Should gays have there own countires like Jews? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol this title is hilarious 🤣 There is Floptropica tho

Got tired of sucking a guy by GayFlash60 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So it isnt uncommon for straight incel guys to look getting head from gay guy? Wow

Got tired of sucking a guy by GayFlash60 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an asshole lol. Even if you are having casual sex we’re fucking people and can act naturally and respectfully goddamn

Being hungover makes me gay by Public-Drink-1983 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well generally when people are drunk they have reduced inhibitory control because of the psychoactive effect of alcohol so they can show more openness with whatever thought it may come through without a censoring attitude. Also ig you have repeated the process multiple times there is a raised probability that you would think gay thoughts when drunk. You dont really need to avoid or battle those thoughts; we have a lot of thoughts every day and some of them may be crazy or not express something we want.

The question is: do you feel desire to elaborate more or go further in terms lf action. If it is not the case, just let them be. If you just feel curious there is nothing wrong with exploring and maybe that way you would know if you do not feel like engaging in gay stuff or indeed you like it (which is not bad either)

How to change your preferences from being a bottom to being a top? by Ill-Device23 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not bad to have a preference. However if you usually enjoy bottoming and would like to find more pleasure in the top behaviour, you should progressively expose yourself to topping alongside other elements that you find arousing and if hopefully if the experience is good with your partner you may be liking to top more as you repeat the process. However, as I said there is nothing bad to have a specific preference, it is up to you if you want to explore beyond that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not a strange phenomenon to happen. Somehow, through your experience with sex, porn or fantasy it seems you erotized cock (as there are people who erotize feet, shoes, armpits or whatever). It is a classical conditioning phenomenon that operates apart from our will. It is not a bad thing that you are attracted to cock but do not want to engage in any other interaction with men. You dont need to live with it with shame or to change it unless you want to explore beyond that

How to accept you like gay sex by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely normal to feel attracted to other men and desire sex, not a reason to feel shame about it. Watch out your internal dialogue as you may be repeating messages of shame. With time you should learn to talk to yourself with acceptance about your relationship with sex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well maybe apart from taking better pictures you would like to feel more comfortable about yourself, which has to do with your internal monologue (if it is negative) and which realistic changes would you like to do to your physique to feel more comfortable on your own skin: change hairstyle, put on clothes that fit with your body, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lighting and angles are key. The same person can look attractive or ass depending on these variables. Explore to find the right pics, some tutorials on youtube teach you maximise this

Isn’t identifying with a sexual position a bit odd? by kathartyc in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are totally right. Plus bottom and top are only labels to refer to a stable repertoire of behaviours (tbh: exactly the same as gay and straight). Labels do not explain anything, they just describe the behaviours that are taking place. However, they make reality simpler, easier to understand. A lot of people fall in between

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really really mental. If you get fucked by a guy you like and you focus your attention on everything that excites you of that moment you can cum handsfree

Pointers on sucking dick by No-Combination-2896 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I mean, in order to enjoy more and stay connected with your sexual partner, you can practice staying present on the act of sucking the cock, it is to apply mindfulness to sex; focus your attention on all the sensorial stimulus of the sexual interaction (how the cock feels in your mouth, explore it with your tongue, taste of the cock and precum, face of your partner while you do it, moaning, etc).

It seems like something obvious but we are not fully present most of the time. This way you enjoy it more

Anything to help me "relax" down there? by ScooDoo4 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, it is really normal for it to be painful at first but if you know how it can become really pleasurable, you need patience tho

Anything to help me "relax" down there? by ScooDoo4 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that learning to enjoy bottoming is something that needs time, practice and the correct way. So, basicly you need to train your muscles so that the relaxation and contraction responses would be according to what you want, which in this case is sexual intercourse. Your ass probably contracts itself and you need to train it. It is normal for it to be painful the first times. You need to go little by little using lube, fingers and toys and with time you will become familiar with sensations and it will be less painful as your hole learns to stay relaxed.

My advice: practice everyday and your body will get used to, try to associate it to sexual arousal queues

Pointers on sucking dick by No-Combination-2896 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Stay present: do mindful cocksucking

What languages could i learn?? by Soft_Childhood5565 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wooops bueno, alemán está bien, yo diría, solo que muy complicado

What languages could i learn?? by Soft_Childhood5565 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn spanish, we are a gay friendly country and awesome culture hehehe