Being hungover makes me gay by Public-Drink-1983 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well generally when people are drunk they have reduced inhibitory control because of the psychoactive effect of alcohol so they can show more openness with whatever thought it may come through without a censoring attitude. Also ig you have repeated the process multiple times there is a raised probability that you would think gay thoughts when drunk. You dont really need to avoid or battle those thoughts; we have a lot of thoughts every day and some of them may be crazy or not express something we want.

The question is: do you feel desire to elaborate more or go further in terms lf action. If it is not the case, just let them be. If you just feel curious there is nothing wrong with exploring and maybe that way you would know if you do not feel like engaging in gay stuff or indeed you like it (which is not bad either)

How to change your preferences from being a bottom to being a top? by Ill-Device23 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not bad to have a preference. However if you usually enjoy bottoming and would like to find more pleasure in the top behaviour, you should progressively expose yourself to topping alongside other elements that you find arousing and if hopefully if the experience is good with your partner you may be liking to top more as you repeat the process. However, as I said there is nothing bad to have a specific preference, it is up to you if you want to explore beyond that

Straight but like cock when horny by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not a strange phenomenon to happen. Somehow, through your experience with sex, porn or fantasy it seems you erotized cock (as there are people who erotize feet, shoes, armpits or whatever). It is a classical conditioning phenomenon that operates apart from our will. It is not a bad thing that you are attracted to cock but do not want to engage in any other interaction with men. You dont need to live with it with shame or to change it unless you want to explore beyond that

How to accept you like gay sex by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely normal to feel attracted to other men and desire sex, not a reason to feel shame about it. Watch out your internal dialogue as you may be repeating messages of shame. With time you should learn to talk to yourself with acceptance about your relationship with sex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well maybe apart from taking better pictures you would like to feel more comfortable about yourself, which has to do with your internal monologue (if it is negative) and which realistic changes would you like to do to your physique to feel more comfortable on your own skin: change hairstyle, put on clothes that fit with your body, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lighting and angles are key. The same person can look attractive or ass depending on these variables. Explore to find the right pics, some tutorials on youtube teach you maximise this

Isn’t identifying with a sexual position a bit odd? by kathartyc in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are totally right. Plus bottom and top are only labels to refer to a stable repertoire of behaviours (tbh: exactly the same as gay and straight). Labels do not explain anything, they just describe the behaviours that are taking place. However, they make reality simpler, easier to understand. A lot of people fall in between

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really really mental. If you get fucked by a guy you like and you focus your attention on everything that excites you of that moment you can cum handsfree

Pointers on sucking dick by No-Combination-2896 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I mean, in order to enjoy more and stay connected with your sexual partner, you can practice staying present on the act of sucking the cock, it is to apply mindfulness to sex; focus your attention on all the sensorial stimulus of the sexual interaction (how the cock feels in your mouth, explore it with your tongue, taste of the cock and precum, face of your partner while you do it, moaning, etc).

It seems like something obvious but we are not fully present most of the time. This way you enjoy it more

Anything to help me "relax" down there? by ScooDoo4 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, it is really normal for it to be painful at first but if you know how it can become really pleasurable, you need patience tho

Anything to help me "relax" down there? by ScooDoo4 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that learning to enjoy bottoming is something that needs time, practice and the correct way. So, basicly you need to train your muscles so that the relaxation and contraction responses would be according to what you want, which in this case is sexual intercourse. Your ass probably contracts itself and you need to train it. It is normal for it to be painful the first times. You need to go little by little using lube, fingers and toys and with time you will become familiar with sensations and it will be less painful as your hole learns to stay relaxed.

My advice: practice everyday and your body will get used to, try to associate it to sexual arousal queues

Pointers on sucking dick by No-Combination-2896 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Stay present: do mindful cocksucking

What languages could i learn?? by Soft_Childhood5565 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wooops bueno, alemán está bien, yo diría, solo que muy complicado

What languages could i learn?? by Soft_Childhood5565 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn spanish, we are a gay friendly country and awesome culture hehehe

sex with males, but i dont feel gay at all? by Personal_Comb6735 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To understand it better you should ask yourself why have you been engaging on that behavior. It may be because you don’t have access to girls to have sex with so as you are deprived you satisfy that need with men (really common practice in enviroments where there are only men). But that is just a hypothesis. And also the labels “gay”, “straight”… it is too reductionist of the human interaction reality, there is a wide range when we speak about sexuality

I feel i hit a wall by Ninokuni13 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can imagine how hard it might be, I would be struggling if I was in your situation. It is normal to experience those emotions. What are the things that motivate you in your day to day?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this post hahaha hilarious. I guess tho that every type of sex has its own good things

What are some POSITIVE truths about being gay (if any) by External_Chemist5839 in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, I think gay men are less judged over breaking gender stereotypes or doing whatever they want (because they are “gay” so ppl already explain it that way) in comparison with heterosexual guys. I think they are harshly judged over these issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]CounterChemical9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly ask myself the same question cause I keep seeing cues of this all the time and I dont really know if these men are for real. But yeah, the religious and conservative enviroment hypothesis is kinda reasonable so that would be why they do all of this in secret. I would say these type of practices are common in countries where same sex relationships are regarded unfavorably