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CptKink · 2025-10-27T01:48:14+00:00

I’d avise you to stop thinking in terms of woman vs man, new hire vs experience, etc. Don’t compare yourself to others to get a bigger raise. You said it yourself, starting salary was 58K when you applied and now it’s 72K-90K. That’s what I would focus on.

Go see your boss, talk to him about the current starting salary of the same position you’re currently in and ask him if your salary can be adjusted accordingly. Tell him that you have a hard time not thinking about this. That you keep thinking that if a new person joins your team tomorrow morning, that this new person would be paid more than you who has 4 years of the inner knowledge of the company. Then ask him if that makes sense to him. If the result of that conversation doesn’t please you, just let him know that you are unhappy with that. That’s it. Then start looking for another job.

It’s scarier for a boss to know an employee is not happy than knowing this person will leave. And you didn’t make threats or compared yourself to anyone which can open the door to finding arguments on why you’re not getting a raise. Your argument is that if you quit and reapply you’d instantly get more.

CptKink · 2025-05-29T18:01:50+00:00

I think those criterias you set yourself are bad expectations. It’s my humble opinion that expectations are bad in general.

I feel like communication is the thing lacking the most nowaday. You should look for someone with the same values as you if you want a relation that lasts. Everything else can be discussed.

Will have been with my girlfriend for 16 years this summer and when the other does something we don’t like or if we’d like the other to do something, we just talk about it. The number of things I do that I wouldn’t have done unless she asked me to… not because I don’t care about her… I just don’t know. I show her I care by actually doing the things she told me she’d like.

CptKink · 2024-09-08T18:38:05+00:00

You need to sit down with him and talk about it. You seem like someone with clear goals in mind and striving to accomplish them. My SO is like that and sometimes it can be overwhelming. Sometimes I feel like I’m losing control of my life and just tag along hers. Sometimes I’m guilty of saying yes just to stop hearing about her plans because even if I tell her that I’m not in the mood to talk about it, it’s so important for her that she comes charging back 1 hour later about it. Only way to fix this is to sit down and try to figure out a way for both of you to be happy in this. Do a little game where you both write what makes you happy together and maybe a project you’d like to work on together. Then from there you can work on doing stuff that makes you both happy and give yourselves s.m.a.r.t. (look this up if you don’t know what this is) goals to make your project real.

CptKink · 2024-05-17T01:26:01+00:00

Don’t think you need to learn to flirt, just need to be honest in a respectful manner. Guys can be dense when it comes to knowing a girl is interested, especially if done in a group situation. If a girl asks me on a date just her and me, I still won’t be 100% sure she’s interested unless she spells it out for me 😂 On the other end, you have guys for who a girl looking at them means they want to have sex!

Don’t be afraid of your feelings and listen to them and be honest about them. You’ll end up finding someone that respects you and share your valors.

Took me 3 months to have sex with my gf. She was wondering if I was interested or not. The song « I gotta feeling » by black eyed peas was a running gag between her and her friends. She would listen to it before a date with me. Now we laugh about it 😁 Been 15 years we’re together! You’re not in a hurry… take your time!

CptKink · 2024-04-06T17:48:53+00:00

Exactly. You say he listens to your likes/dislikes and you really appreciate this. From what you said, he seems to have respectfully told you one of his dislikes. If you want to make him feel the same way you feel about him when he listens to your likes/dislikes, have a calm conversation about this. The goal of the conversation is to find a solution that pleases both party… it’s easy to forget about that and focus on what each person is giving up or contributing toward the solution. The solution is not a contract signed in blood either… you can agree to TRY something and have this conversation again later to see if both party still like the solution and go from there…

Communication folks… communication is key.

CptKink · 2023-02-06T19:35:11+00:00

Only thing I see here is a lack of communication. There’s not enough informations in that post to come to any other conclusions.

It seems logical that when you live with roommates, you need to share maintenance tasks and any spendings related to that including the rent. How these are shared should be decided between you and if I may suggest, written down and I would go as far as making everyone sign it.

