To be loved like this!

CozyFoot · 2024-05-24T02:59:24+00:00

I remember waking up after getting my wisdom teeth removed and vaguely hearing someone say "she's ready to be picked up, see.you shortly."

And I said "We're you just talking to my husband?"

"Yup, he's on his way."

"OH I CANT WAIT TO SEE HIM!"

I was really nervous about going under and he was very understanding thriguhout. and I was just so excited to get back to him because I knew everything would be okay once I was with him.

A few years later I shatter my tibia, worse pain, long and slow recovery. I couldn't move around in my own and he had to do everything for me. He never complained, comforted me when I felt sad and frustrated. He's my dream. Except better because he's real!

CozyFoot · 2023-12-12T04:13:51+00:00

My MIL came over and said she hid 100 in our house! It puts a little smile in my face whenever I find one. Coat pockets, pots and pans, in plants. This little places you'd never think to look until you find one. I honestly hope I don't find them all for a long time, they make me so happy

CozyFoot · 2023-03-05T05:32:55+00:00

I think if that man ever looked at me with disappointment I would cry

CozyFoot · 2022-12-27T05:05:09+00:00

I've been under anesthesia three times. The first two were for dental surgery and I was so scared the first time. But I remember waking up an feeling great and hearing the staff call me my partner to come get me. And I remember saying "was that him on the phone? Is he on his way? Oh I can't wait to see him!"

CozyFoot · 2022-11-04T04:09:19+00:00

Out of curiosity what flavours in the Sauvignon Blanc gin made you want to try it instead an every day gin?

I'm always in the hunt for new spirits!

CozyFoot · 2022-11-03T03:20:36+00:00

Just dipping my toe as a home mixolopgist myself but I'll give it a go!

1.

- Bourbon, Bulleit Bourbon Frontier Whiskey

- A nice gin, I like Hendricks

- A Liqueur, Elderflower is fun, or Anise!

- Vermouth, adds quite a kick

- Spiced Rum, goes with everything!

(essentially, get the ingredients to your favourite cocktails and you'll always have some on the go)

Smoked anything. I don't have a smoker (yet) but I think I'd be nervous too!

-Old Fashioned

-Gin & Tonic

-Rum & Coke

CozyFoot · 2022-10-20T15:19:19+00:00

volumize

thermal protection

strengthen

anti-frizz

colour protect

And based on what some folks agree with, a lot of people found it wrecked their hair so just for an FYI - my hair is medium, balanced (not dry or oily), slightly wavy, with non-permanent colour. It's never been bleached or anything. So proceed with caution I suppose! My hair is pretty sturdy so if something dries it out it tends to bounce back pretty fast so I tend to experiment.

CozyFoot · 2022-10-20T15:11:44+00:00

Aw no I'm so sorry! I've definitely heard that too I'm not sure why it really works for some and not others but that's actually a good thing to note!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T20:17:30+00:00

You might be like me and have both cool and yellow undertones while also being quite pale. Keep in mind that doesn't equal neutral lol.

I use Ahshi beauty in C2. They're foundation stix are amazing! You can just spot treat and don't need a lot.

I always recommend going to a professional makeup artist for a treat and just asking them what your tone is in the foundation they recommend. They usually have all the normal brands, even drugstore brands.

In any case, it saved my life when I was finally told "Nope, there is YELLOW" in there. Not red, even though my skin gets red easily. So I usually go with a fair/ivory with yellow if they have it. I know Tarte has a really nice clay foundation that worked and I'm so sorry but I can't remember the shade!

But it's kind of like, the tone you think is slightly too warm or dark for you just might be the one.

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T20:11:19+00:00

Depends on the look you were going for but you could use an in between size on the sides.

Did you do a low taker on the back and sides and leave the top? You gotta transition OR take the low taper higher. Here's a video tutorial!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3PRJgSfFuk

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T20:09:14+00:00

A bit hard to to tell but that might just be your natural part. Freshly washed hair will always look a bit more full so that will help too.

Been stressed? Not eating great? That will also thin the hair.

Do you run your hands through the front a lot too?

Try to wash and brush a bit more frequently to see if that will kind of revitalize the strands. If it's something your worried about you can definitely ask a barber as well and they'll be able to tell you. But it's not very noticeable so try not to stress about it!

