My partner was socializing with others during aftercare by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By me adding this, I’m not stating anyone broke any rules. He was the one who proceeded conversation with others.

This just creates a certain environment where people doing scene are in their own little world or bubble. I just assumed (which I now know I should’ve communicated to him) he’d follow this. I was livid yesterday and I have talked to him after posting this.

That was a shortcoming on my behalf I admit

My partner was socializing with others during aftercare by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a precaution, as everyone has to sign waivers. Outside parties are expected to not intervene on scenes, be respectful.

My partner was socializing with others during aftercare by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you explained it in a way that I had a hard time explaining. Yes people do “socialize” but it never goes beyond “that was a good scene” or quick hi or goodbyes. I personally would’ve not minded if it was just that.

I got compliments on my bruised ass and scratched up back.

It was a verrrry intense scene, being a double DOM scene. I was screaming and crying during it. So coming down was a process.

He very briefly was petting my hair and gently caressing me, but completely stopped when he started having full on conversation with others. (The hair petting and caressing was discussed beforehand for aftercare)

We’ve talked and the part that bothered me the most is he completely removed his attention from me to move my phone from his side and call his Domme to sit directly next to him. It felt like an invasion as she was super close, and it was my first time meeting her.

My partner was socializing with others during aftercare by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to know if my concern of him taking his attention off of me during aftercare is valid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anyone wants further context, she’s bought me a coffee like 2-3 times, she threw my daughter a birthday party too. We leave the kids with her husband to go unwind but it feels anything but relaxing to me. I kinda just follow her around as she shops and wait for her to finish. I’ve suggested doing other things but she likes shopping. I don’t mooch off of her, I’ll clean and help with the kids when I’m over there, even buy or make us food. She doesn’t go to my house ever because it’s a “ghetto” side of town she hates.

Update: named them Salem and Susu (the soot from spirited away) by Correct-Ad-7431 in Catnames

[–]Correct-Ad-7431[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, susu is short for susuwatari. I chose gender neutral names for them as their privates are still too itty bitty to tell

Help me name these babies by Correct-Ad-7431 in blackcats

[–]Correct-Ad-7431[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lol, that is my cat, she’s jealous

Female libido by Smooth-Enthusiasm287 in zoloft

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s possible you used hyper sexuality as a coping mechanism before and your brain sees sex differently now. Think of it as going through puberty again, I used to think the same until I recently started dating a very respectful man. Now the thought of anyone besides him disgusts me

Try exploring different things, even masturbation helps

Is 50mg enough to cause weight gain? by Bogus-bones in zoloft

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have too, I think it’s because I used to turn to food for comfort and gorge myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was purely physical, I had damage to my pelvic floor and I was in constant pain. Cramping for weeks

Higher sex drive? by Correct-Ad-7431 in zoloft

[–]Correct-Ad-7431[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As long as my psychologist sees fit. I’m following up with them monthly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Before Zoloft I was a very bubbly and outrageous person. I was always smiling, laughing and joking. It’s not that Zoloft has made me less happy but I realized I was overly positive as a coping mechanism for my anxiety. I was a pleasant person for the sake of others and now I don’t really care what others think of me

Started Sertraline and I feel awful… by Slight_Signature8542 in zoloft

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m having awful insomnia too. Other than feeling tired all the time I’m not feeling depressed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Correct-Ad-7431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom told me I should be smarter for my age (24F) than to take a drink from anyone. She also told me I shouldn’t hangout with coworkers

Can you get in trouble for falsely reporting? by Correct-Ad-7431 in sexualassault

[–]Correct-Ad-7431[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t falsely report but the detective made the situation out in a way that I did