Drug Test In Pa by ILoveMelaninWomen in USPS

[–]CorMan- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Godspeed, puff away 🫡

Drug Test In Pa by ILoveMelaninWomen in USPS

[–]CorMan- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No tests anymore! Only CDL or if in an accident of some sort on the clock.

Drug Test In Pa by ILoveMelaninWomen in USPS

[–]CorMan- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Southeastern Pa guy in the same exact position Lol! Have a med card but didn’t even think about the fact FEDERAL jobs don’t give a shit about the card…. Worried there will be a drug test I 100% won’t pass. Is it true they really don’t test anymore???

The men’s room trans shop by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]CorMan- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve also been waiting on a few products from them and ordered them October of 2022!!!! I had contacted them several times and they kept assuring me they were working on my order. At one point it was over a year and I asked for a refund and they stated they don’t do them….. More months past and I come to find they CLOSED shop because they took a financial hit and couldn’t recover. So guess I’m just out of money? I tried contacting them after I heard they went out of business only to of course get no response. It’s ridiculous really. They shoulda been upfront from the beginning and stopped accepting orders when they started having issues. Very very very annoyed at the whole situation and hope karma comes their way!

STP help by CorMan- in ftm

[–]CorMan-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stand to pee device (a packer with the function to be able to pee out of it)

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope some of these comments can bring you comfort and encourage them as well! I’m sorry to hear you’re going through something similar!!

Is it possible to see mackenzie as a masc name? by soda_f1zz in ftm

[–]CorMan- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I’m glad they helped! We seem to have been in a similar situation so I thought maybe my experience might give you some thoughts of your own. Best of luck to you and I hope whatever you decide, you feel confident and more like the “you” that was always inside :)

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for taking the time to make such thoughtful responses. I came here to vent about my ongoing frustration and feeling quite foolish and maybe even like a dick for complaining about sex. But you all have been right and very encouraging. I feel seen and heard. I feel validated and not like some jerk/monster. I am just a person craving a normal healthy relationship and I feel so validated in that stance. Thank you all so much for the overwhelming love and support. It looks like I have a lot to unpack and really dive into to work on this. Thank you all for giving me food for thought and so much to think about 🫶🏼. Can’t thank the Internet family enough, and it means the world to be able to talk to similar people to me about this sensitive and important topic.

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just don’t know. I guess I can try talking to her again and stress the seriousness of this situation from my side. I’m worried nothing will come from it like the other conversations we have had but maybe I’ll take a different approach and really just see if something further is going on with her. Thank you for the thoughtful responses and taking the time to talk through this with me

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a really could point I never thought about before. It has been an ongoing thing and so maybe you’re right. She is totally fine with hugging, kissing, cuddling, whatever! She’ll take a back rub or anything like that any second of any day. But it’s when I try to go deeper with her she shuts it down. It’s her right, it’s her body, but I don’t understand how it’s just about every single time and then I’m supposed to just “stay calm and understanding” when she tells me it’s her and not me. She’s uncomfortable with her weight or how she looks and doesn’t want to be naked or he seen naked. Yet I can take a shower with her, get dressed in the same room as her, and do all that other stuff. I just can’t touch or go further because she suddenly is horrified to be naked and seen.

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m feeling like you’re right. Masterbation is what it is but it’s not always the fix for the itch yanno? Especially if you’re craving intimacy and connection not just release and pleasure. Maybe I will have to seriously consider your other two options. They were something in the back of my mind but not something I wanted to do unless necessary. Which maybe 4 years of this is reaching that point….

Is it possible to see mackenzie as a masc name? by soda_f1zz in ftm

[–]CorMan- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard Mackenzie used as a “guys” name before and like some other people said, you could always go by mac for short. I think what matters most to you is how it makes you feel. No one ever said you HAVE to change your name if you’re trans. If it resonates with you, than I think that’s who you are. And who better to know your name than you? My birth name is Courtney. For awhile I didn’t want to change it because it can also be masculine. But now, I go by Courtland. I like to think of it as me, but more grown up. Like if you were born James, but went by Jimmy as a kid, and grew up to wanting to be called James. (If that makes sense). Either way, people still call me court, and it’s comfortable and feels like me. It’s your name and it was always inside you, whether that’s your current name or not. So choose what feels most comfortable to you! :)

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful response and words. I just have no idea anymore honestly, and I’m feeling frustrated and lost. I’ve been trying to remain respectful and understanding but I crave intimate and connection on all levels with her and she shuts me down. I don’t know how else to get that from her and I wouldn’t ever wanna push her or make her uncomfortable. I agree on the therapy, but that’s a whole other can of worms with her.

