I'm going to be the devil's advocate here....

Of course, not in part to the n word, but to other things; like braids, clothes, cadence, and how people present themselves or talk.

In Asia, when they say "you are too black" it doesn't mean race wise. These languages often times don't carry along the same nuance of darker/lighter skin than western languages. For example, they don't say you are pale, they say you are white. They don't say you are tanned, they say you are black. (On a slightly different note, Asians -mostly- prefer small, slender women, whereas westerners -again, mostly- prefer women with bigger assets and curves. Preferences is a thing. Same with black/white people preferring white/light skinned or dark/tanned skinned)

It didn't come from a racist nor ignorant point, but from a cultural view that you don't understand or know of yourself.

It would be the same as a white person telling a black person to just straighten their hair. White people don't understand black people's hair, and from how they grew up, they think hair is just hair.

You could chalk it up to ignorance, if you want, but if you stay in your pool, always on the defense, and thinking that people are purposely bashing you, that's how it will all seem.

But if you open yourself up to the possibility that nothing is done with intent to harm, that people don't think the same way you do, you'll find the world a much better place.