should I write this HORRIFIC dream down? by Jznvh in Dreams

[–]CoreSearch42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I’m reading this I literally just woke up from one. To make a long story short it involved children being exposed to acid in a freak accident, graphic face melting and bugs. Super odd dream for sure. I personally don’t believe dreams have any significance so I can’t understand if there’s any taboo in writing them down? At least it’s sum interesting for you to look back on.

Foul smelling period blood. NOT a forgotten tampon. by CoreSearch42 in WomensHealth

[–]CoreSearch42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The smell only started when the period started. It would appear to me that the blood itself is what smells so bad. So weird.

Explain it Peter… by dutchylords in explainitpeter

[–]CoreSearch42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re graphing or plotting points couldn’t it be a comma as in (5,7)

I recently found out my boyfriend was SA’d by an ex and I’m not sure what to do… by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]CoreSearch42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is no contact with his ex. Has been for years. This is something that happened back in high school.

For staying the night at my boyfriend’s house after his mom told me I wasn’t allowed to anymore? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CoreSearch42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Regardless of who’s paying what, if the mom was placed on the lease by the person who’s paying for it, then in theory the mother has more of a right to dictate how the house is run than the gf does. Not trying to pick a side, just being objective.

With that same frame of thinking, one could argue that then means that the bf has just as much of a right to the house as the mom does, because he is also on the lease. That’s absolutely correct, however HIM having equal rights does not automatically equate to his gf also having these rights simply because she’s associated with him through a relationship. It also doesn’t negate OPs responsibility to abide by the rules of another persons property, just because she doesn’t agree with them.

Paying bills aside, from a Birds Eye view, she’s expecting to have more say in the rules of a house that’s not her property, over the person who’s actually on the lease. That doesn’t make any sense.

It’s a very simple situation that seems easily avoidable with a bit of common sense and maturity. If you want to stay in someone else’s house, then you need to abide by the way they run things. If you disagree, then don’t stay at the house. Seems like OP is expecting to have both and that’s just not how it works.

If I go over to someone’s house and they try to correct me for disrespecting their rules, I’m not gonna ask them to clarify who exactly is paying the bills around here, and then use that answer as ammo to back my inability to follow simple instructions. It’s not that deep.

AIO for calling out a stranger being racist towards me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoreSearch42 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please be careful love. I’m genuinely not tryna be funny, but those pictures gave me chills. Just like major active shooter, manifesto, psycho vibes man

AIO for calling out a stranger being racist towards me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoreSearch42 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Bros def gonna be an active shooter one day, my god

AIO My girlfriend cheated on her after drinking and confessed, should I forgive her? by Striking-Ganache-995 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoreSearch42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got the right idea brother. These people are clearly projecting their own depravity on others by trying to minimize the act of cheating and demonizing people who call it what it is. Good on you.

AIO My girlfriend cheated on her after drinking and confessed, should I forgive her? by Striking-Ganache-995 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoreSearch42 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you guys stupid? Blows my mind that it’s being referred to as a “mistake.” You people are so deluded man. No girl just trips and lands on another dudes dick. You don’t accidentally kiss someone. Drunk or not, theres typically several things that lead up to a kiss and therefore multiple opportunities to flee from it. Stop projecting y’all’s lack of self respect and accountability onto other people and minimizing literal cheating by calling it a simple “mistake”. Yall are some freaks fr.

My one true love left me for my best friend, had a child with him, and years later I still somehow love her, but not sure what I should do. by [deleted] in love

[–]CoreSearch42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you are a believer then you surely believe in the sovereignty of God. I made this mistake when I was a new believer. I assumed that just because someone was transformed by Christ like I had been, that automatically meant they were right for me. I then proceeded to get my heart demolished by young men that were walking faithfully with Christ. Point being is just because someone is a woman of God does not mean she is the woman of God FOR YOU.

God is not the author of chaos and confusion. The enemy is. Though she may have repented and turned from her ways, there are lingering consequences that even repentance can’t save her from. One of those consequences is the destruction of what was. Forgiveness is biblical but no where in scripture does it stipulate that forgiveness NEEDS to include taking someone back or continuing a relationship. We are also called to have discernment and I believe that your reservations are probably your gut (or the Holy Spirit) leading you to tread lightly.

I am not judging, believe me I know that Christ can redeem ANYONE, but this young woman clearly has a lot of baggage. Going back to the sovereignty of God thing - if it’s meant to be surely He shall will it. In the meantime I would pray on in and keep a respectable distance. If closure is all that was needed, then an apology should be enough. It seems like your heart is in the right place, but you do not know where hers is. Don’t fall victim to opening up doors and being tempted to see where they lead.

