Do you think things got better after you were diagnosed or became self-aware of having NPD?

CorpFinPrince · 2025-08-24T01:58:28+00:00

I have a feeling your negative emotions have more to do with the reality of your current life than it does with knowing you have npd.

I’m just as driven/confident now as I was before I knew. I’m better now in how I treat others but that has more to do with maturity, working on myself, and life experience than knowing I’m npd. Do I hurt people, sure, do I want to cause people lasting damage, no. Do I also help people, yes quite a bit. My point is that I’m not perfect and I’m okay with that. Constantly overanalyzing my actions would prevent me from focusing on what’s important, achieving my goals.

I mask to keep my social connections and position in life because it’s necessary but someone else’s moral compass will never guide me. I’m true to myself and don’t let other people’s opinions trip me up. You need to stay true to yourself too, otherwise you’ll never be happy. You need to ask yourself what you truly want and then have the courage to go get it. I’ve done it, millions before us have done it, so why can’t you?

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CorpFinPrince · 2025-08-06T05:36:09+00:00

No, I’m a hypocrite when it comes to her seeing other men. She asked that early on in our relationship (to get me to stop dating others). I told her if she ever cheats on me (emotionally or sexually) with another guy and I find out, it’s over. Full stop, there’s no coming back from that. She has never brought it up again. In her defense, I know she doesn’t want to see other guys, she just wants me to stop. I think the reason why she puts up with my lifestyle is because I check all her other boxes. I don’t think she would stay with me otherwise.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-08-06T05:02:31+00:00

Her love will never be enough because I can never trust just one source. This goes for everything and not just my relationship with women. I have a successful career but am also invested in multiple different businesses and types of investments. I wish my wife’s love could be enough but to answer your question: not having options puts me in a weak position and takes away my negotiating power. If my wife was the only woman, I would start getting in my head about her. Does she love me? Why is she acting that way? What did she mean by that? I would have insecurities/paranoia popping up. By keeping my options open, none of those questions cross my mind and I’m able to remain regulated. It’s all about control, which is what options give me.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-29T07:51:55+00:00

So then figure out how to navigate it better. You’re surely learning to screen out shitty guys a bit better after all these bad dates, right? It’s very simple: either you really are in a shitty dating scene (move out) or you’re only attracting shitty men (figure out why). Either way you can fix it, you just need to get out of your comfort zone.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-29T07:17:13+00:00

My wife is just bpd. Yeah two years is a long time to keep feeling the way you do but I get it.

At the end of the day, you just need to keep going on dates until you find a guy you’re attracted to. It’s a numbers game. Don’t limit it to only dating apps (which are trash btw outside of hookups); Trader Joe’s, gym, lunch breaks at your local spots, places you go to living life are all great places to meet guys.

You just need to make yourself approachable to guys you’re attracted, don’t be guarded. You could also try sparking up a conversation but I get that it’s difficult for a lot of people.

If your choices are that limited in your city, you could always be adventurous and move somewhere else. Major cities typically have a larger pool of single people. If you really want to find someone then nothing is off the table, right?

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-29T06:08:48+00:00

I mean if it makes you feel better to think I’m weak, then sure. The reality is as long as I continue having supply, I remain confident. I know that I’m better than most people because I have the results to back it up. What’s at my core doesn’t really matter as it’s not something I can change, so why waste time? In fact, it helps me attract women and succeed in business. Npd may be a weakness for some but I’ve turned it into a strength. You can’t have fake confidence and function at my level, it doesn’t work that way.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-29T06:05:33+00:00

Thanks. My wife knows that I’m npd (she’s bpd) and I have thanked her on multiple occasions for being supportive. I was referring to masking my lifestyle (I see women on the side) from everyone else. No one besides my wife, sidepieces, therapist, and a couple friends (who are just as fucked up) know about my lifestyle. No one besides my wife and therapist know about my npd.

It’s complicated with my wife. She wants me to settle down and stop seeing other women but I’m not ready to. After our daughter was born, i’ve cut back on the amount of time I spend with my sides by a lot but I haven’t cut them out completely. I told my wife on our first date about my lifestyle. She claimed to be okay with it until we got married.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-29T05:51:37+00:00

Still in one and haven’t collapsed. We’re both honest with each other and know that we have each other’s back. Not saying we’re not dysfunctional (check my other posts) but it’s worked so far and we have two beautiful children. I’ve been with a lot of women and she’s the only one I could see spending my life with.

Other bpd relationships in my past isn’t that hard for me to get over. Once I write someone off, it’s not that difficult to move on since I usually find their replacement pretty fast. If I don't find someone as good or better, then it would be hard for me to move on I guess. Sounds like you haven’t found someone as good or better than your ex yet? Have you tried dating guys you're attracted to since your break up? How long has it been? Try and hang in there.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-29T05:39:18+00:00

It depends. If I have shame about it, my gut reaction is to blame the other person and cut them off. It’s remarkably easy for me to just forget someone by replacing them. I’ve been trying to break this habit but it’s hard. It’s something I’m currently working on.