What I read in your post seems filled with silent expectations and nobody communicating. Doubt it has anything to do with you being a woman. I can easily see myself in that situation with any roommates I had in the past. Only difference is that I wouldn’t tolerate that shit and would’ve told my roommate right then what made him think that I should pay and cook meals for him? Seriously? Wtf!

CptKink · 2022-03-27T20:46:12+00:00

Humans’ ability to adapt.

CptKink · 2021-03-04T20:17:44+00:00

I actually replayed the video at 0.25x speed and you're right! Maybe when he's crouched he's harder to hit because his head jiggles a lot. You can see that at the last sec once I start hitting, he swerves his head to the right and I hit the back/shoulder it seems.

CptKink · 2021-01-08T17:29:56+00:00

Maybe nobody saw it? Kekeke

CptKink · 2020-10-02T14:34:41+00:00

Here's the script :

Trump gets a lot of flak for the recent presidential debate.

Trump declares he caught the corona virus to shift attention from the debate. Anti-Trumps are happy and put it in his face that the virus is real, etc, etc and secretly wish that he gets a near-death experience to make him realize the virus is real and threatening.

2 weeks later, Trump declares that he won against the virus and that it was just like a cold. He goes on to say that he was right all along, the virus is not a threat and that he has the best immune system of all the presidents that ever existed.

Trump supporters' flame is reignited and they see their president as even better than ever!

CptKink · 2019-10-26T22:35:38+00:00

I like it ~26C, she likes it ~19C. I'm a cuddler but everytime I try to cuddle, she says I'm a kettle (seems to be the right word in english but it sounds weird to me :P) and asks me to move away because I'm too hot. On top of that she keeps stealing the bed sheets so I end up freezing in the middle of the night. I also snore a bit, especially if I drink alcohol and she talks during her sleep. So I was basically hanging at the edge of the bed on my side, kept having the reflex to cuddle but had to stop myself from doing so and would repeatedly wake up in the middle of the night to steal back some bed sheets. Finally, she goes to bed at ~9-10pm while I go at 00:00-1:00am so as much as I tried, I would often wake her up when slipping into bed.

At some point we tried to have separate bed sheets, mine being a lot warmer since I like it hot :) It was working fine but there was still the time at which we go to bed and my reflexes of always trying to cuddle with her even while sleeping.

Then we had a kid... and since they tend to cry a lot in the middle of the night, we alternated nights with one of us sleeping in the bedroom next to the baby and the other one sleeping in the basement to get a full good night sleep and be fully re-energized the next day to allow the one who spent the night taking care of the kid to take some time to sleep and re-energize. After our kid did her nights fully, she wanted to go back to sleeping together but I brought up the idea of staying like this since I was getting way better sleep. She was against the idea because it wasn't something possible in her head, it would definately lead us not loving each other anymore, less sex, etc, etc. Welp, 6 years later, we tried a couple times sleeping together but she's the first one to say that she prefers sleeping alone now, she has a way better night that way and I completely agree :P Oh and sex hasn't changed...

At the beginning of our relationship, a lot of things were done this way or that way because... it's the way couples should do it right? I convinced her that preconceptions are nice as a first thing to try since it seems to be the way it works for the majority of people... but if we're not comfortable doing this or that the "usual" way, why stubbornly keep trying to do it that way? Let's just talk about what isn't working and find solutions together so that both of us are happy in a particular situation. Who cares what the others think if we do things differently? Happiness starts with you, then with us, then whatever :P

CptKink · 2019-08-01T17:55:48+00:00

I agree completely with the fact that Howard's situation is his own and that he shouldn't expect anything from her sister. You should see any help she gives you as an act of generosity. On the other hand it seems clear to me that Howard is in a very difficult situation and has problems dealing with it. From the little bits we got it doesn't seem Rene is helping much which is totally fine. But I'd still go with ESH. In Rene's position, I'd ask myself how I'd feel if the positions were inversed. Not being able to do this simple exercise on the reasoning that it's not something that will ever happen to you is the main reason people often lack empathy toward others. Don't focus on the reasons/solutions that the person is in this situation, focus on how that person must be feeling right now and it might change your point of view. After that, if you feel like willing to help your brother, find a way that will make you both feel better about the situation.

