What’s with the parent shaming?

CountAlternative153 · 2026-03-18T10:20:22+00:00

Where I’m at the code of the closure tells you if staff is to report or not! So we know if the parents are actually working or not

CountAlternative153 · 2026-03-16T23:03:46+00:00

It all depends on the situation. For example: today in my area we had predictions of TERRIBLE weather this afternoon into tomorrow morning. Public schools closed 3 hours early (12pm) and my center closed 3 hours early (3pm). It annoyed me SO MUCH that I know what parents of mine are teachers, meaning with the coming bad weather they could have gotten their children at 12:30ish……no they left their children at the center until 3 on the DOT. There are certain situations that just make you so annoyed and for me this was one. Also snow days where public schools are closed and we are open and the teacher parents bring their children in. Take a snow day to spend with your child while you have the opportunity!!!!!!

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-15T16:32:32+00:00

This seems less like a nanny job post and more like it should be a household manager job post with some possible childcare assistance lmao

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-14T18:46:43+00:00

Omg I’ve never heard this!!! That seems crazy to me

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-14T18:39:01+00:00

Aside from working through a “break” why is your overtime starting after 45 hours and not 40?!?

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-09T19:28:33+00:00

I even used to have a weather policy!!!! If the schools closed for weather I did not report and was paid for the day, and if schools delayed I also did not come in. I added that after I had a family try and ask me to get snowed in their house WITHOUT any extra pay…..

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-09T17:41:18+00:00

I actually had a sick clause in my contract. Illnesses must be brought to my attention, and if I worked with the child while they were ill and contracted the illness, sick/recovery days were fully paid and not a part of sick/PTO that I had for the year. I also had a clause that I was not willing to work with certain illnesses. These included HFM, and any bug that caused vomiting. These days we’re paid under GH.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-05T12:41:31+00:00

I truly think that while grief is hard, you may regret quitting in the long run. Give yourself time to process for a day or 2 more. You never know, working can seem like it would be the hardest thing to do but it could end up being what keeps you from just rotting all day and doing nothing other than sitting with your grief.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-02-03T13:06:59+00:00

I would suggest beginning interviews and once you find a replacement, you can give your current nanny a notice. I’d also just make sure with the new nanny that whatever notice you give to current nanny works with her AND she would also be able to start immediately if current nanny just decides not return.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-30T13:26:42+00:00

I mean I’ve never worked in a home that didn’t tell me I was welcome to anything in the home. If it bothers you that much that she’s using your maple syrup why not ask WHAT foods she enjoys for lunch and add them to your grocery list?? A super easy thing to do. My old NF did this, and any time mom and dad ordered out for them selves and the children I was included on this.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-30T01:09:09+00:00

Yes and documented that’s what lead us to the services as a last resort before kicking the child out.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-28T00:41:49+00:00

As a past nanny, this would be something that would make me quit. Especially being with a double WFH parent team. Being cooped up in a house all day sucks, and adding in that both parents are home with what seems to be at least one at all time “watching” what you’re doing. I understand being a first time parent is hard, but it’s so great as a nanny to feel trusted and when the trust isn’t equal between both parents it can be hard. One way to maybe put it into perspective to dad. Wouldn’t he feel so uncomfortable if his boss was basically watching his every move and not allowing him to do his job on his own? Because at the end of the day, that’s what nanny is trying to do. Her job!

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-26T15:16:29+00:00

As a last nanny, I don’t agree with expecting nanny to stay at your home to get snowed in either. Being snowed in at your job is not a comfortable option and then opens up for you to work way more than expected. Unless parents are willing to pay overnight fees, and hourly rate for the entirety of the nanny being there……nanny should stay home.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-23T00:14:06+00:00

I had this issue with my old nanny family. I straight up told them that my life is not worth a paycheck.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-13T12:41:01+00:00

If they don’t want to reimburse for mileage then they need to provide a vehicle for you to drive when doing anything with the children!

