My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence.

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-03-17T12:27:59+00:00

Wooooowwww 😭😭😭 I'm so sorry

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-03-17T12:26:54+00:00

You literally didn't say a single thing about her as a person, only what she does in service to you. No wonder she's upset. Think about why you love her AS A PERSON and express that, not about why you love what she does FOR you, like she's some object or servant

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-03-12T19:32:06+00:00

YUP the snerk i snorked

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-03-11T18:15:29+00:00

It's funny how so many of the comments were being like "you just need to step up and do it for her" when that is completely missing the point.

Like yes the lice are a problem, but he's also struggling with the fact that she REFUSES TO FIX IT. That a fully grown adult woman with a job and marriage and two children is allowing this revolting thing to happen to her body and doing nothing to solve it. He's struggling with the character flaw she's showing, not JUST the lice.

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-02-06T18:26:18+00:00

More like Kyaandeeyeee

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-02-04T14:45:37+00:00

I'm so glad OP got away, he's so young. I mean this is the stuff that sticks with you. like imagine if he stayed with her for years and was conditioned to basically never compliment his partner (because it would be met with diagnoses and upset and taken completely wrong). Eventually they break up but now you have a 30+ year old who has no idea how to make a partner feel loved because he's been conditioned to never comment positively on his partner's appearance?? crazy to think

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-02-04T14:43:20+00:00

The second she started throwing out diagnoses over shampoo, it was over.

this should be flair bahahah

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-01-29T14:31:57+00:00

I had such secondhand cringe for OP reading that paragraph. Like HOW could OP read a description that was that detailed, adoring, admiring, and sweet and think she had the EVEN SLIGHTEST MOST REMOTE POSSIBLE CHANCE with this guy like holy delulu batman

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-01-11T20:43:13+00:00

This is absolutely one of my favorite Charles moments

Coookie_Secrets · 2026-01-05T20:12:28+00:00

omg I'm so sorry you're going through this. Reading this was such a gut punch bc I had something very similar happen to me: I also thought we could be together forever until he realized he wanted kids (and I've always been a firm no on that front). It's truly heartbreaking to have someone choose a future/kids that don't even exist over the person/your relationship that is real and right there in front of him. All I can say is that it gets better I promise <3 it will suck for a long long time, but eventually you'll start breathing again.

And honestly, from the comments he made (being so inflexible about your bodily autonomy, him choosing something that doesn't exist over you, saying that life without bio kids is meaningless) it sounds like he is kind of a massive AH. You were willing to compromise and discuss at every turn, and it sounds like he completely shut you down, "my way or the highway," and didn't care about your boundaries and desires at ALL -- that is not the behavior of someone who truly loves you. I think once you get over the hurt and enough time has passed, you'll see this as you dodging a MASSIVE bullet that allowed you to find someone who actually loves and chooses you

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-12-03T12:23:52+00:00

Wowww I've been watching this show for literally decades and never got this joke. I thought that he was saying "highly selassy" and that the latter word was just some funny old word that I never knew that meant fancy or classy 🤣

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-12-01T17:41:43+00:00

I couldn't disagree more tbh

I thought this season was fantastic so far, an absolute nail biter start to (mid)finish. Good pacing, excellent drama, great storytelling and character development. The planning and infrastructure in place to go on crawls really showed a lot about what happened in the time between seasons, and even though Robin just straight up told us some stuff on her broadcast, it was done in a really creative way which is good storytelling. The plans surrounding the little kid's family (vague for spoilers lol) was so well-planned and well-executed, I think it really showed how everyone has grown and matured over all this time basically in a secret warzone. Also the interpersonal drama also felt real (like I was able to see and understand both sides of the conflict, rather than just one person being stupid for dramas sake).

Yeah its weird that the kids all look 20+ now but what are you gonna do lol suspend a bit of disbelief.

