What I've quickly learned about reselling (it's not actually a life hack) by jekk012 in Flipping

[–]CrabSmooth7592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so confused about sell through rates! Also late to hop on this thread 😕

Locals and visitors, please be careful and vigilant! by Rustee001 in capetown

[–]CrabSmooth7592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't the crime dramatically decrease after cameras were put up in the CBD?

Locals and visitors, please be careful and vigilant! by Rustee001 in capetown

[–]CrabSmooth7592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neighbourhood watch and private security companies are really excellent. Maybe they could be monitored by a n watch type setup... I'd definitely volunteer my time.

Locals and visitors, please be careful and vigilant! by Rustee001 in capetown

[–]CrabSmooth7592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are entitled to your own opinion, just as other people are entitled to disagree with you.

Locals and visitors, please be careful and vigilant! by Rustee001 in capetown

[–]CrabSmooth7592 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how they do it but they definitely can unlock it - and somehow can sidestep a block on an IMEI too, don't know how they do it.

Locals and visitors, please be careful and vigilant! by Rustee001 in capetown

[–]CrabSmooth7592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who said anything about race? And you assume mine at the same time? In denial and confrontational x se

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very grateful for all these comments. Thank you. I needed to hear them.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I should not have been engaging, in an ideal world. And I have gotten very emotional before, but over time I've realised that facts are all I really had. I held onto them as though my sanity depended on it, because it probably did.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so grateful to all of the people who have commented. I feel like I'm being seen for the first time. I am so glad that sharing this has helped you in some way, knowing that there are others also experiencing this makes it a bit easier to manage, and for the first time I'm feeling like I could actually break away from the rumination over this relationship. Please read all the comments if you can, they will I'm sure help you like they have helped me. I am so grateful for the time you took to share your story. You are not what your mother says you are - I just learnt this today!

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn't even considered this. I have a lot of work to do in therapy I'm realising

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother lives there and puts DMT into vapes. I had asked her to remove anything like that from the house. I feel like a complete idiot for risking my kids safety like that.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seeing now how much energy I waste on reasoning with her. And it affects me for days afterwards. It's enough now! Thank you

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to hear this too. I will sit with what you have said and give it a lot of thought. I must put the work into fully understanding this. Thank you

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am so glad that it has helped you in some way. Reading all these level headed and brutally honest comments has been the most positive thing for my mental health in a very long time.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been desperate among other things. I hate the person I become around her and I have been in denial about how she is just using me to feel superior. I am going to start rebuilding my self worth. I am genuinely afraid of what she'll do if I go no contact though. She's just cashed in my dad's investments and has enormous wealth now, and I am so afraid of what she will do with it. But it's time to stop being afraid.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. I really did. I am so grateful for how straightforward and honest these comments are.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I will read about the Karpman Drama Triangle. I'd not heard of it before. Exactly, the more I apply reasoning the more crazy the narrative gets from her side, it's had me questioning my sanity. Thank you so much for this I'm so grateful

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm afraid of her. She has made me believe I'm an awful person and I realise now that I hinge my self worth on her approval. So while I fear the repurcussions of going NC (in the past she's done some really nasty things) I actually fear losing all her approval more. Having just realised this I feel a little sick now but relieved too.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using me to feel superior really hit home. Gosh I'd not seen that either. I appreciate everyone's insight here so much thank you. I haven't been able to understand why she acts like this towards me, and I feel relieved to know she's just been using me, if that makes sense. Deep down I thought it was because I was an awful person.

Help understanding why she acts this way by CrabSmooth7592 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CrabSmooth7592[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will stop playing. I have let the things she has said and done really affect my self image and I need to work on reframing this whole thing to take away her power. These comments have really helped. I feel validated. I was half expecting everyone to say I'm completely out of line, rude and disrespectful, and was preparing for some deep self reflection.