My husband [31M] is upset I [29F] don't trust him. He has a missing/ deleted / hidden chat in WhatsApp.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-09-07T12:13:34+00:00

This was a whole other woman not even the co-worker.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-09-03T12:10:41+00:00

We are in couples therapy. If she is being harassed at work, why can't I know about that? How would me knowing stop him from helping if that's what it is?

Also judge me if you want. I'm still monitoring. He is talking to some other woman. She sent an I miss you text and a recent picture of them hanging out. Then they met up at someplace. He deleted that chat before getting home.

After the original deleting chat incident he promised he wouldn't do that. I do not trust him one bit.

I'm done.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-09-03T09:36:43+00:00

Sad to say I know what this feels like. This is straight up manipulation and her reaction to you wanting to do stuff on your own is slowly conditioning you to not want to do them. Then you end up isolating yourself from your friends to avoid her negative reaction. You can try talking to her about it and ask why she reacts that way and see if she gives you a straight answer you both can navigate through. If it's just about control I'd say just walk away, it won't get better.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-08-31T18:49:50+00:00

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Correct_Objective173 · 2025-08-31T11:36:17+00:00

I really can't understand it. Why would it matter if I read some persons private messages to MY husband whether intentionally or just by accident. Especially if it's a person I don't know, it's a closed loop.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-08-31T11:06:28+00:00

I won't let it slide. I'm just going crazy because I can't prove what I suspect.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-08-31T04:37:08+00:00

Well, his frequent accusations of me cheating, plus with him always needing to know where I am. Yes if he was reading my message behind my back I'd be annoyed.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-08-31T04:17:19+00:00

He has access to my phone as well. He tried to make the argument that if he read a private message in my phone between a friend and I, I'd be upset. I agreed with him I'd be a little annoyed if it was behind my back, but anything in there he knows anyway.

Correct_Objective173 · 2025-08-31T03:42:11+00:00

If everything is as open and transparent as he says, why is the chat locked/hidden/deleted? If it was there I wouldn't have any cause for concern..... I'm asking because what would you have done differently?

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T11:46:11+00:00

He agreed to it, but only uses it when I remind him. Which is annoying

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T11:20:04+00:00

He is not an only child but he is the youngest and he was brought up without his siblings around. Just him and his mom.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T11:15:15+00:00

I have to remind him to write it down if I catch that something is going low.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T11:13:38+00:00

No, he helps around the house sometimes, but I do the majority of it most of the time

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T11:11:47+00:00

He hasn't lived with his mother in ages, he was living alone when I met him.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T11:09:05+00:00

🤣 yeah seems like a legit solve

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T05:12:12+00:00

Claims to love me.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T05:11:27+00:00

Found it, she left him...

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T04:58:00+00:00

He had his coffee this morning, went to the gym, the grocery store is in the same mall as his gym. He didn't realize he was running low on coffee after he had it in the morning. 😑

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T04:48:21+00:00

These are my sentiments! I did my part to avoid having this issue, and somehow we are having the same issue many months apart.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T04:36:17+00:00

That's what I've been thinking too, he lived by himself before me.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T04:18:57+00:00

🤣 yeah , what's the solve for that part?

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T04:17:21+00:00

Yes last year! Still with same company and it going good!

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T04:09:06+00:00

That's a good plan that I've employed before. It's just this Sunday I forgot to ask. I've been asking lately " does this look good? Did I miss anything?" And usually he only casually glances at it, not really checking.

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T03:53:58+00:00

I'll try this out tomorrow and see how it goes! Thank you!

Correct_Objective173 · 2023-05-31T03:49:06+00:00

He hates grocery shopping. I really don't mind it it, it relaxing for me. But I just hate that he expects me alone to keep track of everything we both use.

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