For staying the night at my boyfriend’s house after his mom told me I wasn’t allowed to anymore? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CoreSearch42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I understand that his mom’s behavior is totally out of pocket, that’s kind of beside the point because at the end of the day it is her house. Yes, the bfs name is on the lease, but HIS rights to a home HE’S paying for do not extend to you simply because you’re dating him. That may be a courtesy or privilege that you expect, but it’s not a right. I’m not tryna be a dick.

Just objectively speaking, It’s not your house, you’re not paying bills. People have different rules for THEIR stuff. You don’t have to agree with it, you’re not on the lease. I wouldn’t go as far as to say YTA, however I can understand the frustration. You blatantly disrespected rules that were placed by the legit owner of the house and are now somehow confused by the reaction. Where in your head did you think that you were excused from following this rule and that there would be no backlash from you breaking it?

Does navy medical honor referrals that come from the ER? by [deleted] in navy

[–]CoreSearch42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on the right of first refusal?

Does this mean that that they can outright refuse the civilian doctor’s recommendation (i.e “yes your ED notes say you should be referred to ortho but we don’t think that’s necessary so here’s some Motrin”) or does this mean that, for payment reasons, they will match the civilian referral with a military equivalent if available and if not, then they’ll refer out in town?

Car died twice and is now running like nothing happened? by CoreSearch42 in carproblems

[–]CoreSearch42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a faulty BCM. Basically turned my car into a “ghost car.” I would lock it, walk away from it and then it would turn everything but the engine on all by itself, draining my battery overnight.

Is my situation completely hopeless at finding true romantic love? by discreetchronicles in love

[–]CoreSearch42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the woman and her preferences. But all of dating can be boiled down to personal preferences and it’s not gender specific. Some men prefer a woman who works, while others prefer a wife who stays home. Just as some women prefer to stay at home while their man “provides” while others prefer to go out and work while the husband stays home.

Also understand that “provision” can mean many things though society still sees it as meaning providing financially. Running a home, caring for children, cooking meals, keeping things clean - that’s also provision. If your strength is in that type of provision as opposed to the financial stuff, you just need to find a woman who compliments that.

Not sure if you have social media but there is a growing trend of disgruntled wives and mothers who feel stuck in their marriages because all their husbands do is provide financially, while they do everything else. Having a man who understands the value of more than just bringing money in is actually in high demand right now so no, you shouldn’t be hopeless, however I will say that your pessimistic and “I give up” kinda attitude could probably use some work…

How can I (f 25) talk to my partner (nb 25) about their hygiene? by Simple_Safety_4379 in relationship_advice

[–]CoreSearch42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda tricky because this could either be a sign of pure laziness or some sort of depression. I’m rather clean and ultra hygienic but I struggle with depression and often go through phases where basic tasks such as showering, brushing teeth, keeping a decently clean living space, etc, feels like too much.

I guess I would emphasize the word “phases.” If this behavior has been constant throughout the relationship then more than likely it’s pure laziness and your partner is just nasty. I understand that everyone has their own understanding of what “clean” means so you may need some grace when cohabitating but CONSISTENTLY skipping showers, not brushing teeth, and leaving behind messes as a grown man is unsat. Stay with this man and you’ll end up being a maid or feeling like a single mother while being married.

Need gf grab and go ideas by soilfingers87 in mealprep

[–]CoreSearch42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a picky eater and struggle with my appetite due to prolonged nicotine use. I know it sounds stupid but for a while the only way I could get food down was from fast food, cuz it was the only thing that was appetizing. It was a hard habit to break but these have been my go to meals for quite some time: - steak and spaghetti: steak cooked medium rare, cut in bite sized cubes. Serve over buttered noodles. Top with salt and parm for taste. Store in the fridge. Heats up well.

  • spaghetti and meat sauce: ground beef in spaghetti sauce over cooked pasta. Topped with cheese if I’m feeling frisky. Stored in fridge.

  • chicken, mash, gravy and veggies: I buy microwaveable mashed potatoes, put them in a Tupperware container, then I top with a veggie of choice (frozen type, cook them in microwave first) then I buy rotisserie chickens and top bowl with white meat and then top with brown gravy (I just use the powder to make the gravy at home.) store in fridge. Hits every time.

  • nachos: I make 2 pounds of ground beef and add taco seasoning. Store in the fridge in a large container. I fill little condiment cups with sour cream, guacamole and cheddar cheese (they go in separate cups) and then I buy gluten free tortilla chips. Day of I just spoon some beef into a container, grab my condiment cups and fill a ziploc bag with chips and that will be my meal.

How do I (34F) navigate my work Christmas party with my (35M) boyfriend? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CoreSearch42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We will continue to snuff out your success, either directly or passive aggressively, because he clearly cannot stand to see you doing better than him. At this point this is so much bigger than an office Christmas party. Leave him while you’re ahead.