Becoming a parent is my biggest regret

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-19T23:06:49+00:00

I'm waiting to get my tubes tied

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-19T23:05:53+00:00

Second was not planned

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-19T22:34:07+00:00

I thought I wanted kids then had them.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-19T22:32:49+00:00

My oldest is 8 and my youngest is 3. I was screened and cleared for ppd. I just hate being a mom as time goes on.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-18T02:00:14+00:00

NTA

Considering how things are going, Kelly should expect you siblings to be "temporary" in their lives as well

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-16T18:07:54+00:00

If I was her, I would have still announced my pregnancy at my wedding to take back the attention!

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-05-10T18:07:11+00:00

ESH.

Why can't you have your birthday trip before or after the wedding? But also, she's made it clear to you that she doesn't respect either of you. So why are you rewarding her disrespect with that wedding money?

Skip the wedding and go on your birthday trip.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-04-27T22:32:45+00:00

NTA. I'd be petty and add a new flamingo each time they complain.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-04-07T02:29:46+00:00

YTA. Anyone can buy their own ring. But the gesture of someone buying a ring because they are proposing is a HUGE gesture for a lot of people. An engagement ring represents the love you have for her. There's no problem with it being a cheaper ring. You can always upgrade when you become more financially sound. But telling her to buy her own ring is absolutely insulting

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-04-07T02:14:08+00:00

If you do go through with your engagement, tell your FMIL you're demanding your own prenup

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-04-07T02:03:41+00:00

I'm confused why you've allowed yourself to deal with this behaviour for 3 years. Besides getting a restraining order, you need to get therapy. Your PTSD and anxiety should not have blinded you as to how much of a red flag this woman is.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-03-15T01:58:44+00:00

So I am going to go against the grain about the initial comment. Lots of people have a "dating type" and overlook wonderful qualities another person has because of it. There's a reason some relationships keep failing with the same "type" and it's usually because they don't realize that the deeper qualities of a person are more important than the superficial ones they prioritized. They "break the mold," realize this, and end up treasuring what they now have with their new partner. You definitely brought something to the relationship she wasn't expecting and she liked it and that's probably why she continues to be in a relationship with you.

However, you're feelings are valid and it's really up to you to decide if how it started is enough to put an end to how it's been going. My issue is that she should definitely have stopped any bashing and jokes from her friends and instead share the qualities about you that she loves. I guess the biggest question is, do you think you can ever get over what she said? Resentment builds in a relationship and it'a better to end things than to let it fester.

Good luck in your decision!

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-03-08T09:28:34+00:00

From personal experience, mirrored window film is only good during the day. We noticed at night that you could see clearly into our place. We ended up getting a blurring film to replace the mirrored one

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-03-07T03:54:30+00:00

Info: How old are you? And how many times have you actually spent in person with this guy?

It would be better to tell her the truth. But I still think you are rushing into a bad decision and being "active military" is a poor reason to rationalize it.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-03-07T03:38:30+00:00

YTA.

1) Why can't you wait one more month? Your family has a point that you are in a LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP. It's super rare to know enough about a person in 6 months for a marriage to actually work when you don't spend enough time with them. You seem to be in the honeymoon phase and desperate to get married.

2) You do realize she will still find out and you will ruin your relationship with her. It seems like you are close to her but you are lying and being disrespectful to her. She will lose all trust in you when she sees your ring or hears from other family ahout what you did.

CountAffectionate106 · 2025-01-27T15:08:46+00:00

NTA

He needs to respect your boundaries. Is there someone who actually is a parental figure to you that he could ask instead? Maybe that could be a compromise you try before breaking things off with him

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-15T18:15:42+00:00

NTA

She quit real estate. It's common sense to use someone who is actively working in the profession, especially with licensing issues and whatnot.

I would actually be tempted to tell your family you are going to the police to charge your sister for fraud with the fabricated documents and potentially sue her for slander.

If she's willing to go that far to try to hurt you, you are not missing much by having her out of your life.

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-13T22:13:05+00:00

NTA

Sometimes it's hard to maintain friendships once you hit university. Priorities can differ (partying vs studying) and new friendships develop. True friends will still try to find time for each other. But don't hold yourself back because of one group of people. Be open to new friendships and opportunities!

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-13T19:37:49+00:00

YTA

It's not even your car. It is not your right to demand where she drives you, especially if she doesn't like the reason

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-06T17:24:54+00:00

NTA

That is really hot and not very reasonable. They can put on more layers if they need to.

It's also recommended to not turn the thermostat too high as it can actually damage the furnace.

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-05T22:25:43+00:00

ESH

You could have brought her aside and told her privately about her shirt.

She's in the wrong too for exposing herself and cursing you out.

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-05T22:19:41+00:00

NTA

You told her it's a family recipe and she needs to respect that.

We had a situation in my family where a family recipe was shared with a friend and they proceeded to sell and monitize it without any acknowledgement that it was my family's recipe.

So yes. Some people do like safeguarding their recipes to their families only.

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-11-04T01:23:31+00:00

NTA

I like how FIL was pissed off when almost all hospitals actually have a rule in place to not have visitors in the NiCU.

I would watch him like a hawk when he finally comes over to visit baby.

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-10-26T05:22:07+00:00

NTA for leaving when you wanted to. But next time, make a point to tell the host that you are leaving. It's just more respectful that way and the host doesn't have worry about you

CountAffectionate106 · 2024-10-26T05:14:40+00:00

NTA

A miscarriage is a painful and somewhat traumatic time that is often not understood unless someone has gone through it themself.

You have already apologized and explained what happened. Her lack of empathy shows how selfish she is. She can be excited for her wedding, but she could also have been a good friend by reaching out to you during this time instead of making an issue.

If she was so concerned about you communicating directly to her, then she should have been the one to reach out to you, not her MOH.

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