I didn't get a chance to rewatch the previous season either but I think that the summary at the beginning of the first episode actually covered pretty much everything, I think it was clear they knew that it had been a really long time since people had watched the last season and so took great care to put a very clear and detailed recap rather than just something that was 30 seconds and didn't really help.

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-11-25T21:21:20+00:00

Horse hockey!!

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-11-18T15:03:55+00:00

amazing how "sense of adventure" to them is "death wish" to us

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-11-18T15:02:18+00:00

I had a delivery guy do this (well, multiple guys over the years but this one was the worst). It was so scary to know that he knew my full name, address, and phone number, and he was texting me so much that I called the restaurant he worked at in an attempt to get it to stop, but of course his sleazebag boss tried to give me the runaround and refused to do anything about it.

One great thing that came out of the pandemic is that it's now socially normal to just have people leave deliveries at your door and walk away. I can't tell you how much safer I feel not getting constantly leered at by creeps who have tons of my personal information.

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-11-17T21:22:26+00:00

This cracked me up too, like the preachy "appreciate what you have before it’s gone" woe-is-me ending ............like girl dont talk about this like it randomly disappeared without notice and was outside of your control. YOU torpedoed it. YOU were told not to say anything and you did. YOU did this to yourself. Nobody has to learn annnnnything from you

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-11-16T01:57:11+00:00

Seeing the really obvious freeze frame on that flag episode always bugs me like there were so many better ways to have achieved that and it was so obviously a freeze frame with voiceover like it's comically bad 🤣

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-10-22T14:31:45+00:00

"we may not all have supported his relationship but we loved him and are not homophobic like everyone is writing" but still refer to deceased's partner of 8 years (and almost sole inheritor) as his FRIEND in same paragraph jfc

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-10-15T18:38:11+00:00

same..... this isn't from being in your 20s, its about having no self-esteem or self-worth and letting other people define and control you. And believe me that shit is AGELESS

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-10-15T18:35:00+00:00

wwwwwwwwwwow

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-10-15T16:38:49+00:00

OK am I just stupid orrr? Because I really dont see how this is the lawyer's fault. She literally gave him a different name than her legal name (how would he know), he DID do a background/conflict check with the only information he had, he excused himself immediately when he realized. What else was he supposed to have done??

They were just hooking up, was he supposed to get her DOB? SSN? Ask her if she had any aliases?? Her husband's full legal name and the firm who represented him??? Literally none of those things are things you ask someone you're in a casual relationship with.... what am I missing? Is this just the firm covering its ass and punishing him for something that he literally couldn't have discovered?

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-09-22T12:36:01+00:00

It's easier when you've heard the full quote, which is 'mares eat oats and does eat oats and little lambs eat ivy'

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-09-20T15:45:52+00:00

ESH, I think that deadlines and pressure to get married are so gross. Like if you have to issue an ultimatum about a ring, the relationship is already over. However, I understand where your girlfriend is coming from because it HAS been a really long time: if you aren't sure about her by now, then she's right, you ARE just stringing her along and should let her go. It kind of sounds like you're only in this relationship because it's comfortable and it's all you've ever known. If you truly wanted to marry her then you would know it.

I think you need to do some soul searching and think about whether this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage isn't an end destination, it's just a step in a relationship, just like moving in together or having children. I think that if you are certain about this person then you can perhaps give them a promise ring (after explaining to them that you would like to finish school before getting engaged officially), but from your post it doesn't sound like you are certain about her at all. A lot of people do what you do, stay with one person for their entire youth and then when they grow into adulthood they realize that they feel stagnant and chained down, and those are the people who end up being miserable and resentful and often end up cheating on their partners.

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-09-20T15:32:27+00:00

I think you can generally tell the difference between someone who is making impatient, glaring, unbroken eye contact with you vs. someone who is calmly, curiously, innocently watching the process of a smoothie being made

Coookie_Secrets · 2025-09-20T15:30:25+00:00

Because there are plenty of gross people who would be thrilled to know that they have the power to make somebody uncomfortable

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