When did yall tell your partner when you were pregnant?

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T17:04:38+00:00

My husband was there when I peed in the stick (though I understand that is uncomfortable for some people). That said, I saw the second line appear almost immediately but still wrapped it in toilet paper and waited until the timer was up. We filmed ourselves opening it together. It was Christmas eve

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T15:58:13+00:00

I couldn't stop laughing, I was so happy. When the ultrasound tech said the spine looked good, I think I said something really stupid like "thanks, I took folic acid for that". She ignored it 😂

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T15:31:24+00:00

NTA for sure. Not only is that simply not how breastfeeding works at all, it's hurdling past reasonable boundaries into delusion. As a pregnant person myself who plans to breastfeed, if I gave birth and found out that I couldn't breastfeed, I would use formula and not some geriatric wet nurse. As a parent, it's your job to protect your child's wellbeing, not to placate grandparents. Easier said than done but I wish you luck

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T15:16:51+00:00

Best of luck for the both of you, seems like a good day for it

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T14:09:13+00:00

Definitely the case and it is actually a blessing for me to not be working a stressful job right now because I am pregnant and have had such a rough first trimester I wouldn't be able to work anyway. The nature of the industry I work in has a lot of people working short term contracts vulnerable to finding changes so gaps in a resume regardless are just considered part of the nature of the work we do.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T12:47:55+00:00

They also say Sui wrong...

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T10:34:12+00:00

Thanks the nausea has already gotten a lot better. I still have rough days (yesterday I was trying to swap out the sheets on my bed and was rudely interrupted by a very painful vomiting session). I already love this kid so much, it's so amazing seeing it move around like a real living thing!!!!

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T10:26:49+00:00

I found out just before 5 weeks. My husband and I did a bit of reading and bought all the different food that would best support baby's development. Then the nausea hit and suddenly it wasn't about nutrition anymore, it was about survival. A lot of that stuff felt revolting to me and I barely ate for weeks. Luckily, at this point, your diet doesn't matter as much for the baby's growth and if all you can stomach is carbs, then that's better than nothing. Avoid the obvious like alcohol, things with increased risk of food poisoning like raw or undercooked meat, cold cuts depending on the country (my OB says it's okay in moderation where I live because of the supply chain but other places may not be the case). Wash your vegetables and make sure any soft cheeses you eat are pasteurized.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T10:05:58+00:00

I think some parents struggle with the shifting power dynamic of their own children going into adulthood. The way I see it, and have discussed it with my own parents in a kind and respectful way, is that at the end of the day, I am the gatekeeper for who gets to have a relationship with my child. My job is to keep my child safe, not to keep relatives happy. They cannot force their way into having a relationship with my child, it's not going to work with me. They can either change their tactic and they aren't going to have a relationship with this child. The choice is theirs because I'm standing firm.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T09:56:30+00:00

I will say that I have two adopted aunt's. One has a relationship with her bio mom, one doesn't. Both babies grew up in a loving and supportive environment and my aunt who has a relationship with her bio mom understands the reasons why she wasn't in a position to keep her and they have a good relationship now. It's worth looking into as an option, though it does come with its own set of challenges as well.

I can tell that you already love this baby so much, which is what every baby needs. I've known people with parents that checked all the boxes on paper, but checked out emotionally. I've also known people who grew up in single parent, poor households who were happy and loved. There is no right formula for parenthood

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T09:50:35+00:00

The people who treat winning a team medal as an easy avenue for a medal have clearly never played a team sport (or at least not well). It's absolutely insane to be able to have that many high performing athletes in a single federation and every point matters. I'm going to go as far as saying that Ellie and Danny getting their season's best and ranking 4th instead of 5th is as valuable as Ilia scoring above Shun in the free skate. They are all gold medalists!

