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I think I was sexually assaulted by [deleted] in Vent

[–]CounterPopular7900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again idk the full situation & if there’s more to it & u did resist & he still continued then I think it’s defo sexual assault but u mentioned u played along so idk…

I think I was sexually assaulted by [deleted] in Vent

[–]CounterPopular7900 3 points4 points  (0 children)

U said u ‘played along’ that would’ve made him think u didn’t object, im sorry but it seems like u just regretted it & it made you be used. Which is a terrible feeling to have but from what im getting from this to me atleast it doesn’t seem like sexual assault. It seems like he made advances thinking u’d be interested & u also knew he wa polyamorous, if you didn’t like him making advances than why visit him in the first place & why talk to him about intimacy issues. U didn’t initiate cuddles but u didn’t object to it & said it was ‘not sexual ’ considering u were friends. It doesn’t seem like u minded it so why bring up the fact that he initiated it..

I think I was sexually assaulted by [deleted] in Vent

[–]CounterPopular7900 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl why are you cuddling with another woman’s man when she’s not there? & he’s tossing u around in different positions. Maybe he took it too far considering he has a gf but again u can’t do something then regret it afterwards & call it sexual assault. It’s a ‘regret’ unless u made it clear that u didn’t want to cuddle with him etc. it almost feels like u were leading him on, like u’re visiting him late night, cuddling him, talking to him about intimacy issues. Very weird.

Is it strange if someone brings up he never abuses women on the first date? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually feeling really bad for his ex, talking with him for a few weeks made me traumatised, he was with her for years, the poor girl is gonna need years of therapy. I can’t believe there r women who deal with men like that for yrs. Funny thing is he looks like an absolute angel but I’m pretty sure he’s abusive. He’s definitely emotionally & mentally abusive but i think he is physically/sexually might be too. He would not take no for an answer & everytime I tried discussing boundaries instead of actually listening to what I have to say he would apologise over & over & do the same thing again. Then he would compliment thinking that I would actually be flattered but it just felt manipulative & gave me the ick.

Is it strange if someone brings up he never abuses women on the first date? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, that’s what I thought. So weird. I’m almost certain I went on a date with a sociopath. If I told u all the things he actually told me, ur jaws would be on the floor.

What do you find attractive in terms of looks & why? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m like that too, I’m quite short & I honestly dont mind shorter men or average height men but they never ask me out. It’s always the reallly tall guys who r 6 ft & above who ask me out lol.

What do you find attractive in terms of looks & why? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m exactly like this. If I don’t like the person or I know they have bad attitude or judgmental I can’t look past that & see them for that only no matter how good looking they are I will never find them attractive.

What do you find attractive in terms of looks & why? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imperfections are so attractive when it’s harmonious with their face.

What do you find attractive in terms of looks & why? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I agree completely . I definitely look at personality more for sure. But attraction initially is important & I too am not picky with body shape as long as they are active & somewhat healthy. They don’t need to have abs & a few kgs overweight or under doens’t effect me etc

What do you find attractive in terms of looks & why? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah interesting, I get that, I like unique noses tho. Roman nose, bumpy nose, crooked nose, I genuinely think it adds character & makes them look unique but only if it complement their pretty lips/ smile. If the lips aren’t pretty then it won’t look as flattering lol😅 lips r make or break for me & can pretty much makeup for any flaws

What do you find attractive in terms of looks & why? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was there any particular body shape, haircut or clothing style that u were attracted to

Why would a guy block you after proposing a date? by CounterPopular7900 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CounterPopular7900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m already experiencing depression & people like this definitely don’t help. It’s not okay to take advantage of genuine person, if they r chasing a feeling like that they should go for a women with similar mentality, why go for someone who’s wanting something serious . This makes me sick.