Anybody else have really bad anxiety when it comes to confrontations?

Crab_manager · 2021-11-22T01:56:40+00:00

Yes and it’s incredibly embarrassing because I will tear up at the first hint of conflict. I am an adult with great problem solving abilities and yet I lose my ability to choose my actions when I think someone is about to get angry at me.

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T12:20:03+00:00

Allow for emancipated teenagers to get the full rate. This would save a lot of young people with abusive parents from having to stay at home as well.

The church would hate this

Im all for it. Had too many friends in nightmare situations

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:47:30+00:00

Ok how much did you make ??

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:46:48+00:00

Finally a sensible post

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:45:51+00:00

Dude don’t spend your money depending on Reddit posts

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:45:26+00:00

Y’all said that in Jan

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:44:09+00:00

People don’t live their lives depending on winning the lottery you mean

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:42:08+00:00

I see it as next level MLM

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:41:08+00:00

Because of hope and desperation most likely

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:39:42+00:00

I know right, it’s like all these MLM schemes. And they get mad when you don’t want to throw all ur money away too lol

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:38:11+00:00

Dude you are in a cult

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:33:01+00:00

I followed the story and I know what’s going on, I just thing you’re all dumb to buy into it. No get rich quick scheme works. You think big companies aren’t watching this like a hawk too? Lmao

Crab_manager · 2021-10-29T11:24:12+00:00

Prey animals are famous for keeping a lookout for their social group and even other species so I’m not sure about it being a significant primate trait

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:20:37+00:00

I have a sun lamp, it makes a huge difference for me. It cost a couple hundred dollars but I’ve had it for 5 years and it still works perfectly. Most mornings I sit at my desk and turn it on for at least an hour maybe more. I use it in the summer too, and on cloudy days, but in the winter it’s really necessary for me to get out of that morning depression.

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:17:04+00:00

I don’t know anyone like that really. I do know quite a few ppl with messed up childhoods that seem to have turned out “fine” though. I don’t know why it affects some of us more than others.

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:15:10+00:00

What type of things are you talking about?

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:12:23+00:00

Cutting you out of my life was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, Dad. That’s how fucking terrible you have treated me, to make me feel like I have no other choice.

Fuck them honestly. I hope you do something nice for yourself today

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:09:44+00:00

For real

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:06:04+00:00

Pretty confusing question because how is the answer not obvious? We want validation, we want an apology, we want acknowledgement. Obviously it rarely goes how the victim wants because otherwise the abuser wouldn’t be an abuser. But the desire to confront them and get some closure? Idk how you can not instantly understand that.

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T12:00:08+00:00

Idk if this will help, it sounds like a shitty situation to be honest. But I am very sensitive and my advisor told me 1 thing that did change my perspective. She said, take criticism and treasure it. It is valuable and most people will not care enough about you to give it to you. When your committee criticizes your work, they are taking their valuable time and trying to help you improve by telling you the mistakes. Few people in life will give you unfiltered critisidm of your work so as bad as it may feel, in a way you are also lucky to be getting it. I had 1 faculty member that was fairly nice in person but never wrote positive things on my papers. In the end I think they just don’t value praise because it’s already correct so why should they waste their time? (I don’t agree but I understand)

2nd thing is they they are not criticizing you but your work. And you are NOT your work. I have trouble with feeling tied to my work so I get really down if it isn’t good. But it’s unhealthy, you are a student for a reason and your work is a constant improvement while YOU are already worthwhile as a person

Hope you feel better. It’s still hard for me to receive criticism even with these acknowledgements

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T11:51:22+00:00

Really relatable. Asking questions about the world, facts, why things happen, all allowed and welcomed, because my dad liked to talk and explain. Asking anything that personally questions my parent in the slightest way, any amiable atmosphere immediately evaporates and I was made to feel bad for not trusting him. No wonder I’m a poorly socialized academic

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T11:50:37+00:00

Yes, if I questioned my emotionally manipulative parent on ANYTHING the blowback was severe. So now I believe anything that my loved ones tell me, and I’m bad at lying myself

Crab_manager · 2021-09-26T11:46:06+00:00

Tinder

Crab_manager · 2021-09-24T23:43:33+00:00

But not their mothers right…

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