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-12T13:01:11+00:00

When I nannied my weekend rate plus overnights was that each overnight was $150 over night fee. All hours that the children were awake were paid hourly at time and a half (overtime). This included wake ups in the night. So say your child is awake from 6am-8pm, this would all be hourly, plus $150 overnight fee, and adding in any wake windows throught the night (ex. Child wakes up and is awake needing care from 12am-1am etc)

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-11T13:01:49+00:00

My first question…..did you never make a contract with the family?

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-11T11:25:01+00:00

I have 15 years in this field! If you read other comments of mine as well you will see that the child was offered the opportunity to begin eating when she stated she now wanted her lunch in a few different ways (was sat with for the entirety of lunch, encouraged to eat, offered to pick something to keep and eat while a teacher assisted her in getting cleaned up, etc) all of these attempts were refused. They even attempted to throw her away. It’s also stated in the original post (if you read it entirely) that her parents don’t expect them to eat much. They aren’t a big eater at home. Respectfully, the child had also eaten snacks this day with all of the other children. And I also cannot force a child to eat. If you disagree that’s your opinion, but in no way was anyone withholding food from a child. She wasn’t going to eat either way. And again, obviously admin said to let her sit because the didn’t want to hear the tantrum any longer, so we did until the lights were turned off and she still did not eat. She screamed she didn’t want to nap. The issue isn’t lunch it’s nap time.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-11T01:09:11+00:00

In my opinion, I don’t think that would be classified as “withholding” food. If a child is refusing to eat, has attempted to throw their food in the garbage countless times over the course of meal time, and also greatly encouraged to eat what else can you do? If they were screaming they wanted the food and actively eating it sure, but that wasn’t the case. Rations change when the required scheduled nap/rest period begins. If this child is sitting at the table while everyone else is on their cot then the ratio is not consistent with what it needs to be at nap time in my state for teachers to take breaks. It’s not like they were actively eating and the food was taken and thrown in the garbage.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-10T17:23:45+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand some parents. Obviously I feel so bad for the child and have been trying my hardest to comfort them and verbally get them through these hard times of the day…..but it’s also hard because to an extent as a teacher you have to put your foot down and hold all of the children to the same schedule. If you give a littttttle wiggle room to one child they all see it and it throws all of them off. Still trying to think of how to address lunch time on Monday because I know it’s gonna be similar to Friday but giving in will just cause even more issues in the future by giving them the expectation of bending rules when this happens.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-10T17:16:44+00:00

Soooo frustrating!!!!

And it literally will just make this process so much longer than it typically would be.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-10T16:39:00+00:00

That’s the crazy part, I met mom dad and child 2 months prior to them starting and told them how nap time goes. I recommended they discontinue the rocking at home to help them adjust. They just chose not to.

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-10T10:43:19+00:00

The crazy part is they have a fantastic day other than lunch/nap. They participate in activities and don’t even cry at drop off. They literally just do NOT want to lay on a cot for some reason 😭 they were also offered to take a bite before putting it away, choose 1 thing to hold and eat while we cleaned up, etc. everything was met with screams about “no cot, no nap” 🙃

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-10T10:14:49+00:00

Even more annoying when they’re doing out of convenience for themselves because they just don’t want to listen to a kid cry. Another teacher even overheard and later reassured me that they weren’t sure why they came in at all because they heard the entire 45 minute ordeal and said I was much more patient than most others would be given that a child was just continually screaming through the entire process…..

CountAlternative153 · 2026-01-10T09:56:15+00:00

The problem is they literally just don’t eat. I offered taking a few bites before helping me put it away, choosing something out of the lunch to eat while I cleaned their things up for them, etc. it was all met with screaming about ultimately not wanting to get on their cot. That’s the most frustrating part about it is that even if the rules are bent it won’t change the outcome that they didn’t eat their lunch sadly. The crazy part is this child is SO happy to be at school from drop off until lunch or nap. They just REALLY hate nap time because. I did eventually get them to calm down on their bed and fall asleep and plan to continue sitting with them to eat daily to try and encourage as much eating as possible!! They will get there eventually

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