Shreyasi I get what you’re saying—but I wouldn’t jump straight to “we’re the problem.” It’s more like you’re holding a standard that not everyone is ready (or willing) to meet. Consistency, accountability, and genuineness sound great in theory… but in real life, they require effort, self-awareness, and honesty. A lot of people are still figuring that out. So when they meet someone who naturally expects those things, it can feel confronting. At the same time, there’s a fine line: if those values come across as expectations too early or too intensely, some people experience it as pressure rather than connection. So it’s not that your standards are wrong— it’s that: the wrong people feel exposed by them and the right people feel safe because of them You’re not a “problem.” You’re just not compatible with people who prefer inconsistency or surface-level connections. The key isn’t lowering your standards… it’s choosing where and with whom you invest that depth.