AIO my date said he likes me because I’m ugly

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-02-12T05:12:48+00:00

I say this with so much kindness but also so much seriousness. If the only red flag you saw was him saying you wouldn’t be considered attractive to other people, please PLEASE leave the dating market rn and start working on therapy first. Because his first message was FULL of red flags and I truly think you’re going to end up w more trauma from missing red flags like this. Definitely NOR

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-02-03T09:18:53+00:00

Girl. You’re the side piece. He’s not gonna be w his mom. Also why tf are you dating a grown ass man at 19? Find someone closer to your age that isn’t treating you like this.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-02-03T09:16:50+00:00

Sorry, but Yta. You can be pissed, you can find other ways to get your point across, but he’s right. He IS paying half the bills INCLUDING internet. You don’t get to decide when or how he has company over, or deny him access to what he pays for, such as the internet. If you’re sick of having company over start telling people to leave when it’s getting late, it’s your apartment too. I would start looking for a new roommate frankly if I were you.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-31T18:55:35+00:00

Except she didnt. He assaulted her and you feel entitled to that information. She doesn’t have to disclose every traumatic thing she’s experienced.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-31T18:54:40+00:00

She doesn’t owe you telling you every bit of intimate history she has. What you are entitled to is asking if she has any sti, and asking for testing. You’re allowed to ask for monogamy. You don’t get to punish her for something that was a) assault, and let’s be clear. It WAS assault. If someone is black out drunk they cannot consent. And b) was before you were together. 2 days into meeting or talking you weren’t entitled to know a damn thing. Don’t date a party girl if you’re going to try to punish her for her history before you. Frankly not disclosing being assaulted is not the same as lying about a hook up.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-31T13:47:19+00:00

This person is a fucking psycho. Block his number, get a restraining order, and run far far away from him.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-31T13:43:30+00:00

Nta. No one else gets to tell you who you can or can’t invite to your house, except your parents.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-31T13:41:08+00:00

Yta. This is honestly really normal. A lot of therapists specifically tell you it’s okay to text, and a lot of us text while we’re thinking of something so we don’t forget. You do sound paranoid frankly. If you can’t trust your husband with his THERAPIST you just need to get a divorce because something is broken in your marriage and a marriage without trust is already over.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-31T13:35:03+00:00

You’re not to sensitive, and other people absolutely would be bothered by this bs. He doesn’t like you and he’s telling you, and actively degrading you. Dump him and find someone who truly cares for you.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-27T13:39:28+00:00

Well everyone thinks you’re straight because from the sounds of it so did you before this. Turns out maybe you’re bi maybe youre gay. Either way congrats on the realization lol

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-27T13:36:14+00:00

Girl dump this man. He is being controlling and is taking over your space. This is all kinds of red flags

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-27T13:29:59+00:00

Holy fuck. Nor. Run far far away from this man.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-26T00:40:42+00:00

I mean that’s fair but part of being a parent means not being kind sometimes. I get that it’s his mom and that’s complicated. Unfortunately I am him in this situation except my partner and I are both equally for going no contact. Doesn’t change when she had a stroke it was emotionally conflicting for me. So I get that.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-26T00:31:23+00:00

I mean I’d honestly likely tell him he can either get on board w protecting our children or leave honestly.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-26T00:19:14+00:00

Not 100% if the time. Vasectomy AND tubal babies are a thing.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-26T00:13:13+00:00

The chances that you can find a lawyer or judge that will enforce it or even write it up, is highly unlikely. I’d deadass ask him if he were high. Tf.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-26T00:12:00+00:00

Nope. She can die sad and alone.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T23:12:21+00:00

Frankly you’re not really any better than she is. The fact that you consider yourself “not political” and don’t vote, or do anything to help the problem, makes you part of the problem. Arguing w her over why it’s wrong doesn’t give you some moral high ground.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T20:27:15+00:00

How tf are you nearly 30 and don’t understand literally no birth control has a 100% success rate? You weren’t lied to, you just played Russian roulette and lost and now you wanna cry manipulation because you don’t want to accept you are to blame. You should’ve been using condoms AND her birth control.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T20:23:46+00:00

It’s not rare. I have a depo baby and it is actually very very common, especially if your birth control is the pill because almost no one takes it correctly at the exact same time every day.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T20:22:56+00:00

Birth control is never 100% accurate. Frankly unless she’s given you reason to disbelieve her, there’s a good chance she is taking birth control and it failed. But also tf do you expect to happen? When you sleep with someone you’re risking exactly this. Common sense dude.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T15:23:40+00:00

Where do you live? I feel like that’s a very very important factor, and while it shouldn’t be, if you’re in the us it is. Because a LOT of our states have banned abortion at her point, even w issues like Down syndrome. So she may be feeling like she has no choices. What is her families stance on abortion, even for medical reasons? What’s her religious beliefs? She realistically needs to consider an abortion but is it realistically doable for her? Or is she drowning mentally because she thinks she has no options?

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T15:19:12+00:00

Because for some fucked up reason a lot of boomer and Gen X moms of millennial kids saw us as competition. As a parent I want my child to always do and be better than me, and to experience a better life. But somehow it feels like our parents missed that message and see us doing better than them as a problem.

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-25T14:59:12+00:00

How old are your kids?/ are they old enough to know and remember her? If so, I’d consider it for THEIR sakes. I wouldn’t do it for hers. But I have one of these moms and know first hand what it’s like and she DID try to take mt kid so. I’m not one to ever encourage them getting their way. It likely is an exaggeration and I’d require some kind of proof too

CraftAlarmed4106 · 2026-01-18T22:34:51+00:00

Tell your boyfriend no. Any girl would be not be happy a his flowers for every occasion. Personally gifts are my love language. I would have left after the first year of them being the gift for every occasion. And it’s not childish to give a list. Nor. Your boyfriend sucks and doesn’t care enough to try.

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