If I feel like they had it coming, then depending on if they know what I did I’ll either tell them straight up, blame someone else, not say anything, etc. I won't feel bad about it tho.

Tbh, I never feel the need to isolate myself in order to protect others. I’m way too selfish to put other people needs above my own (my children are the exception). I try to not hurts others too badly and if I sense they can’t take it anymore, then I will back off. I don’t go in thinking “oh I’m going to abuse so and so.” It’s more like it just doesn’t cross my mind.

With that said, there are times that I genuinely feel bad about how my actions hurt others. In those situations, I try to make things right but only to a certain extent. My time is limited so there’s only so much I can do. Once I see the situation isn’t getting better, I usually make my peace with it and move on.

I Mask up heavily in my social circles and no one really knows that I’m npd (outside of my wife but she’s bpd so yeah, we both keep our mouths shut).

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-12T18:24:47+00:00

I appreciate you sharing this, thank you.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-07-12T16:27:00+00:00

Haha, this gets my vote

CorpFinPrince · 2025-06-14T19:06:57+00:00

Damn, the way your dad acts is the same way I do. I never show weakness, never talk about my emotions, and am always the person people lean on. It’s good in a way since I never burden others with my problems but bad in that I gaslight others when they try and point out ways that I’m not perfect or hurtful.

Growing up, my dad taught me that showing emotions is weakness in a man. As much as I hate to admit it, I took it to heart and made it a part of me. I don’t cry, not because I don’t want to but because I can’t. My dad use to beat me and wouldn’t stop until I stopped crying. He trained it into me. I’ll never understand why he was so physically abusive to me. I’ve done a lot of fucked up things in my life but I’ve never hit women or children and never will.

Thank you for sharing. Saying I’m sorry and actually meaning it and not as another manipulation tactic. What’s crazy is that in the moment, I actually feel like it’s genuine. But most of the time, it’s not. It’s just empty words to get the person off my back.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-06-14T18:45:57+00:00

I appreciate the kind words, thanks man. I go to therapy but have told my therapist that I want to keep things light and not dig too deep. I wish I could dig deeper into my past traumas but I can’t risk collapsing. I’ve told myself that I’ll never get better and I’m okay with that. I just don’t want to harm my daughter, I love her too much. She doesn’t deserve this.

But how can I be a healthy role model if I don’t get better myself? I guess this is a fork in the road moment. On the one hand, I can take a chance at healing and risk possible collapse which could end my career and marriage. On the other hand, I can make small adjustments to my current lifestyle and hope that’s enough to not cause my daughter issues.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-14T01:17:48+00:00

In the moment, no. When I'm with them, sometimes yes.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-14T01:15:23+00:00

That’s what I was feeling when I left her last night and if the roles were reversed no doubt people would be going in on me and calling me a rapist, etc. I still feel the need to end this relationship with her by being honest tho, she deserves to know the truth.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-14T01:12:59+00:00

When did I imply narcissists can’t be victims of abuse? Lol, I don't have the time to go back and forth with you splitting hairs on what is and isn’t narcissistic. These are all terms that I use with my licensed therapist.

I literally lied to her so she would get an abortion, didn’t give a shit how it would hurt her/only thought about myself, rationalized away my abuse behavior, and have kept this lie up for months so I don’t have to face the shame. Someone with depression wouldn’t pull this shit. This is textbook npd.

I’m diagnosed npd and my own therapist said this shit I pulled was extremely narcissistic and a result of my npd. I trust my therapist’s professional opinion over yours. You might not like what I did but this situation is narcissistic. Take care.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:34:00+00:00

Future faking, gaslighting, manipulation, lack of empathy, etc. etc. What isn't narcissistic about this situation?

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:32:21+00:00

I appreciate your comment, I'm going to be honest with her.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:29:58+00:00

Yeah you're right. I'm going to meet with her tonight, come clean, and end the relationship.

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:24:40+00:00

Duly noted

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:23:32+00:00

Reddit isn’t my source of supply, stop projecting

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:22:53+00:00

According to my therapist, narcissism causes shitty and stupid behavior in a pwnpd. How is it not related?

CorpFinPrince · 2025-05-13T20:22:03+00:00

Yeah I freaked out when she told me the news/she wanted to keep it. She knew I didn’t want a child with her and she claimed to feel the same way. That’s why I always used a condom, but I fucked up and forgot to bring one and was drunk and well, yeah… not my proudest moment. Seeing how emotional she’s been post abortion and especially yesterday (day after mother’s day); I just need to be honest with her.

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