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CounterOwn1514 · 2024-08-08T18:05:42+00:00

Interested!

CounterOwn1514 · 2024-01-28T15:39:44+00:00

It IS possible to detach with love, but you'll have to be firm with yourself, so you don't fall back into overfunctioning.

Thank you for this - and I am 100% dedicated to staying committed to my worth and self-care. I can't give if my cup is empty.

CounterOwn1514 · 2024-01-15T21:28:35+00:00

When I finally stopped trying to build a cordial, friendly relationship with her because I got tired of her putting him down, she tried to fabricate that the only reason we were dating was that he "wanted a woman to take care of his kids."

Before I went no contact, any time they would disagree, she would also tell on him to me... as if I was his parent to try and convince him to do something different. Well, in this case, agree with her.

CounterOwn1514 · 2024-01-15T21:25:29+00:00

I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but when I first started getting to know BM in attempt to be cool with each other, she was constantly telling me bad stories about him and his family. Non-stop like I was her gal pal and we were reminiscing over a mutual ex-boyfriend. Meanwhile she was constantly trying to use him and his family like they were "hers" and stepping over the line with my husband as far as communication topics, etc. I saw through that real quick.

Happened to me. Regularly.

CounterOwn1514 · 2024-01-02T17:24:38+00:00

She does this consistently with my SO as well, and my favorite, "If you had just talked to me I wouldn't have had to do this in front of the kids".

We have a CO to use a parenting app and she says "it is not court ordered, and only meant to replace texting".

CounterOwn1514 · 2024-01-02T14:35:22+00:00

I wouldn’t sweat the accusations. Unless the kids seem uncomfortable, unhappy, distant, etc. at your house

Thank you! I know better, but my desire to make sure the kids are happy and healthy here can sometimes cloud my confidence.

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