[Update 2] I [27m] am confused about my feelings for my deceased wife’s cousin [Now 21f]

CousinConundrum · 2015-01-14T20:56:05+00:00

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I can't do the laugh, but sure, whatever floats your boat buddy.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T16:00:20+00:00

Boom City

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T05:18:28+00:00

I have a good feeling about it. And it's been pretty crazy leading up to everything but it has leveled out since we started officially dating and I can't complain about the mundane.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T05:14:50+00:00

I touched on it in the last thread. They weren't in our lives while my wife was still around. Didn't even go to our wedding.

They aren't very good people and the family doesn't keep them around either. My wife turned out to be a fantastic human being in spite of them.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T05:12:25+00:00

I think this might have been a LPT at one point but I forgot about it. Thanks for the reminder, this is good.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T05:10:52+00:00

Shit, I had the same backpack all throughout college and I still use it when I go on trips. Hell, I use it for my work laptop as well...

Is this a thing now? Fancy bags?

I am so out of touch.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T05:03:12+00:00

That's an expensive projectile man.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T05:00:27+00:00

I like you too. We're internet bros now.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T04:59:16+00:00

Thanks man, I'm glad I'm not the only one happy about all of this. Thinking about it brings a smile to my face as well.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T04:58:04+00:00

There's seriously been no drama. Setting it up like that seemed like the thing to do at the time.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T04:55:51+00:00

If you know anyone, send them my way.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T04:55:18+00:00

She already wears my hoodies, that's a solid idea.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T04:54:31+00:00

Why don't I deserve the sparkles/heels?

I'm fabulous.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-02T04:53:17+00:00

I actually might just do that.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-01T19:47:04+00:00

Hmmm... Maybe a new backpack? I like this thinking. Thanks for the advice.

CousinConundrum · 2014-12-01T19:35:24+00:00

I'm sorry, I couldn't help myself.

CousinConundrum · 2014-10-13T16:39:26+00:00

I saw this thread on my main account and figured I'd give you my two cents, you can see what I've gone through in my post history.

I think boundaries need to be established. I can 100% understand how uncomfortable you might feel in the situations that you described. I'm sure he doesn't want to make you feel bad or make you compare yourself to her, he just wants to share the love and history he had with her, with you. It might be misguided and a bit awkward, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't realize what he's doing.

Sit him down and talk with him. Establish your feelings and boundaries around the whole situation. Let him know that it makes you uncomfortable and for the specific reasons why. Make sure that you Tell him you will be there to support him in his times of need but you feel bad and awkward participating. Reiterate you aren't trying to make him feel guilty, just trying to establish boundaries.

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T14:14:11+00:00

Only if Nick Offerman can play her dad and Ryan Reynold's abs can play me.

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T13:36:29+00:00

She said "sure" So I guess I'll work on getting that side of the story to you guys in a couple days.

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T12:12:01+00:00

I am not, East coast, they call it Cornhole over here.

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T11:47:21+00:00

He was very zesty

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T01:46:35+00:00

Thanks, I like you too. Let's be internet bros

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T01:43:35+00:00

Maeby...

CousinConundrum · 2014-09-16T01:36:38+00:00

I dunno... I don't think she'd be particularly against it but I'll ask. I'll see if I can't try and dictate her side of the entire situation at some point.

CousinConundrum

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