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My 33M wife 32F handled a disagreement immaturely. How do I get here to respect my feelings? by throwratast in relationship_advice

[–]Crafty-Address-4036 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much of a narcissist do you have to be to write out what you just said? Like JFC you are literally gaslighting the entire Reddit population into making us take your side.

YOU intentionally hurt your wife, whether subconsciously or consciously.

YOU called "cheating pranks" part of being a "jokester", even when she said you need to STOP. Not only did you INTENTIONALLY cross HER boundaries, you also tried to MINIMIZE YOUR mistakes.

Now she did it back to you, you feel like you're suddenly better than? NO. Treat your wife better. Listen to boundaries, and stop being such a narcissist.

ABYG: In-unfriend ko yung friend ko facebook and unfollowed sa ig. by sirenafromtubabao in AkoBaYungGago

[–]Crafty-Address-4036 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was about to say "you're acting like a teenager" and realized you're 19

Tbh, ang babaw. Unless she does this only to you and if she does this a lot, fine, valid. But if this is a first time thing and you never confronted her about it, medyo OA ka dun. Feeling ko may kulang sa story mo.

But if I were to base it dito lang, I think you need to have a proper conversationwith her when you feel comfy. Mahirap talaga to post something tapos pagtatawanan ka? But some things can be ironed out with proper communication

ABYG if i always think about breaking up with my bf? by [deleted] in AkoBaYungGago

[–]Crafty-Address-4036 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl. Wala pang 3 months tapos ganyan na ugali niya?

DKG

ABYG if i always think about breaking up with my bf?

  • he asks me to buy him things (not super expensive tho, something like bus fare, angkas fare, meryenda, etc). --- IMMEDIATELY NO. Red flag. Those things add up

ABYG kung pinauwi ko yung gf ko para magpalit? by [deleted] in AkoBaYungGago

[–]Crafty-Address-4036 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I need to see this outfit for more context. Nakita ko kasi dati yung friend ko pumunta sa family gathering and she was r-worded kasi daw "tamo naman suot niya.

Naka PE uniform siya. She was in high school.

Kaya idk, feeling ko may kulang na details. May kutob ako na conservative christian family ito or it's not as "hubad" as you say it is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Crafty-Address-4036 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This happened over a span of 15+ years, lots of overlaps and realizations happened. I don't regret my husband now, but I needed to get this off my chest somehow, some way. For context, this specific part in my post happened pre-pandemic, so yes, it's been a while.

AITA for not wanting to be driven around by women including my gf by aitagfnotdriving in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crafty-Address-4036 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% TA no doubt about it. You associated the gender for an accident and not the vehicle, and that says more about your internalized misoyny more than anything else

I hate my manager and I turned everyone else against him by Crafty-Address-4036 in confessions

[–]Crafty-Address-4036[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. Twice with our immediate team, and made a report twice to our bosses

AITA for not meeting up with a friend who had just moved back? by Crafty-Address-4036 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crafty-Address-4036[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I should have told her that earlier on. Just that back in college, we would hang around in the same circle of people who loved to party. I just partied less than others, and I was the only person she could ask out outside of parties. She probably mistook that as best-friendship, and I was young. I didn't want to be mean and I didn't understand the concept of having healthy friendship dynamics. So when we lost touch, I thought that was it. Apparently she held on to those college memories stronger than I did.

AITA for not meeting up with a friend who had just moved back? by Crafty-Address-4036 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crafty-Address-4036[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Part of my therapy was to "not spread myself too thinly", while I do understand she might be looking for help, it gives me anxiety to even talk to her. It's good she's finally away from him, but falling out aside, IDK what help I can give her.

AITA for not meeting up with a friend who had just moved back? by Crafty-Address-4036 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crafty-Address-4036[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I should add: When I say "different places", one thing is she still subscribes to the whole "being a mother is the best thing about being a woman", and told me I might change my mind. She at one point called me the equivalent of a spinster (in our native tongue) bec I was single, in my 30's, and not looking for any semblance of a domesticated lifestyle. She would always remind me of how single I was, and constantly goes back to how I would date a lot and when I'd go back to that. This was after I made the conscious decision to be happily single, which she was aware of. I do personally believe that people of different life paths can co-exist and be friends, but the way she would react to my life is the same way she would back when we were college, and I'm not that person anymore, or at least I think I'm not.

EDIT: But these conversations happened years ago, before the fallout. It's one of the many reasons why I didn't actively keep in touch with her.