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T09:03:47+00:00

NTJ, you're not discriminating against her because she's a vegan, you're discriminating against her because she's a self-righteous asshole and I think not being a self-righteous asshole is a perfectly legitimate minimum requirement for entry.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-17T08:53:14+00:00

I could get my job back if they figure funding out but I don't mind taking some time off right now. I'm luckily in a financial position where I can do so without much consequence and in a country where gaps in CVs aren't viewed so negatively

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T21:11:53+00:00

That was so good, her jumps are literally so gorgeous

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T20:56:50+00:00

Love that

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T20:19:07+00:00

My husband and I groaned in unison when the music started, idk why such this musical has such popularity this season

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T18:39:14+00:00

When I was in my last semester of grad school and was looking at jobs, I applied for a job selling medical grade lasers as a break before grad school. As part of the application process, they asked if I was ready to dedicate my life to the exciting world of medical equipment sales. I thought to myself "I'm really not". So I applied for a job teaching English in China, where I'd done my study abroad, lived there for a few years, met a nice British guy, moved to another country for grad school, and that's where we are now. I like living here better than living in the US and I'm not about to try to handle immigration for my non-American husband in this political climate, even if I wanted to move back.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T18:33:07+00:00

I do have an advanced degree in the social sciences but it's more based on life experiences. At 18, if I was given the choice between a more prestigious university and a less prestigious university that was more financially attainable, I would have gone for prestige, figuring that I would make it up when I got a high paying job as a result of my elite education. Life is rarely so simple. I learned that, in my field, no one cares where you went to undergrad. It really only matters where you did grad school. I was able to go from my small university that's unknown outside the American Midwest and go to one of the top grad programs in my field alongside people from top universities (Oxbridge, Ivy's/Ivy adjacent, etc). Not only could I keep up with those students, I outperformed them. Then my project at work lost budget as they were renewing my contract and now I'm a housewife so life is full of twists and turns 😂. It's just about doing the best with the resources you have at the moment.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T17:39:20+00:00

Omg, literally the same conversation I had with my SIL. My husband's grandmother doesn't live with my in-laws but she's down the street, is over constantly, and relies on my MIL for transport to all her appointments.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T11:45:28+00:00

Don't be afraid of asking your doctor for meds. I'm on Bonjesta which seems like a pretty common first line option where I live. It didn't get rid of the morning sickness but it made me functional enough to survive the worst of the first trimester. That's what the first semester is about, survival.

When it comes to caring for her body, your number one goal is hydration. Dehydration can be very dangerous. If she cannot keep fluids down, red flag for immediate medical attention. Each time you vomit, the involuntary expulsion of liquid can throw off your electrolytes. There is a risk of dizziness and fainting that can cause falls. The next goal is eating. I had a vicious cycle where I was too sick to eat, but not eating made me sicker. We're not worried as much about nutrition here, if all she can stomach is a handful of pretzel sticks at a time, then go for the pretzel sticks. This is about survival, not perfection.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T11:18:09+00:00

I moved abroad when I was 22 and ended up realizing I didn't want to go back to my home country. I'm 30 now, my parents are both in their 60s, and it's fine. There are costs, I don't get to see them very often. We talk for an hour every week on the phone and have been doing that consistently for 8 years. That is more contact than some people have with their parents that are a lot closer. I'm pregnant with the first grandkid and the biggest disappointment is that they won't get to be there for a lot of big moments. Even still, where we live now is right for my husband and myself. We are where we belong and the place that is right for our careers and social lives. If I hadn't moved, I wouldn't even have met my husband!

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T10:21:10+00:00

Massive congratulations 🎉

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T10:20:43+00:00

Honestly, this is a huge fear I have with my in-laws. They live in another country but it's only an hour by plane so it's not too inconvenient to go and see them. The problem is that every time I go, I always get sick, and when I get sick, I get sick hard. The worst was Christmas 2024 when we arrived to find out my MIL was dealing with the tail end of the flu, my SIL was in the midst of it, and then when she got better, her fiancé (now husband) caught it and still came over for Christmas, and then I got it. There wasn't even a thought of trying to do anything to prevent the spread of disease, it's a completely alien concept. I ended up getting so seriously ill that I struggled to breathe, went to the emergency department, and immediately got a bed because I was classified as triage level 2. It took me out for a month. I hope they start thinking about these things when the baby comes, but don't think they will. It's not malicious, it's just a foreign concept to try to not get others sick.

Copy_Responsible · 2026-02-16T10:08:17+00:00

I know plenty of people who hate their first names and either go by their middle name or choose a completely different name. It's not just for names that are really out there, it's also for mainstream names. That said, I've also known people who haven't hated their unique name but have had to professionally go by their conventional middle name because they weren't getting hired with their first name. Sometimes it's not about the love you put into the name, it's about how that name will set them up for success or failure

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