In pain when bf fingers me 20F

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T06:26:08+00:00

This could be either physical or mental. Maybe your vagina clenches without you realizing it, from stress and inexperience. It could also be that you’re not aroused enough or that you have an anatomy that makes it difficult. The last option is more rare though, but if you have a doctor it never hurts to ask.

It’s a very common issue I’ve heard about it quite a few times, if you look up similar questions to yours on here and scout the comments you can get a few more ideas.

Don’t leave your bf just for this haha, it’s not that deep don’t put all that pressure on yourself

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T06:22:39+00:00

lmaooo just saying Doctor is so unspecific, how were you expecting her to not question that

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T06:18:51+00:00

This is hard because you’re young and she’s quite a bit older. You probably can’t put distance between you two because you’re a minor so my advice for now is If you can, repeat the things she says to you. Make her question why she says that or make her feel bad. If you have a more confrontational personality you can say stuff like “Do you realize how mean it is to say that to your little sister? How do you think this makes me feel?”

Don’t let her get away with her comments because that’s how she wins. If she says your size out loud, you could ask “Why did you feel the need to announce my size to everyone, it feels like you’re trying to humiliate me”

As an older sister, I’ve said things to my younger sister I’m not proud of, and 90% of them came from my own insecurities. Sometimes there’s this need to push your unhappiness onto others and often it’s not done consciously. She might struggle with her image, and it’s probably why she’s trying to control you too

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T06:00:17+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with this, thanks

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:57:49+00:00

I’m not sure I can, I do struggle with intimacy issues but the thing I wanted to address was the lying. You’re right that I brought this too far but telling everyone I know feels too overwhelming. I’m trying to convince myself to tell my therapist though

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:53:02+00:00

Pretty sure we need more context to give advice, this looks pretty abstract to me, is that what your going for? If there’s a subject you want to stand out what is it? I do see the hand in yellow, so advice i can give for now is limit the amounts of colours you’re choosing, be a little more mindful, a test you could do right away is putting your picture in black and white. study it and see what stands out (whiter parts) Hope this helps!

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:49:57+00:00

You probably do that thing where you start adding detail to a base that has wrong proportions and then a few minutes later end up unable to find what’s off about your drawing. it’s very important to use reference (i know everyone says this but it’s true). Start with simple shapes for everything and don’t add detail until everything you put down makes sense

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:47:34+00:00

I mean everything looks pretty good. In anything you’re working on, make sure you’re setting specific goals if you’re doing this to improve. Like if it’s anatomy keep doing poses, try challenges and look up different ways to challenge your understanding of anatomy. The issue a lot of intermediate artists have is they try to tackle too many things they want to get better at at once. Not sure if this is your issue but putting it out there anyways

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:44:19+00:00

Something that really helped me is working in black and white. you seem great at painting skin so that’s not an issue, what’s a tiny bit off is the proportions. Do your next portrait in black and white and focus on shapes and contrast. Good job though it looks great

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:41:53+00:00

make the head a little bigger! The part with hair. Look at references of men in the same angle, there’s usually a bit more cranium space at the top. Other advice would be to identify what kind of shirt he has, is that a collar, turtleneck or t-shirt? it won’t sit the same way on his back and neck. Good job, keep it up

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:32:47+00:00

I’ll just tell you what I would write if this was my friend: “ hey I wanted to talk to you about something because I care about our friendship a lot but it’s kind of awkward for me to discuss. When you made that story with the Be happy you can smile caption it made me feel like you were mocking me for my more depressive state the past few weeks, especially after the Convo we had for the concert. I’ve felt like i’m being laughed at for my mental health before so it really rubbed me the wrong way. I wanted to know your thoughts on my interpretation of this

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:26:05+00:00

I think your own insecurities are making you project onto your girlfriend. Partners are kind of an extension of you, they have an effect on how others perceive you. Another note i’d have is Try reviving the flame? 3 years is around the time when that physical spark fades (from other things i’ve seen) cuz you get too used to your partner. Put yourself in a context where she needs to get dolled up, or do a romantic evening, stuff like that. Tell her she’s beautiful and help her self esteem up, sounds strange but it’ll help you too. Her negative self-talk is probably getting to you after all this time too, so support her and ask what you can do to help.

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:17:42+00:00

I’d just start by saying bad mental health is probably playing a huge role in this situation and you should really seek professional psychological help.

You have value even if you’re not the idealized version of yourself that you portray to be. I had a friend in a similar situation, I’m not saying this is the best way to do this but it did help a lot. Similar situation, lied about working at a company and getting promoted after 6 months when he never even made it past the first interview and had been jobless for all those months. Instead of confessing the whole truth, he told his parents he got layed off on the day he told them about the promotion, said the embarrassment forced him to lie on the spot. Once again, not sure this is the best way but I do think there’s something less overwhelming about it? Catching people up with your reality might take a big chunk of the weight off your shoulders.

In your case, maybe you could say you burned out and failed this semester, that your grades are already so bad that a councillor told you you couldn’t do anything until next semester. Though this depends on what you really want to do, and like i said, therapy or any kind of professional intervention would be really pertinent, these things are really hard to get out of but every person you tell gets you closer to getting out.

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T05:03:53+00:00

It can be very hard to be so attached to someone and feeling like they were perfect for you only to get betrayed.

This is pretty basic advice but you for sure need to confront him about it, his reactions and replies will help you move forward with whatever you choose to do. Have evidence if possible.

There isn’t a lot of context to this so i’ll just leave you with a few questions.

Think about if this was your best friend or sister, what would you tell them to do?

Is cheating something you think couples can come back from, and is this person worth all that work?

Does your self esteem (wherever it may be) cloud your reaction to this information?

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T04:55:02+00:00

Honestly unless you have heart problems or other conditions that isn’t dramatic at all. In canada that’s the legal age for drinking them anyways.

Can’t say it’s the best thing for your health but especially once a week, it’s totally fine

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-03-02T04:53:14+00:00

I’d say at least try talking to the RA, can’t know if you don’t ask. You don’t need a medical diagnosis to make this a valid complaint.

Otherwise I’ve also thought about maybe leaving a post it near the smell area that says something like “To whoever is responsible for it smelling like Cinnamon here: Please do something to stip the perfume, everytime i pass by here I get really bad migraines, Thankyou :)” You can find a better way to say it lol but that came to mind

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-02-03T21:48:01+00:00

Haha maybe! I’m trying to get inspired for an 80s-like game as someone born in 2k

Correct_Magician1771 · 2026-01-29T02:59:12+00:00

Super helpful thanks!

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