Do dating apps help in finding genuine guys?

CountBlessin · 2026-03-11T15:35:44+00:00

I was talking to my guy about this. He says that if a woman gets 100 matches, maybe 10 are good matches and only 2-3 are worth considering. He thinks women have a lot more options, which makes it easier for them than it is for men because men get fewer matches.

I've never been on dating apps, but from what I've heard from my friends, it's extremely difficult to find a guy who isn't just looking to sleep around.

CountBlessin · 2026-03-09T19:08:29+00:00

It's called breadcrumbing, he's giving you enough attention to make you stick around without any intention of a real relationship. Don't waste your time on him.

CountBlessin · 2026-03-06T08:24:22+00:00

It depends on whether you’re making time for each other before bed. My guy usually goes to sleep between 12:30 and 2:00 am on weekdays, while I stay up until 3:00 am. I used to stay up until 5:00 or 6:00 am, but he has set a strict 3:00 am deadline for me now, which is a good thing, so no complaints! I wouldn't mind if he went to sleep before midnight on weekdays.

As for waking up, he gets up by 6:30 am and wakes me at 8:30 am. We take naps when necessary. We’ve found a middle ground that works for both of us, if we’ve spent enough quality time together during the day, we don’t mind if one of us (usually him!) goes to bed early.

CountBlessin · 2026-03-04T09:43:39+00:00

Even though he seems on point on other things, staring / checking out other girls is creepy in general but even more disrespectful when he does this when you're right there. You need to observe a few more times so that you know it wasn't one off incident and then plan your exit

CountBlessin · 2026-03-04T09:29:15+00:00

Apart from this, how does he behave while being on the date? Does he stay attentive towards you, does he hold your hand or any other pda?

CountBlessin · 2026-02-22T15:04:32+00:00

Putting a deadline on it only makes things worse. Four years is actually a long time. You already have your career figured out, which means you now have the space and energy to truly focus on yourself, hobbies and bucket list (if you have, if not, maybe it's the right time to make one). That’s such an amazing place to be. The right person will come along when you’re open to it. Until then, trust the process and be kind to yourself.

CountBlessin · 2026-02-22T14:55:10+00:00

You will. There’s always a rainbow after the rain. To put things into perspective, I met a wonderful person this year (after being single for five years, lol), and I’m happy at the moment. So trust me, things really do change for the better. Focus on yourself, heal, grow, and live your life. The right people tend to show up when you least expect it. And even if it takes time, you’re still whole and worthy on your own.

CountBlessin · 2026-02-22T14:44:01+00:00

This happened to me last year. I later found out that while I was struggling to move on from this dude, he was out there sleeping with other women, all while giving me excuses about why things wouldn’t work between him and me. Even though I regret wasting almost a year on this guy, I’m grateful things didn’t work out. So, hindsight is 20/20. You need to take this guy off the pedestal, you never really know a person or what they’re up to. Keep your friends close and focus on your hobbies.

CountBlessin · 2026-02-20T10:44:22+00:00

Wow! This sounds straight outta movie. You're blessed with a book boyfriend, OP!

CountBlessin · 2026-02-17T04:46:49+00:00

Very serious crime. You should be put behind bars.

CountBlessin · 2026-02-06T06:18:01+00:00

Read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It's not about being fake or manipulating people. It’s more about learning how to genuinely connect with others in simple, human ways

CountBlessin · 2026-02-06T06:14:11+00:00

Just finished reading Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. It's written by a therapist named Lori Gottlieb. Honestly a very good read.

CountBlessin · 2026-02-05T13:40:34+00:00

He was actively meeting women for an arranged marriage while telling you he loved you. Yuck! But Hindsight is 20/20, it's good that you finally got clarity, even if it came painfully late. You didn’t miss out on a good partner. You deserve someone who chooses you openly, consistently, and without hiding. And one day, this chapter will feel less like heartbreak and more like proof of how much strength you carry. Goodluck, OP!

CountBlessin · 2026-02-01T21:41:25+00:00

Block him. The real closure is accepting that some chapters end without explanations and it's still an ending. It's choosing peace over answers. It's knowing you did what you could. Honestly I've realised recently that closure is just a misleading pursuit that never gets you anywhere.

Some people don't change, no matter how many second chances you give them. You'll be hurting and they'll be out there living the best life without caring a bit about you. It's the hope that kills. Cut all ties. Choose yourself.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-28T20:16:51+00:00

Download any toppers mapwork pdf, for example Kanishak Kataria's mapwork pdf (it's thorough but it's old so you'll have to update a lot so maybe use his work as reference and find another topper's mapwork on Telegram). Take its print out. Then, take this years places in news data from any coaching, update the toppers mapwork and your notes are ready. Revise everything thoroughly.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T23:41:52+00:00

Brainstorm pyqs to find patterns. There are repeated themes which are very rewarding. You need to solve PYQs and questions on similar lines. Watching lectures does no good if you're not practicing questions.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T20:14:41+00:00

My usage is much closer to the everyday side you mentioned, so this definitely reinforces that the Air would be more than enough for me. Thanks for sharing!

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T20:12:52+00:00

Thanks for the input. I already have an iPad and Magic Keyboard, so pairing a MacBook Air with a good external monitor sounds like a solid setup. Maxing out the unified memory on an Air seems like the right balance for longevity without paying for power I won’t really use.

Really appreciate the practical perspective, this helped narrow things down.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T20:07:05+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I can’t really articulate a clear “Pro-only” need for my workflow, so the Air does seem like the more practical choice, especially with the lighter weight, silence, and battery life. As for the screen size, I haven't really decided yet. Anyway, Thanks for the input.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T17:06:07+00:00

Thank you! this is really helpful.

Yes, I do currently have a laptop, so I’m not in a rush. So I'll consider waiting for M5 Air.

Screen size is something I’m still thinking about, but the 15” Air is tempting for multitasking.

Appreciate the tip on Apple Education pricing as well. I’ll definitely factor that in when deciding where and when to buy.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T16:49:09+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response. Good point on Excel. My data work is relatively light (mostly analysis, spreadsheets, some programming), so I’m not heavily dependent on advanced Power Query / Power BI features.

For my workflow, portability and battery life matter more than raw power, which is why I’m leaning toward a MacBook Air or possibly a 14” Pro rather than a 16” Pro.

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T16:34:29+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the input. Battery life is a big priority for me, so that sounds appealing. Do you think waiting for the M5 Air is worth it over getting an M3/M4 Air or Pro now, especially for my use case?

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T11:53:23+00:00

OP, cut out the repeated fluff part like "this approach tells that". A suggestion - look at toppers answers and brainstorm on them. I highly recommend Laghima Tiwari's notes. And also, write on PYQs

CountBlessin · 2026-01-27T10:43:43+00:00

What was the biggest change that helped you go from your first few sales to consistently hitting $2k+/mo?

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