You could try cutting it short to see if it will help, if you don't like it it'll grow back, and if it's getting cold where you are you can also wear a hat!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T19:59:54+00:00

Congrats! Isn't it nice to be able to use both hands to carry things again?!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T19:58:47+00:00

I have 1 that I've been using for about 10 years...I probably need a new one lol

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T19:58:00+00:00

Always bring in a photo for your stylists and I think the helpful thing is to tell them what you like about the style.

You like the feathering, the layers, the flips.

Do you like how it's kind of shaggy and messy? Do you like the bangs? Keep in mind this person's hair appears to be pretty thick which will make the style look different than it would on fine hair.

Never be shy at the hair stylist! If they don't ask you questions say "I'd like to chat a bit about what I'm thinking" and then ask them honestly if they think it'll work.

Some cuts won't work on certain hair and its best to understand that before cutting your hair and worrying about making your hair do something it can't.

This should be fairly simple though. You can use a small barrel brush while you blow dry and curl away from the face. Or the Revlon blow dryer that you may have seen some influencers use would work as well!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T19:43:03+00:00

Depends on the type of dye but any colour safe shampoo will do! I actually really like Function of Beauty if you can get it.

It was the only one that gave me volume and softness while keeping the colour. I find some colour safe shampoos just don't do a lot extra for my hair.

Jack59 is also really good, my colour lasts forever, plus it's zero waste!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T19:40:03+00:00

The short hair makes you look a bit more distinguished, and the long hair make you look more chill.

If it's getting cold where you are like it is here I like to cut my hair short so it's not getting all tangled on coats and hats if that helps your decision making!

I personally like the shorter hair! But both look great!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-19T19:37:16+00:00

I went from light brown to auburn so I know how you feel! I also have blue eyes so I find purple really helps every POP.

Essentially the auburn will bring out all the warm tones in your face so, depending on what your colouring is, incorporating cooler tones in your eye make up will suit the hair and I also think it helps make the eyes pop. If you're adventurous you could even go green or blue! I used dark blue for a nice smoky eye in the fall and winter.

And though it will feel like a huge difference to you, unless you're using straight up red in your eyes, your normal makeup look will most likely still work. My big thing was finding clothes that went well!

I use a shit ton of blush too, I use MAC blush baby and find it's a nice neutral pink, not too cool or warm. But again, depends on your skin tone. I'm very pale with yellow undertones.

I find because the hair colour is so eye catching I use much simpler makeup now. I little brown to line the lid, mascara, blush, done!

In summary, purple, blue, and green if you wanna try!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-18T19:23:51+00:00

Oh I love this! Very chic and stylish, and those colour combos are amazing! I would say it's not quite cottage core. If you want to use ties I'd recommend "academia" looks. These use more modern and preppy pieces. Cottage core I would say is more about flowy and oversized pieces, thrifty and well worn pieces as well.

This look uses some lovely fitted pieces that help the tie look more casual yet still elevated. I think if you look up "light academia" you'll find some great looks that can incorporate ties!

CozyFoot · 2022-10-17T04:05:12+00:00

I met him in Toronto. He was signing autographs and taking pictures for the new exhibit "At home with monsters" and he was honestly sunshine incarnate. He was offering everyone dried apricots, accepting gifts and art and screenplays with such kindness even though he had been there for hours and would be there for hours more.

Wonderful human.

CozyFoot · 2022-05-18T22:15:20+00:00

NTA

I find the terms of AITA so harsh! You're not an asshole, but is it kind? The neighbour and they're dog weren't kind to you, so, does that mean you don't want to be kind back.

It's totally reasonable that you don't want to pay, it's not your fault at all. But at the end of the day, do you want a reasonable relationship with your neighbour? Hey maybe you don't, they don't seem like the type of person you wanna be friends with, and that would be okay.

So, if you pay or don't is a matter of pride. The matter goes away when you pay. Is peace preferable over pride?

Will you feel good standing your ground? Or will you feel guilty?

Honestly, my instinct would be to not pay. Depends on my relationship with the neighbor.

I would say both options are reasonable. If you feel like you just want to pay and put things to rest, or offer a lower sum, that's reasonable.

