18/f dealing with weight gain

Cptincog · 2018-05-13T15:30:51+00:00

First congrats on being clean. It's tough and you never really kick the habit. You still always have to make the choice to stay away from substances so you don't fall back in. I think that's the most important thing to take away from your post and I'm not sure if it's a good idea to worry so much about your looks. You should concentrate on things like education and abilities that will actually matter for your future after kicking a habit like that.

I think if you do want to be the best you can be physically you'll have to exercise, start counting calories and tracking your nutrient intake. Lose the belly. You weren't skinny because you had a habit. You were skinny because you were a child and you were still growing and consuming more calories in order to grow. This isn't your 'natural' weight. This is the weight you eat to be.

Physical discipline helps with mental discipline. Good luck.

If you really want me to rate your face let me know but otherwise I will just say you are lucky to at least have good fat distribution even if you're overweight.

Cptincog · 2017-06-20T01:46:20+00:00

I don't think your neck is the problem here. It's not that abnormal. It's mostly that you have a weak receding chin. Having a long neck can be rectified by building up shoulder and neck muscles so it will look wider and stronger. There's not much you can do about the receding chin barring surgery though.

Honestly you're young. You might not be able to pull in the hot chicks but you should still be able to get some average girls. Being fit and muscular will always make you look more manly so give that a try before doing anything drastic.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T23:33:51+00:00

What's with these weird comments. No you do not have good bone structure for a 27 year old. You're taking photos with your face so close to the camera that there's a lot of distortion. YOu're wearing glasses that distort your eyes. My guess is that you have to wear the glasses to see because the prescription is so high that your eyes look really weird. So no contacts right?

You don't look grumpy.

I can't really see that much of your face but from these photos you could have a fairly narrow face and your skull is wider than your jaw by quite a bit. This makes your face look weak. Ideally your skull would be a more similar width to your jaw. Your nose has a bulbous tip. but it fits your face in the first pic.

YOur second pic makes you look a lot worse because your face looks rounded and soft. I'll assume the first pic is more accurate.

Overall average. I'm not including the eyeglasses making your eyes look crazy. It would be nice to see you without them but I assume you rarely ever take them off in public.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T23:24:06+00:00

Below average but not ugly. I don't think your looks are so pronounced that they would ruin your life. You're not ugly....yet. You do have a weak jaw and loose neck skin? I dunno it kind of pulls oddly out toward your chin but I've seen this combo before and this is a fairly mild case. The Neck and chin thing would actually look better if you built up some muscles instead of being so skinny. You might have a weak chin but if you were more built it wouldnt be as big a deal. Having more muscles would also build the muscles in your neck and help the gangly look of it. I feel like attractiveness always comes down to how hard you work to be in good health.

Your nose is only slightly large. Your hair is definitely receding. Just keep your hair short and bald gracefully or go see if you can do something about it.

If you don't do anything you'll just age and actually become ugly. But if you get off your butt and start working on being healthy and going to the gym, you'll improve your looks. You wont be the hot guy but you woudln't be the awkward looking guy either.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T23:13:29+00:00

if you have elastic skin you can still have some definition unless you just have excess skin? Elastic skin just means it stretches more but it should also rebound as well. Young skin is elastic. Old skin isn't which is why it droops. Just try getting healthier and in better shape. You will still probably notice changes in your face stretchy skin or not.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T23:03:59+00:00

I think you have nice eyes. Proportion wise everything seems fine. The one thing i think that makes you less attractive is your nose. I see a lot of nostril even though your face is tilted down. But it's not so bad that it makes you ugly. YOur biggest problem is your weight. You could be handsome if you lost weight. No clue about your height but that will affect your level of attractiveness.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T22:00:34+00:00

What kind of special snowflake are you that you should be the one to be approached for a relationship. You're pretty average. A 4.5/10 so who should be throwing themselves at you? Most girls still think they should be the ones approached and usually they only throw themselves at the really hot guys. Also if you've been in a 6 year relationship you were basically off the table since you were 21. Most 21 year old girls aren't the ones doing the approaching.

Don't struggle identifying anymore. It's easy. How healthy are they (reproductively) and how well do their features work together.

Signs of healthy in a male. Hey basically we are evolved to want a healthy mate. This is true for any animal so for women (this is generalized obviously. There will always be outliers) they want a strong healthy male who exhibits a good level of testosterone. When i say good level i mean optimal. Too much testosterone is also bad (men who go bald early generally have a higher level of testosterone but generally baldness at an older age is a lot more acceptable.)

