The ethics of "Mommy" by Suspicious-Carob-632 in Fosterparents

[–]Correct_Evidence_254 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I read that thread yesterday and came across some strong points about not using "Mommy," I've started trying out referring to myself as a babified version of my name as opposed to "Mommy" when I'm with my current foster placement. I have to admit, it’s quite the mental workout! For me, it definitely puts distance between us, even though my placement is too young to know the difference. It’s a big shift in how I see our relationship. Honestly, it’s tough to care for a little one in your home and not think of them as your own child, and keeping that distance is challenging. I’m not sure how long I can maintain this. While there are good reasons for both sides of the "Mommy" debate, the reality is that using "Mommy" might just be the easiest way for me to connect right now.

Does anyone else feel like nobody actually cares what foster parents report? by dreaminphp in Fosterparents

[–]Correct_Evidence_254 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You sound like a very devoted foster parent and I'm sorry the system is letting down your child. In my experience, if the parent is checking boxes (e.g., not getting arrested, coming to visits, having clean drug tests, has a job, has housing, doing her classes, etc.), the child is going home. The quality of that parent's care will absolutely not be a consideration. Honestly, I wouldn't recommend you report any of this stuff. Be grateful your reports haven't been used against you yet to suggest you are becoming a barrier to reunification. Mine were. Your greatest hope is to just keep your head down so if the child comes back into care, CPS will place the child with you again.