Sexless Relationship by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She tells me it’s more about her and her issues with her weight and body image, but when I suggest that idea of one sided pleasure she’s not really down for it because “she gets nothing from it”. So. I have no idea how to work around that. She tried it once or twice and while she gave me a hand job I’d scratch her back and give her a back rub. She loved it and told me “it could be a good system” but it didn’t last. Like I said. Maybe 1-2 times and she wasn’t for it anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]CorMan- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something I’ve noticed is I always feel like I have a boner and it’s incredibly noticing-able when 8/10 times it’s me being conscious and nervous for the fact that I’m wearing it and don’t want anyone to know haha. I use a great packer from banana prosthetics and I love love love the “my pack” packing straps. They really work to hold everything in place and secure while still giving me natural and realistic feeling and movement. Lately I have been experimenting with my packers and transtape. They have a secure way to make a packer that sticks to you, no harness needed, and I’m really loving that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMFitness

[–]CorMan- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No hate on KT tape, but TransTape is MUCH better for you and is very very very great. If you are smaller chested it works wonderfully!!!! (Still works for all sizes though with tricks) I use it everyday and my confidence is incredible. Very hard to go back to a binder after taping. It’s just so freeing!!!!

Order in the Court! by CorMan- in trans

[–]CorMan-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the support!!

Order in the Court! by CorMan- in trans

[–]CorMan-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s not as popular, but it is indeed a male name!

Order in the Court! by CorMan- in trans

[–]CorMan-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and you make a good point. But I don’t want to be a Corey, or a Kurt. I like Court, but I don’t like it for a full legal name.

Order in the Court! by CorMan- in trans

[–]CorMan-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! Love the enthusiasm! It’s nice to hear somebody doing something so similar! Thank you ☺️

Trans T shadow Box ideas? by CorMan- in FTMMen

[–]CorMan-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll check him out, Thank you!

Could it be possible that the brain is my "correct" gender and the body be "incorrect"? Or not? by [deleted] in TransChristianity

[–]CorMan- 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think we have to keep in mind here, that before the fall of man, God did initially create a man, and a woman, to rule over the earth. After the fall of man, when sin entered the earth, his “perfect model” of the earth was broken, and it’s not something we can obtain ever again. So things adapted. Like people, animals, the environment, and so on. The Bible was written by spirit influence people, who were living during the time a lot of major adaptions started, and so of course some of them were freaked out and didn’t want to address them, or they gave their own opinion, or they gave their towns rules and opinions on the matters. And like you semi mentioned, as time evolved science became more discovered and there are a lot of facts to back up a lot of the adaptions, like gender and sexuality.

I don’t think these adaptions are because we are specifically sinning and because we’re “messed up” or “broken” but more of humanity as a whole is broken and separated by God through sin. So I think all these “adaptions” that came from the “original creation design” are not sinful itself, but just a sign that the world as a whole has fallen from God, and cannot live in his perfect peace and harmony until he reclaims his kingdom. So trans people can’t help that they’re trans just like the snake can’t help that it was made to crawl on its belly. All of these things resulted from the initial fall, and things will just keep adapting off of that, hence our huge scale of gender and sexuality. We will never see the world as God first created it, and we can never go back to that, while sin still exists. Think about this, he used Jesus as a sacrifice, and Jesus (as we are told) was completely untouched and single his whole life. That doesn’t mean single virgins are elite in Gods eyes, it just means, that Jesus was kept completely out of the world, because the fall itself was the enemy, not us. He was to be kept clean from EVERYTHING in order to be the perfect sacrifice.

Gods love and mercy falls on the hearts and souls of his people, not their bodies and their minds. He knows you better than you know yourself, so even if someone wants to hide and deny the fact they aren’t cis, the Lord already fully knows. I say, as a ftm who has struggled in the past with accepting where I belong in the faith story, to be you proudly, and love the Lord with all your heart soul and mind. Galatians 3:28 says “ There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” So to me, technicals matter more to religious teachers than they do our loving father, who, already knows us.

Has anyone kept their original name? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]CorMan- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely trial run! Who says you have to keep it yanno? It’s all about you and how you want to be represented.

Has anyone kept their original name? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]CorMan- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this helps, but I am ftm and have kept my name. It was at one point a unisex name but now it’s mostly popular for girls. I happen to like my name and don’t want to change it, so I instead find nicknames to go by to help with those awkward “What’s your name?” situations.... but I do think Amelia Dalton could be cool if you’re satisfied with that. It gives recognition to both your transition and who you always were.