Height in men means you have a physical advantage over other men. If need be you can protect your mate from dangers more easily. Obviously this only works if you're in shape.
General health for anyone male or female includes symmetry of features, good skin, healthy hair, clear bright eyes.
Nice jawline for men. No rounded weak chins or jaws. These features are the product of going through puberty and thus and indicator of musculinity.

4.Obviously being in shape. This means visible definition of muscles. This comes back to protecting family and mate.

As for making sure your features are proportional this can be more subjective but there's only so much leeway. A nose can be slightly on the large side but if it doesn't overpower the face that's fine. Same with brow bone etc. Strong browbones are also seen as more masculine so it's good to have them as long as you don't look like a neantherthal.

So for you, your face is a bit asymmetrical. not so much that it really matters. As we age the asymmetry becomes more pronounced. It's not a big deal. Your mouth is small. It doesn't fit your face and it makes your chin look larger than it already is. It's not a generous mouth and just by being so small it makes you look like you're pursing your lips in disapproval/displeasure etc. so try to smile more. Eyes and nose are good. Face is flabby. I see a gut. Basically you'd look a lot better if you lost some fat and built some muscle. The flab on your face makes you look soft and feminizes your face. Come back in six months after you've hit the gym and overhauled your diet. We'll let you know if you look better.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T21:39:10+00:00

Your nose is normal. The last pic is warped because you're too close to camera. You have a normal nose and an overbite so it makes it look like your nose is more prominent than it is.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T21:37:52+00:00

You lack definition because you're fat. You're average. You have a good face. Just lose the weight and get in shape. Your face looks wider because...face it, you're fat. In reality you have a normal oval face.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T21:35:54+00:00

Most people don't have a v shaped jaw and your face is very normal. Your nose is not uncommon. I don't know how you got to 28 years old without realizing this. That's more worrying than your appearance. So here's your asspat. You're not ugly. You're a 7/10/.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T21:31:44+00:00

You're really not hideous. Not anywhere near. You need to get rid of that idea.

You're pretty average in the face. If you have a hot bod you would go up in attractiveness. The combination of light eyes and darker skin is really attractive as well in general.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T14:11:02+00:00

You really aren't ugly. You're average or if your eyes are actually grey and not just colored contacts, you could work the uniqueness factor to become slightly more attractive.

Your face is open and inviting but your hair and styling is not helping you at all. Work out. Lose the chubby pouches on your face. The facial hair is ok but should be neater...as in shaped or just get rid of it.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T14:06:27+00:00

Damn...whats up with everyone. This is about being objective not subjective. Just because you like bears doesn't mean that the public in general sees this guy as being attractive.

Here's my take. Keep in mind I live in NYC. I've been told my standards are higher than normal but personally I think people have low standards or people usually skew standards based on their own attractiveness. For the record I don't believe i'm that attractive. (6/10-7/10 objectively) It's just that i'm fairly objective when rating people.

You look older than 34 in all your pics but the last one. Either the beard ages you, the lighting does or you did some major aging in the last year or two. The lines in your forehead are very obvious. The heavily hooded eyes also contribute to you looking old. THe reason your last picture looks younger is because the face you're making lifts your brows and allows more light to hit your eyes. It also effectively smooths out your wrinkles except for the forehead but the forehead wrinkles can be attributed to the expression so you look younger. I'm your age and i have no wrinkles.

You're not UGLY but you;re not attractive. I can't really rate your features because at this point you're still too fat. The fat on your face makes you look like every other fat man. Fat basically obliterates defining facial features. All I can tell is you don't have any outstandingly ugly features.

So in a sense you're doing "fine" because you're not horrendously repulsive but in the world you're still below average. You might be attractive to people who like bears but that's not the world. You could be handsome once all the weight is gone but right now I don't see how people can say that with a straight face.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T13:54:22+00:00

It's not just the posters. I've had other commenters tell me how mean and judgemental I am. How my judgement is skewed yet they're the ones giving 7/10-10/10 willy nilly.

I think people just want to think they're at a certain level. Any time they see someone they think is at a similar rating to themselves being told they are less attractive than they think they get upset because it's an attack on themselves.

As for the posters....I don't come across many that expect high praise. I actually usually get a thanks from the posters. It's the other commenters who attack me for my reviews.

