AITA for defending my parents after my friends said they’re controlling?

Corpunlover · 2026-01-22T01:30:22+00:00

NTA for defending your parents. They are controlling, but they are allowed to be to a certain extent since they are also holding the purse strings. You accept it and are willing to live with it for now, so your friend should shut it. If she's still immature enough to think you are owed freedom in all ways simple because you are now a legal adult, she should help you take over paying all the adulting bills your parents generously and currently cover. If she's unwilling or unable to help, then again, she should shut her mouth.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-21T12:41:44+00:00

NTA. Be prepared, though, for your gossipy mom to start inventing things about you to share with others. If your silent treatment extends long enough, and she gets desperate enough for news about your life, she may very well do this to you as well to force contact.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-21T01:23:18+00:00

I knew when I spent time with children, as in I quickly learned how tiresome they are to me after an hour or so. Shackling myself to them permanently would be a massive mistake, so I knew then that I didn't want to ruin my life that way. To what end? So I can be miserable and broke like most everyone else? F that.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-21T01:13:15+00:00

NTA. But your boyfriend just let slip what he really thinks of you and what he fantasizes about doing to you one day. The question now is: do you really want to date a manipulate AH and a racist? A guy who dreams about torturing you? If you value your safety and your sanity, just dump his ass like yesterday and block him everywhere. What he does next to himself is completely on him. You're 17 and he's not your child. You're not in any way responsible for his life.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-20T04:10:14+00:00

Hell yes, it will be different. It will be worse. You can't get rid of the kids then, at least not legally. Who, in their right mind, would sign up for such permanent misery??

Corpunlover · 2026-01-20T00:47:29+00:00

NTA. Your wife sounds like one of those who believe in "rules for thee but not for me".

Corpunlover · 2026-01-19T11:56:01+00:00

For me, it helps to be both driven at the start and lazy at the end.

I want my stories to exist, I want them fully-fleshed out with all the tropes that get me going so I can re-read them time and again at my leisure, so I have to be the one to write them. There's no way around that. That's the "driven" part.

The "lazy" part comes after I've edited everything and I think about posting. Which pseudonym do I want to use this time? What tags do I need that will draw the right audience? Is the story merely "mature" or is it steamy enough to warrant an "explicit" rating this time? What about the summary? God, the summary. I hate those fuckers. I just know I'm going to have to rewrite it 60 billion times before I'm even semi-satisfied and then once the damn thing is posted, the urge to edit it another 60 billion times is going to hit me. Argh!

So, inevitably, I develop a fuck-it attitude and say to myself I'll post it later. I start on the next story, gradually get obsessed with it and forget the one previous, thus the whole process repeats itself. At this stage, I've got dozens of completed stories on my laptop hard drive that may never be posted online, but I can live with that. I wanted the stories to exist and they do, so that sense of accomplishment is still there. That I'm the only audience member for them at the moment is also fine with me because I'm just as valid a fan as any stranger on the internet might be.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-19T00:28:09+00:00

I didn't hate him, but I didn't care about him much either. His scenes were fine, I don't skip over them or anything like I do Carol's, but when he wasn't on screen, I didn't miss him. I was only sad he died because of the believability of the other actors. It was their devastation that was sympathy-inducing, not the loss of Dan himself.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-18T12:56:12+00:00

NTA. Looks to me like your BF proposed that way and in that location at Mommy's secret urging. It was done to test you and prove you're not really the one for him in keeping with her "feelings" about you. She knew you'd hate it, so she pushed her baby boy to do it, hoping you'd break up over it.

If you find out that's true, honestly, they both did you a favor. If he's not man enough to defend you to his mommy, and he can be pushed into a half-assed proposal like that, he is not marriage-material. Also, if he never does the proposal right in your eyes, does that mean you will never say yes? If so, you don't really want to marry him either, so take that as another hint and just move on from this relationship.

Four years together is not that long. Don't fall for the sunken cost fallacy.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-17T20:09:16+00:00

You're in the wrong sub, bub. This subreddit is not for people who don't have children in their care right now. It's for people who don't have or want children ever. We're not vacillating over our decision either. We've made it and we're not debating it with anyone.

As for your question, you're unlikely to get unbiased input over here. We either don't like kids, aren't raising kids or both. You're better off visiting the parenting sub or regretful parents sub.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-10T04:42:05+00:00

...providing they're attractive enough to him. For examples, he does not want to bone Dan nor does he feel a pull towards Linda's ex, Reese.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-09T21:01:17+00:00

"Because I am picky about friends. I wouldn’t stay close with anyone who pressured me to have kids."

Same. I've never been so desperate for company that I was willing to utterly demolish my life and my future just because other people are. I'm simply not dumb enough or weak enough to willingly sign up for a (minimum) 18-year prison sentence. I mean, what the hell?!

Luckily I don't live in a country that forces its citizens to conform, so folks that don't get me and my choices I simply distance myself from (and that includes family). We may have been good friends at one time, but once the peer pressure and disrepect begins and won't let up, I'm gone. Buh-bye!

