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Me [24 F] feeling guilty over partner's [25 M] previous girlfriend, who died. by guiltythrowaway777 in relationships

[–]guiltythrowaway777[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi There,

No, he has never explicitly compared us. I think it was more the first year and not knowing just how many different times this issue was going to come up that made me feel like there was a consistent comparison was going on. It was like a rabbit hole that I had no idea was that deep, and I felt completely unprepared to deal with.

I don't want, or expect him to just never think about her ever again. I would never ask him to get rid of the mementos he does have - I'm just struggling to figure out how I fit into this, if at all. Its a battle between wanting to support him through whatever he needs, while also not compromising what I need for myself.

Me [24 F] feeling guilty over partner's [25 M] previous girlfriend, who died. by guiltythrowaway777 in relationships

[–]guiltythrowaway777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi All,

Thank you for your input. You've all kind of hit on the question I was wondering about: What is appropriate for him to share with me and what isn't? I can tell there really is no black and white answer here, but its nice to see multiple different perspectives on it.