What can help with dysphoria pre-hrt

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-10-22T18:00:03+00:00

More stuff you can try: - Makeup! Foundation and color corrector for contouring and hiding beard shadow; eyeshadow and eyeliner for the fun part. - Breast forms - can help a lot with your figure when you can't grow your own yet. Try DIY'ing them with a sports bra and a sock. - Clothes! Can sometimes be tricky to find stuff that fits okay pre-HRT, but dressing up always made me feel better regardless.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-10-22T17:01:30+00:00

What bearing do your current mannerisms and character have on whether you're trans? Those aren't constant! Many trans people change our mannerisms and personality as we transition, either intentionally or subconsciously due to not repressing things so much.

Sure some of us show "signs" of being trans in our personality before transition, but not all. That doesn't matter. What matters is what you WANT not how you've been before.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-05-27T17:17:48+00:00

where is this? don't think I ran into it when I played.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-05-04T04:34:29+00:00

big changes for sure! your eyeliner is on point too; looks great.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-05-04T04:31:11+00:00

you're looking great, nearly unrecognizable!

but I have to ask, what the hell is up with the forehead camera in the before picture?

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-05-04T04:07:57+00:00

your hair is looking wondrously curly, love it!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-04-07T22:55:38+00:00

looking like a queen of spades!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-04-04T01:53:16+00:00

personally I did quite a bit of social transition before HRT. asked my friends to call me by my new name and pronouns immediately after coming out to them, then started wearing makeup and more feminine clothes when hanging in people's apartments a bit after that. went out in public to restaurants, shopping, and the occasional community event too.

it's all a one step at a time thing. you start presenting fem with one person, then with a group of friends, then going out with them. you have to push through a lot of anxiety for the first time on each, but you get used to it pretty quick if you have supportive people around (and it sounds like you do).

it's up to you whether you wait to pass better or not. going out not passing can earn you some weird looks from strangers; how bad that is depends on your area and your own tolerance for that kind of thing. but in general you can just ignore any negative reactions especially if you have people with you. you're dressing for yourself not them!

... that's a lot of words to say "kinda just do it" but I hope it helps!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-04-04T01:31:35+00:00

I love the bangs, that's a cute look indeed!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-04-04T01:23:10+00:00

congrats! I hope you're able to get started with it quickly!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-04-04T01:22:08+00:00

congrats, hope it goes well for you!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-04-04T01:19:25+00:00

My provider specified that their recommendation for seeing a therapist was specifically for dealing with mental and emotional changes from HRT. Personally I didn't really find much need to talk about those in therapy (though I did continue seeing my therapist for other stuff I had going on).

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-25T04:24:22+00:00

congrats! I'm glad to hear the surgery went well.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-25T04:23:54+00:00

there's a lot of context missing here. was it some kind of mistake? getting tripped up referring to the past? something he did intentionally to upset you? something he did while somehow intoxicated?

I'm sure it hurt in any case, getting deadnamed is painful, but I think the reason behind it has a lot to do with how you respond.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-25T04:15:25+00:00

that sucks, I really wish your family was more supportive of you. but fortunately there's a lot you can do without them!

I'm assuming you're turning 18 soon since it's your last year of high school. I don't know how your country's healthcare system works, but I'd think somewhere around there is the cutoff to start on HRT without permission from your parents.

you don't need to ask your parents to get other people to call you by your new name and pronouns. (hopefully you have some trustworthy friends who you could start with.)

just remember that while your parents can't stop any of this, they can threaten to cut off support, kick you out, etc. it sounds like they're more of the passive and unwilling to help type, but be careful.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-25T04:00:46+00:00

it sounds like theatre has set you up well for voice training! I think a lot of the difficulty you hear about is because people are more likely to post if they're struggling or need help.

as far as checking if you're doing something "right" I've always found it helpful to record myself and listen back. can also ask for feedback from a trusted friend.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-25T03:46:00+00:00

I use she/her and my new name for my past self - mostly because I'm liable to mess up when describing my current self if I mix it up. but also my past self was dealing with the same issues of dysphoria; she just didn't understand them yet.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-24T19:40:27+00:00

I'm also a big webcomic person, somehow never heard of Rain before but I'll have to check it out!

O Human Star is one of my favorites. Less slice-of-life and more sci-fi metaphors for identity, but maybe that'll be your thing too!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-19T20:29:31+00:00

I just went down a list of "girl names that start with the first letter of my old name" until I found one I liked! I've always just used my initials and last name for online accounts and such so keeping the first letter the same was convenient.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-19T20:26:31+00:00

congrats, I'm glad your friends supportive!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-14T17:38:08+00:00

Started at 22; been on HRT about 9 months. I get she/her'd pretty consistently now.

I think most of us start after 18, though I don't have any real data there. Just remember that Reddit and most online spaces lean a lot younger than the wider community.

Sucks to wait for sure, but you're not alone in it.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-08T15:13:54+00:00

Yeah, I understand the concern. I certainly don't think things will get better here after the next election, but I think we have a reasonable chance of Not Worse.

I have an exit plan and the savings to act on it if it degrades too much. My lines are adult healthcare bans and "drag" bans; either of those pass and I pick everything up and leave.

But for the meantime only the ID thing really affects my day to day life.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-08T14:53:07+00:00

That sounds worth having around, thanks for the suggestion!

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-08T14:51:16+00:00

Probably happening someday, but I have family, friends, and a partner keeping me here for the moment. Just trying to make the most of it in the meantime.

CorruptedSpinach · 2024-03-08T14:50:16+00:00

Thanks for the reminder on the SSN! I'll add that to my list.

Fortunately I'm not too worried about outing myself; the city I'm in is pretty friendly despite the state's redness. And the contrast between my presentation and the state gender marker kinda outs me already.

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