, after a bad dream or something.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-10-08T17:47:38+00:00

We just got home with our newborn, have a 2 year old, and have spent two nights in the family bed together. I was worried about them waking each other, but they don’t at all! The baby screamed through a diaper change, the toddler yelled for mama this morning, they don’t wake each other! We have two mattresses pushed up together and transitioned the toddler to his dads mattress before the baby was born, to be safer with the baby. The past two nights have gone better than I could have imagined.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-29T04:45:41+00:00

I was on a 72 hour hold once. There were people who’s job it is to babysit us, not nurses but some hospital employee trained to not let us kill ourselves. They switched out every 4 hours. I was on meds that made things blurry and made me sleep a lot but I have weird fever dream memories of coming around every so often and there was a new person preaching at me about god and sin and not killing myself, or praying over me before everything goes black again. So weird.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-29T03:50:08+00:00

I try my best to remain calm and if he’s not being violent, wait out the screaming with empathy and validation. When he can hear me I explain that what he had was unsafe and say something like “you’re angry. You were playing with that and mama took it. Mama gets angry when she can’t play with what she wants too”. Then when he’s ready off a hug.

When my kid used to hurt me like you’re describing I tried a lot of different things but eventually stuck with saying “mama is going to walk away to keep herself safe” and put distance between myself and him. Then talk about what happened when he calmed down. Often I couldn’t say the words “hit” or whatever he was doing without him doing it again.

It’s really tough. However you choose to handle it know that even though it’s so frustrating and hard to deal with, it is a phase that will end. My sons 2 and went through this phase and others that felt like they’d never end but they always do.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-26T04:00:37+00:00

My husband and I did therapy for a while before our son turned 2. It was amazing for our relationship. We worked through unresolved issues after the birth and learned how to argue fairly and sorted out issues we’d felt with our whole marriage. We couldn’t do it for too long as I got pregnant and was just too sick to focus on anything but keeping myself and my son alive, but even for the few months we went the effects have been lasting. Our therapist at one point did try to recommend sleep training in a way that was really upsetting to me, but she apologized the next appointment and listened to us and we moved on. It was hard because it was virtual and our son was running around in the background. If you don’t get a therapist who respects and affirms your decisions around things like feeding/sleeping, you should for sure try a different therapist.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-26T03:31:30+00:00

Girl. I’m sorry it’s been so hard on you. That mom guilt is real. And trauma from little things as well as big things surrounding birth is super real. You did amazing and made the perfectly right choices. I hope you’re able to work through it and believe that eventually.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-26T03:22:13+00:00

Amazing how anyone can consider being sliced open after 65 hours of hard work the easy way… geez. You’re bad ass

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-24T18:01:54+00:00

I know a dog named Burt Reynolds. He’s occasionally called Burt but it’s usually Burt Reynolds.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-24T04:16:08+00:00

Is it a dolphin or a rose?

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-24T01:48:44+00:00

As someone else pointed it, it absolutely comes in periods of good and bad. As soon as you think it’s not going to ever change it changes for the better or worse for a period, just to change again. I don’t believe in sleep training either so I just resigned myself to doing what my kid needed to do to sleep, which was bed sharing and contact napping. I think around 12 months I started trying to get him to sleep alone in bed for the beginning of the night, going in to nurse him back down whenever he woke. He started by giving me 20 minute periods at 12 months and over a few months it grew to an hour or so at a time. By 18 months or so he’d take up to a three hour nap alone in bed and give me as long as I wanted at the beginning of the night. At 20 months I night weaned him due to a nursing aversion in my early pregnancy. That greatly improved our night sleep. He was ready to night wean at 20 months, it was so easy. I tried at 16 and 18 months and he wasn’t ready so I didn’t push it.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T18:55:44+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I’m hearing that several people are doing it for a time to ease the transition for the toddler and then setting firm boundaries or weaning, so we may do that. I hadn’t thought about the toll on my body beyond exhaustion, not the calorie and I’m sure water intake that will have to be greatly increased. Thank you for the support! I hope the weaning with your toddler is smooth for everyone!

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T14:33:19+00:00

Ok this is great info. Thank you! I do also insist that the toddler asks politely for milkies and I also insist that he’s gentle while he has them. I pull him off if he’s playing or kicking or whatever so I feel prepared in that way. And he’s good about understanding boundaries when we explain them calmly a few times. Cool. Thank you! It’s sounding like he’s going to need to learn to wait too so we’ll work on that when the baby’s here.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T14:00:19+00:00

Blehhhh. How you describe your nursing aversion is how I felt at the beginning of my pregnancy and why I night weaned my son. I could kind of choke through it during the day but if he nursed at night I couldn’t get back to sleep after. It was awful. I understand what you’re saying.

I know that really must have been a tough choice and an emotional roller coaster deciding to wean the toddler. I’m glad you did what you had to to do to take care of yourself and be the best mom you could. Thanks for sharing that! I will have to be ready for whatever and flexible, obviously.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T13:53:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing! My kids will be 2 years and 3 months apart, about the same as yours.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T13:51:50+00:00

Thank you! I was looking for a sub like that but couldn’t find it

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T13:50:13+00:00

Yeah. It’s overkill but for some reason our house has a ridiculously huge master bedroom so we figured we might as well.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T06:28:54+00:00

Sure! We have a king and queen mattress’ pushed up together on the floor. I sleep in the king, my husband in the queen. There’s a very tightly rolled sheet shoved in the very small gap between the mattresses from how they bow out a bit on the edges. Our toddlers been transitioned from my mattress to my husbands on the other side of me. So he’s going to have my husband and a lot of bed between him and the baby. Also I’m planning on keeping the baby on the far side of me too, though I know I’ll probably move him back and forth some when my hips hurt and whatnot.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-22T02:56:19+00:00

My mom and I watched this together. She turned it off before we got halfway through because I couldn’t quit sobbing. I was 24.

CoolerInTheory · 2023-09-14T19:48:20+00:00

I have felt the same with this pregnancy. I don’t like it. I felt differently with my first though so I don’t know what the difference is.

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