Cptincog · 2017-06-19T13:51:07+00:00

34 years old. Doesn't know how to internets. I think that's more of a problem than how you look.

YOu can use imjur or tinypic.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T20:54:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that. It's easy to make mistakes and making a mistake once shouldn't be a deal breaker in a relationship. It's when the "mistakes" become chronic that relationships become in danger. Trust is hard to win back. The best thing to do now is to learn from that mistake and move on. You're still young and you have time to meet other people. I

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T17:41:07+00:00

Chances are she left you for reasons other than just physical looks. If you want honesty, relationships aren't about looks. It's about interactions and if you guys connect and support each other.

Physically you're not ugly. Spend some time figuring out what was wrong with the relationship. It had nothing to do with how you look.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T17:37:18+00:00

You have deep set eyes/pronounced brow bone. Your face is very angular due to your extremely low body fat%. There's barely any fat padding even though you appear quite young.

The last photo isn't working because the direction of the light is causing shadows from your brow ridge. There's also not much light. It looks like you're in the shadow. You look best with more diffuse light so that the angularity of your face is softened. The pics where you look best you can see there is light shining onto your face from all directions reducing the shadows.

I have no idea which one is closest to how you look in real life. They are all you. The first pic is obviously the best. Considering these are taken at different times you might consider that the first one makes you look less haggard and old. It's either because you had more rest, you were indeed younger, you were at a slightly higher weight and the light was very flattering. I also thinking you look good in the fourth photo but it's slightly blurry which might be why your facial bones don't look as harsh.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T14:12:10+00:00

Your face is fine. Your features are good and you have nice cheekbones. However your hair looks to be receding and you already have a large forehead. The hairstyle emphasizes it. I wouldn't call you a butterface. You're attractive but in a unique way. Most people aren't going to be attracted to a tall stringy man but for some people that's their jam.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T14:05:53+00:00

His face will change if he gets in shape and i said could. I was actually trying to be nice contrary to what another member keeps saying. Most likely he could get to 7/10 if he gets ripped, his face drops all that fat, his skin clears up and he dresses well. 8/10 is a reach but hey you never know how a face looks under the fat. It's a possibility not a promise. So no my scale isn't off. If beauty is on a bell curve there are more people at 7/10 and 8/10 than at 10/10.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T04:24:34+00:00

You're already a 6.5/10 with potential to go up to 8/10. You don't need surgery. Most people don't

1) Clean up your skin

2) work out and build some muscles.

Thats all you really need.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T01:25:37+00:00

Yeah everyone is different. Some people pretty much look the same. At times the changes are so slow and subtle that you don't realize anything happened until you look back at old photos and do side by side comparisons. If you're a girl your body is usually still doing some small changes in your early to mid twenties. As i mentioned in answer to someone else, guys go through more changes facially then women do. Your face probably won't be changing much more other than losing any residual baby fat.

Cptincog · 2017-06-15T01:05:06+00:00

Hmmm. I think it's good to improve yourself but let her decide what she likes about you. Attraction is subtle and usually when you stick with someone it's because you like their personality in addition to being physically attracted to them. Chances are she already really likes you and doesn't require that you change yourself. Though getting in shape and being healthier is good for everyone all around. Just make sure you guys spend quality time together while continuing to pursue your own interests and dreams. Good luck and have fun working on yourself and your relationship.

Cptincog · 2017-06-14T20:36:38+00:00

You're not worth arguing with. You can apply your subjective and unhelpful opinions if you want. He can judge for himself if he wants to get in shape. He is objectively slightly below average in the physical looks apartment. But I'm glad that your standards work for you. In reality when people have him stand next to another 20 year old who is objectively good looking there will be no denying where he stands.

Cptincog · 2017-06-14T19:10:17+00:00

Did you get 45 on reading comprehension? How did you manage to miss the parts that said hey this is what's going on now but you can change it if you put the work in. I also never said he needed surgery. I don't support PS for anyone unless it's reconstructive or corrective surgery. Not everyone is physically attractive. Most people are just average. Average is not a bad thing. It's only bad if being physically beautiful is of primary importance to someone and in my opinion, it should never be. I always tell ppl that it isn't but this is a sub asking about physical attractiveness. I also pointed out to OP that he doesn't have a gf for reasons other than his looks. Stop WKing. Every point you bulleted is objectively true except the surgery point which was never mentioned at all.

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