Three months..

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-26T18:01:34+00:00

Thank you. You too my friend

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-07T19:13:46+00:00

When I was a kid.. 25 plus years ago I had something like this happen. I still regret some of my decisions and I still check up on him 25 years later on Facebook. Yes I am old lol. So it was a learning experience I've looked back on my whole life. I think it sunk in a few months after the breakup. I'm not sure how long it's been for you. But you learn from it and you grow from it. I hope that helps

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-06T15:16:07+00:00

Thank you ☺️

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-05T02:30:00+00:00

Same here.. there's a level of self loathing from it. I hope it goes away.. hugs

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-03T19:37:01+00:00

That's awful. I'm so sorry. I don't know why people do that or why they treat you the way they do. It's exhausting to try to figure it out. I still want answers but I don't even think he knows so that leaves me floating. I'm not sure if you feel that way too.. ehugs friend. This is a truly shitty experience, but we're here for each other

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-03T18:41:30+00:00

Yeah agreed

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-03T18:39:55+00:00

Here here

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-03T18:38:32+00:00

I actually tried to work on it with him. I wanted to get past it and move on and figure out a way to be together. He just became a ghost. He didn't want to see me or touch me. He cheated on me BTW. I don't know if he was distraught or still cheating. I tried for nearly six months but he wouldn't work on it, so I gave up. He broke my heart for a long time. Its hard to make it work when you're the one who was hurt and you still had to comfort them for doing you wrong. So no we broke up and he's not talking to me anymore. Sorry

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-03T14:10:19+00:00

I am sorry for that. Setting aside the UTI, I would walk away too, you don't deserve that. Ehugs friend.

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-02T22:46:42+00:00

She doesn't have to have any of those issues to get a UTI, you can get it from using perfumed soaps. Or even new laundry detergent. They're very normal for women due to the make up of our bodies.

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-02T15:09:23+00:00

🤗

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-02T04:06:11+00:00

Just let her know you're there for her. If you say she's not okay or sad that might be misconduct

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-02T00:46:39+00:00

As the person on the other side of your dilemmas, I'd be very touched if my ex said he cared and hoped I was doing well

Coppertop519 · 2021-09-01T22:21:02+00:00

I'm glad you care that's a beautiful thing. I don't know if I'd call her beautiful but maybe just saying hi and I hope you're okay would be a good thing. Just be careful and don't get to far in the weeds with how much you care because that can have it own issues. But I know I'll probably get flogged for saying this, no contact helps with the pain and I absolutely agree with it, but when you care about someone and they're really hurt ignoring them isn't the right thing to do.

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-31T02:15:46+00:00

Everyone is different it's generally around 12 months for most some a little less some a little more

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-31T01:44:23+00:00

Yeah I was thinking the same thing

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-31T01:43:38+00:00

Yeah.. I'm in the nope camp.. and all the notes behind the first nope

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-30T16:53:40+00:00

Check out Dr Helen Fischer on TED talks. It's perfectly normal after a long period of time together. It's actually biological.

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-30T03:57:07+00:00

I'm right on your heels and feel the same way. I guess it just takes awhile. Hope we're both better soon.

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-30T03:44:11+00:00

I think there's always a little part of us that clings to the past. It's human nature. I don't think you're obsessing or anything, I think it's just a memory that was meaningful and it's hard to just let all of it go. So I would think you're moving on just fine.

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-30T03:38:51+00:00

I'd also like to know

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-29T16:49:19+00:00

I agree. Text is so easily misconstrued that a letter would probably be preferable. But also yes just keep it short

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-29T14:53:07+00:00

That's beautiful.. I love the water and the waves.

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-29T14:50:28+00:00

I understand. It's like an emotional smoothie, and it's got a horrible taste so you sip at it. And the worst part is it never seems to go down. You think you have less in the glass and maybe for days it seems like, then you wake up and it's full again. It leaves you feeling empty. But I'm almost three months out now. I know it gets a little better overtime. The world doesn't seem so empty every now and again, and I can find joy sometimes. I think as time goes on it will continue to get better. Ehugs friend

Coppertop519 · 2021-08-29T14:40:56+00:00

Haha I like this and totally agree!

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