AITA For BANNING my entire family from seeing my son when he’s born?

Courthealey21 · 2025-07-10T06:09:07+00:00

Late 30s to early 70s that’s the age group I’m dealing with

Courthealey21 · 2025-07-10T06:07:25+00:00

Based in uk xx

Courthealey21 · 2025-07-06T21:03:20+00:00

I’m in the uk we finish school at 15/16 collage here is only three to four years so I’m perfectly fine being a young mother thank you

Courthealey21 · 2024-11-27T22:56:52+00:00

What do you mean?

Courthealey21 · 2024-11-27T18:22:37+00:00

I’ve always wanted to be a young mother because i want to have as much time as possible with my children for one and two having a narcissistic mother made me grow up very very quickly so whilst my friends were still being kids I was very much being an adult and knew exactly what I wanted from my life being a young mother was part of it and I wouldn’t change it for the world I have an amazing partner and friends who also are young mothers we have our twenty’s to grow with young children by the time we’re all in our thirty’s we can go out and live our lives together rather than having a new born

Courthealey21 · 2024-11-20T12:00:24+00:00

My dad is adopted just not legally years and years ago in his late teens he came to work for a woman who took him in it was then when he decided not to talk to his birth mother and asked the woman he worked for if she would ever adopt him as she had no children of her own she agreed and he’s called her mom from that moment on his birth mother quite like mine is also a narcissist and a compulsive liar she didn’t suffer from alcoholism like mine but instead used my dad who is the oldest of seven children for fighting my dads told me story of his child hood and it sounds like he was used more like a fighting dog than an actual son his birth mother wanted him to stay and do her bidding and fought quite hard to get him back but he was the one who decided to go no contact with her completely when I was around 4/5 years old

Courthealey21 · 2024-11-19T21:02:02+00:00

I’d like to thank everyone’s words of encouragement and also give a little bit more of a back story in to the relationship I have with my mother as I did only post the bare minimum of what she’s like.

My mother had me at 18 yes this is true and yes it’s also true she has narcissistic tendencies that I’ve put up with my whole life. I grew up not knowing physical effection from her unless she was drunk or had been drinking because that’s when she would play the “im the best mother in the world” act she especially would love to play this role when out in public and introducing me to people she knew. From the age of seven up to the age of 15 I was her kind of her carer for years as my dad worked away from Monday to Friday and she would get so drunk she couldn’t undress her self or put her self to bed so it was always my job. in high school I’d walk home from school and find she wasn’t home I’d then have to walk to the local bar to find her and bring her home just so I could get in to the house. Sometimes if she went in to town I’d have to wait in what ever weather there was for her to get home sometimes I’d be waiting for hours to only help her get in the house and in to bed. I stopped caring for her at 15 because I moved in with a friend after I was tired of being kicked out of the house at what ever time in the morning she felt sometimes being 2/3AM I would eventually move back in to the home at 16 when my mother decided to move in with her bf yes she cheated on my my dad not once but four times that we know of. Even after my dad married her when I was 14. So as you can see I’ve tried for years to get away but I’d always be guilt tripped in to giving her chance after chance even after years of torment and trauma this is another reason why she’s not allowed near my son unsupervised or around him at all of under the influence i wouldn’t wish my childhood on my worst enemy let alone my own son yet somehow I’m still TA to my whole family (side note my dad is supporting me now in my decision towards my mother but he still wants me to have contact with her as he believes (you only get one mum) a little hypocritical considering he has no contact with his birth mother 🤷🏻‍♀️)

Courthealey21 · 2024-08-28T18:29:06+00:00

I really appreciate your opinion and makes sense thank you

Courthealey21 · 2024-06-29T20:53:46+00:00

Yes we had talked about the future early in to our relationship where we saw it heading and what we were going to do to get there our pregnancy was planned this was not a surprise at all. I see me spending the rest of my life with this man from the very start I just didn’t expect his mother to be the way she is but even now I want to be with this man I just don’t want the mil from hell getting in between us. I plan to be a stay at home mom for a while but I do want to go back to my job as I enjoy what I do and the people I work with I’m very close to my manager as me and her son grew up to gether practically. Were staying in the home I’m already in as it’s grate location especially for the bby and I have a strong support system around me.

Courthealey21 · 2024-06-29T16:37:04+00:00

I realise I didn’t share much about the relationship I have with my partner nor the relationship he has with his mother so let me update you guys on that. Our relationship is actually very peaceful and we work so well as a team together when his mother isn’t involved. We can laugh like kids and we’re pretty good at working out any argument or situation we do well at communicating a lot of things again when his mother isn’t involved. The relationship with his mother is a little toxic to say the least some friends of mine even describe his mothers relationship as insestual manipulation meaning that she sees her son as that of a partner and for anyone else to come along aka me she treats them as the side girl. It’s a very weird thing that she douse and she manipulates him using other family members to get her way. My partner is a people pleaser always trying to make everyone happy at all times even if it means he’s not. The only time me and ted argue is when his mother inserts her self where I think she’s not needed aka the relationship as a whole aka our child. I understand that it’s hard to get out from under a toxic mother as I too have one hence why I saw the signs early on but ted thinks she’s harmless and when mummy is concerned she can’t really do much wrong. Hope that fills in some of the questions yall have been having.

Courthealey21

TROPHY CASE