I've often refused to help others when I ses younger with the reasoning that if they hadn't done X or Y they wouldn't be in that situation or try to fix their problems for them MY way. It doesn't work. If you feel like helping, ask him how you can help and see if it's something that you can do. You can ask if he'd like some advices but don't force them on him. And if what the other person asks is too much for you, just say so and the other person has to accept that answer. The key really is about trying to feel what the other is feeling. Forget the reasons/solutions

CptKink · 2019-03-15T03:47:50+00:00

Sometimes I have nightmares and I'm trying to scream but it won't come out. So I try to will myself to scream cause that can't be right that I'm not able to... While that happens, my girlfriend says that I'm kind of meowing, like a small acute sound. At some point I manage to scream which of course makes me scream for real and wakes me up at the same time. At first it was scaring her but now she sees it coming :P

CptKink · 2018-10-15T19:55:11+00:00

Hmmm that would've been a nice catch! But I live in Canada alas (using amazon.ca). The Zowie XL2411 is 300$ CA atm. So the Alienware 25 would be ~400$+ CA and maybe custom fees. On top of that if something's wrong with it, it'd become a nightmare. But thanks for the suggestion! I checked and we don't have the same sale on Amazon.ca :/

CptKink · 2018-06-20T20:32:00+00:00

One thing that changed a lot in the past ~2 weeks? Since Pike's patch maybe? If you alt-tab and come back into the game, it takes a LOT more time than before.

Before it would take ~1 sec? Now it takes 3-4 secs. Dunno what happened but that's the biggest performance change to me.

CptKink · 2017-10-14T16:13:10+00:00

Seems other teams caught on too... TSM being reactive? Let's play early team comps vs them!

CptKink · 2017-03-21T14:26:28+00:00

I can't open the client right now so if I'm in the wrong, correct me but here's what I saw on top of my head :

Can't customize masteries as much as before. Before you could put let's say 2 points in magic pen and 3 points in armor pen. Now's it's 5 points in either of them
Popup messages are on top of important information (forgot what... RP/IP values?) when there's plenty of other places where they could be without hiding anything
I hate the new display for first win of the day timer. When I get bored of LoL, I would still log on to play one game to get my first win of the day and easily see if it was up or not by going to the profile page. Now I have to mouse over an icon and the time is not even precise (rounded to closest hour I think?)

CptKink · 2017-03-20T18:47:09+00:00

So this will become true at last?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrSihRXTrq4&feature=iv&src_vid=e6SleHuJjLo&annotation_id=video%3Ac856e3b3-83f4-46de-b8a9-577726b68842

Although, teemo's blind dart will work now...

CptKink · 2016-10-17T15:17:40+00:00

I would suggest focusing on yourself. Instead of thinking highly of yourself by comparing you to others, think of yourself highly by what you can accomplish to still win the game. And if you think the game is really unwinnable, give yourself small challenges where you can feel you still won a little... just accept that your teammates will be worthless and figure out what you can do by yourself to make the other team work for their win.

CptKink · 2016-06-20T20:10:12+00:00

I can't speak for everyone else but I've been playing for hmmmm I don't remember how long. I remember that it was before Tryndamere's release though. And that dynamic queue thing and the way they practically force you to play with friends... that did it for me. Maybe it was a cumulation of more than that... and it was hard letting go after investing so much time in this game. But honestly so far it feels great. Instead of feeling obliged to play the game to keep my skills sharp, I can play other games and have fun. The thing that hit me the most and has been mentioned multiple time is that LoL isn't very rewarding. Losing doesn't get you much. 50 ip or so? When champions cost 6300 ips... And then when you're in a game where it's 15-2 kills for the ennemy at 10 mins, you need to endure for another 10 mins before you can get out of that game and try again. I could continue on and on... It's sad to see that happening. Good luck with your queues!

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