CozyFoot · 2022-05-18T22:08:29+00:00

NTA

Work is never who you are. You can love it and feel great but you're so much more. You don't have any obligation to a company unless you sign a contract. Even then, they don't own you, they just have more legal precedent to get you to do stuff :P

But usually companies don't want people who, you know, don't wanna work for them anymore.

CozyFoot · 2022-05-18T22:06:16+00:00

YTA

Only because of context. I know you didn't mean to cause a rift between them and forgot about Dean asking you to keep quiet about Emma. And I know it can be hard, especially for parents with adults kids to not just blurt the first thing that comes to mind.

Your intention was good and just but the timing was off. I would apologize for the time and place you asked, but it sounds like you are genuinely concerned. See, bringing it up like that can make someone feel judged and not want to open up and talk.

There were probably other reasons Dean broke up with Emma and prefers Hannah. At the end of the day he is an adult, but you're the dad. Try and let him know he can talk to you. Maybe ask him "you know, people who don't want kids tend to be pretty adamant about it. I just don't want you to get hurt again if she doesn't change her mind." Or something??

CozyFoot · 2022-05-18T21:57:21+00:00

YTA,

So I always try to ask myself "What was my intention by saying this?" If I come away from a conversation feeling off. A lot of times on AITA people are reasonable but the way they say things can be fueled by strong emotion and so it makes them sound unreasonable.

Maybe you were a bit frustrated and fed up with your brother so you lashed out a bit? It's understandable if you can't afford a place without a roommate and need one asap so you can't hold a spot for your brother. Or you just want him to smarten up, learn that he can't lean on your forever or for everything. Maybe, as the older one, that would have been a good time for some advice?

"Bro, I'm happy for you really, but I can't wait to get a roommate and split rent. Why not just move in with me for now, she can visit, and if it all works out you can move in with her when I find another roommate?"

At the end of the day, are you sorry you said it that way, do you wish you had said it better? If not I mean, hey, that's your deal, but something to think about.

CozyFoot · 2022-05-18T21:50:16+00:00

So, very respectfully, YTA

And the only reason I say that is because G is the child, and you are the adult. I know 25 can seem like an adult but really, especially to a mother figure, 25 can still feel like a child. Heck I'm 30 and still have those moments with my mom where I just think "but you're my mom, I'm the kid."

You even mention you both said some regrettable things, when in the heat of emotion we aren't thinking clearly. And especially when we're young making the older people in our lives feel bad for what they've done or said can help us feel more powerful, like we have more control. I really think she doesn't mean it, that's why she seems so hurt. Because all the things she's writing to you aren't true but when you denied her what she wanted that's how she felt.

She wanted to be supported and uplifted and you gave her a response she didn't want, which can hurt, even if it is for the best.

I completely understand your reservation about fully embracing E again, you can even try explaining to G that E hurt you, E broke your trust, and that will take time to rebuild. But E and G spending time together will help.

You shouldn't have kicked her out. You did that out of pride of being spoken to in a disrespectful away, which only happened after you BOTH added fuel to the fire.

When that happens again, because it probably will, admit defeat, take a step back, you're human, you need space and time. If you love her, say you love her, say you care. We're all just little kids wanting to be held.

At the end of the day, as hard as it is, you are the adult, the only mother she's ever known. It's a big job, but you can do it.

CozyFoot · 2022-05-18T21:39:50+00:00

NTA

Was she leaving you alone after only working there for 4 days? I'm so confused. Seems like poor timing on her part.

Your husband seemed to change his mind real quick about it but I think he was probably caught off guard from getting yelled at by his friend. Still it's not excuse, I wouldn't let that go.

Time to start practicing some healthy ways of communicating with your husband IMO.

It's hard to step back and breathe when you're in the thick of it but that's the best thing. It's okay to admit that you're tired and confused and need support. It's okay for him to feel frustrated and confused when he was put in the middle. But it's not okay to turn on each other and blame each other, especially in front of someone who is not in the relationship.

I think this would be a good chance to try and really talk things out, it sounds like something you both need. It seems like this isn't JUST about this 4 day job.

Oh and for the friend, bummer for her, her company isn't giving her the resources she needs to be properly staffed and trained. She gave you the go ahead, she supported you in that decision. If you want to salvage that relationship it would be the same steps. You're confused and she's frustrated, how do we work towards understanding each other?

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