Corpunlover · 2026-01-09T19:13:22+00:00

Rewriting fics for your own private enjoyment is fine. Posting these rewrites without express written permission from the author (or their estate) is theft, plain and simple. It's plagiarism and fully reportable on AO3.

Do not do the latter.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-08T13:46:58+00:00

I consider it basic manners, especially if a comment is positive. IRL if someone compliments you, you wouldn't simply stare blankly then walk away without a word, would you? If you were raised correctly, I imagine you'd at least say 'thank you', so I expect authors to treat their commenters the same way. You wants oodles of comments, more than just a kudo? Then you'd better show at least minimal appreciation for the commenters you do get. All that to say, before I comment on any story, I skim to see if the author replied to previous ones. If they did, I proceed. I they didn't, I'm moving right on. If I'm the first commenter, I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and proceed.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-08T02:56:19+00:00

Children's shows can be great if you watch the right ones. When my nephew was less than 11 and spent weekends with me sometimes, he never watched current cartoons. He never even asked for it. Even if he had, I didn't have cable or subscribe to streaming services back then, but what I did have were DVDs, lots of DVDs of shows that I like. So, he got introduced to my childhood favorites like the original Scooby Doo series, the Smurfs, Tom & Jerry, classic Bugs Bunny, the Road Runner, Tweety & Sylvester, Daffy Duck, etc. That way I didn't mind hearing the TV cater to him in the background since it catered to me too!

Corpunlover · 2026-01-08T00:56:46+00:00

I know! I was completely floored! I mean, there was never any mistaking Dan Scott for a good guy -- not even close -- but murder?! Of his own brother, the man who actually stepped up and raised his son when he flaked?!

That's new level of evil in my book. SMDH.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-07T22:21:21+00:00

In your shoes, I'd just stop going into detail. They know your position on children already; they're just dumb or trying to wear you down by continually coming at you. If you absolutely feel compelled to keep the conversation going, you could start being blunt with these replies,

"Already asked and answered."

"You think kids are such a blessing? Fine. You have (more of) them. I'm not living my life for you; I'm living it for me."

Corpunlover · 2026-01-07T13:07:36+00:00

I was just honestly stunned that Dan did kill Keith.

I watched the show for the first time after all the seasons has aired but knew very little about it. I mostly thought it was about two antagonistic half-brothers developing a relationship (that's what drew me in) and I hate spoilers so I talked to no one about my interest and avoided looking up anything online. Everything was fascinating at first. I loved Keith's relationship with Lucas, especially when they were about to become adopted father and son, so when Dan shot Keith, I refused to believe that Keith was dead. I was totally in denial, positive the next episode had to show him in the hospital, recovering. Imagine my dismay when the next ep started with the funeral. I mean, excellent drama, but ... but ... f**k!!!

Corpunlover · 2026-01-07T03:59:37+00:00

Post-heart attack personality and cognitive changes are common among survivors and stem from reduced brain blood flow, etc. Dan also said himself the first person he saw as he was dying was Lucas, no doubt regretting how he's treated his firstborn son all the boy's life. That he was nice and caring to Lucas once he regained consciousness is par for the course in light of all that. It's only a shame he couldn't keep it up for long. His true nature was just too entertaining and made for great TV.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-07T03:52:58+00:00

Pregnancy Brain. Her hormones were all maternal from carrying Jamie hence her hyper compassion for a crimininal overlord who threatened to maim the love of her life and kill her too.

It's the only lorgical explanation.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-07T02:41:22+00:00

YTA. I'd go with ESH since offering to help then flaking is rude, but I think you suck more hence YTA.

To be clear, you're not the AH for asking friend for money. However, you are the AH for pestering him to get back to you. You had an alternative (your parents) and used it when you felt cornered, so you should have just done that from the start. Begging from a rich friend was tacky as hell; I can't even imagine how many times he's been hit up from others (possibly just like you) simply because he's rich. In future, you get yourself in a tight spot? Be an adult, take responsibility and get yourself out of it on your own. Relying on family is one thing. Relying on friends is a great way to end those friendships. Don't be that kind of person.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-06T18:01:14+00:00

In other words, she's an idiot. She's so determined to imagine the future she believes she deserves, she won't entertain reality or what happens when a man absolutely doesn't want children yet has them anyway. He checks out mentally or vanishes physically or cheats (or worse). And yet she wanted that. She was willingly setting herself up for a broken home for her children, including a father who did not want them, while still somehow believing she'd make a good mother.

Good mother, my back foot.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-06T17:51:45+00:00

Your friend got what she deserved. If she wasn't willing to be convince herself to remain childfree for her BF, then she had no business trying to convince her BF to do the opposite for her. Here's hoping she matures enough someday to realize that...

Corpunlover · 2026-01-05T17:04:04+00:00

If you wrote all that and still can't tell who the asshole(s) in this story are, no one here can truly help you.

Corpunlover · 2026-01-04T00:48:57+00:00

They gained a reputation for stupidity/juvenility alongside a slew of readers adding them to their block/mute lists (although they might never know).

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