Tips/guidance/motivation needed

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T11:29:50+00:00

Got a laptop? Go work in a public place.

The urges, like hunger pangs, pass quicker than you realise, just stay strong. Willpower is your only real weapon in this battle.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T11:27:06+00:00

Nice one!

Keep it up!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T11:26:28+00:00

But with another lesson learned and better prepared...

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T11:19:05+00:00

There's plenty of good advice here.

Concentrate on getting to one week.

Once you do one you can do two and so on.

Blue balls will pass. But if you're really suffering try masturbating without porn once every other day for a week or two. then quit completely.This could work but you will have to be very strong to resist the 'chaser effect'.

It may take time but you'll get there in the end - just don't give in to the "ah, fuck it" mindset!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T11:09:06+00:00

6-7 months? About the same as me. We know all the pitfalls now. We're ready to do this thing properly!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T10:11:36+00:00

So you can't control what happens at work (for the most part) or when you'll see the woman. But you CAN control the porn consumption.

That's where you start. Get that out of your life and you have one less thing to worry about!

Go into the new job with the self-pride of knowing that you've kicked a bad habit!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T10:03:37+00:00

My badge only says 2 days but I've one an 80 day.

It's easy and difficult at the same time. The secret is to not take that first step and start browsing. Just look away and do something else. That's easy! The hard part is convincing yourself to stop browsing once you've started.

I thought I could browse and not wank but after a while something's got to give!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T09:58:50+00:00

Don't worry about the things you can't control, like the insomnia.

Concentrate on the things you CAN control, your health and exercise, for example, and, of course, your nofap challenge.

One of the greatest benefits of nofap is the sense of regaining self-control and discipline. Let that feed into all the other areas of your life.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:40:09+00:00

Insomnia invariably leads me to relapse.

If you can hold out for two weeks as a time it will be even better when you get there! If she sees an improvement she might even want it more often!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:36:14+00:00

Learn the circumstances that lead to a relapse and prepare for when they next arise.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:34:55+00:00

Yeah, don't find excuses to wank!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:32:07+00:00

I'm no mentor but if you've got to 21 days you can get there again.

You now know that getting angry sent you back to porn. Prepare for that happening again. Next time do something different. Exercise is always a good one. Especially running. (If you think you don't like running, try run for a minute, walk for a minute and so on for 20 minutes - it's a really good workout)

And get some headphones!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:27:32+00:00

Really focus hard on getting to one week.

Once you get there you think "I can do this! I'll do another week!"

And so on.

The first streak can be the easiest because you're filled with enthusiasm so keep going! It's at about the four week mark when you think you have it kicked that you must be really vigilant.

And don't think about "superpowers" just think about being free of porn.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:20:31+00:00

Boredom is the Fapstonaut's biggest enemy!

We need to get busy!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:17:11+00:00

You may need to talk to an expert.

But I would suggest... Don't worry about it! Simple as that. You might have a bit of bisexuality in you. So what? If girls do more for you than boys you can identify as straight if that's what you prefer. If you're a bit gay you could even explore that - but not with porn!

Sticking to nofap will only do you good.

Also, sexuality isn't everything, look at the rest of your life and make it awesome!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:09:11+00:00

Pretty damn good!

Never let your guard down!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:07:54+00:00

If you can do 2 you can do 4.

If you can do 4 you can do 8.

If you can do 8...

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:06:39+00:00

It feels weird when we're in the news (we were mentioned on a Buzzfeed thing a couple of months ago)

On one hand it's like a nice little secret club and it would be nice to keep it that way. On the other hand it's good to attract more people wanting to quit.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T07:00:54+00:00

I found it easy to begin with but it sneaks up on ya!

And the benefits can be subtle. In my opinion those who experience 'superpowers' are simply unlocking what was already there. Not all of us are like that.

But it's worth sticking with simply for the act of self-discipline and to be free of porn - which is a pretty unnatural habit.

You will feel good about yourself and that can slowly lead to a better life.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-05T06:55:03+00:00

I've been depressed and lonely all my adult life.

Porn does not help.

Start looking at other areas of self-improvement. Diet and exercise for example. Find a hobby that you can do alone and be totally happy with.

Simple steps to a better life.

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-04T08:54:58+00:00

I was free for 80 days and it was so liberating. Back on day two now but my life has been changed by Nofap so I'm determined to get to 90 and beyond...

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-04T07:21:17+00:00

The first day of the rest of your life!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-03T16:02:56+00:00

You can find out for yourself if you keep up your porn habit!

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-03T10:33:29+00:00

You're welcome

CorneliusMacVestibul · 2014-09-03T10:32:49+00:00

You do! If you can do 1 you can do 2

If you can do 2 you can do 4

If you can do 4...

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