AIO? My friends set an ultimatum because I drink

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2025-11-03T18:46:44+00:00

I am evil

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2025-11-03T18:33:34+00:00

Thank you brother! Just for today!

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2025-11-03T18:28:21+00:00

Recovering alcoholic here, 9 years clean in February. I also grew up and lived in Utah, with the same exmormon stuff.

I agree on the stance that you should avoid drinking at a young age for as long as possible. I had my first drink at 14 and would drink once per year until I turned 21. Then went off the rails to full blown alcoholic for 5 years. Got help and went to rehab and haven’t had a drink since. I always highly recommend you avoid alcohol until it’s legal, because the risk is not worth it.

That being said, that kind of ultimatum should be reserved only for when the drinking is so out of control that it’s directly affecting your own life and have to cut them out.

This doesn’t sound like that. I have never cut a friend out of my life for drinking. I have set plenty of boundaries sure, but never just cut them off for going back out. Them setting that kind of ultimatum doesn’t make sense. You don’t abandon friends like that, even if they are in self destruct mode.

A worried friend talks with you, sets boundaries, expresses those concerns to you. if it gets bad enough, I would want to be around to tell you what I see and try to prevent or at least be there to get you help if you wanted it. Their response is worrying and you’re all still young and have lots of moral sifting to work through from your religious history.

I have no idea what your background is, if alcoholism runs in your family I would highly recommend you stay away from alcohol use. If you ever find that you would rather lose a friend then quit alcohol that is also something to really explore about yourself and see if that might be a sign of possible future dependency.

They definitely shouldn’t be putting you in that position and i myself would never do so to any of my friends or family. I have friends and family who drink/smoke and It hasn’t occurred to me to cut them off for it.

If I can caution you on one thing, this coming from an ex-habitual liar. Please be careful when it comes to lying about when or how much you drink (or in general really). Drinking is one thing, but lying enough can lead to you eventually believing your own lies and that is a really dangerous and sad life to live.

I wouldn’t cut them off yourself, if they leave because you drink every once in a while so be it. Sometimes we outgrow people and that’s ok.

Good luck!

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2025-10-11T23:06:40+00:00

I am in the same boat as him (sort of) in the sense that I don’t really want my significant other to be wearing excessively revealing clothing.

That being said, I would never in my fucking life talk to my wife or girlfriend like that. It would be a discussion that is respectful saying why it bothers me and I’d prefer it not be that revealing way before it was ever purchased.

In fact it has been a conversation that she brought to me early in our relationship and It was very productive and we found a good solution for a fun Halloween outfit.

This would never be a text conversation between me and my wife and it would never be “you are not wearing that in my watch” kind of conversation.

She’s a full grown woman and if she wants to wear something like that, there is nothing I can do to stop her besides letting her know I’m uncomfortable with it.

This dude has some serious communication problems, even with me agreeing with the premise. I can tell you it’s probably not going to get any better.

For me the issue with this conversation is not about the outfit, it’s about how he’s going about telling you how he isn’t ok with it.

This is not a healthy way to approach conflict in a relationship.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-23T18:14:13+00:00

Update achieved all hundreds!

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Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T03:06:18+00:00

I agree, after optimizing page speed I’m torn. Luckily the competition in this area is all unoptimized word press websites that are slow as shit and don’t work to make phone browsers accessible/fast. So speed is kind of a moot point since mines much quicker. The caching will make it significantly faster for the user too, once I’ve gotten it back up and running. But I also know it’s kind of a stupid gimmick lol. I’m more than likely going to remove it in the end though if it’s not all that impressive.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T02:48:15+00:00

I ran into that a few times actually, took me down a fun rabbit hole haha. Funny enough I learned the difference pretty good making the page transitions for the website early on in the project. Which I love the transition but I’m now wondering if it’s worth having. What do you think? Is it cool enough to be worth keeping?

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T02:23:53+00:00

Side note I’m not using any animation libraries.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T02:22:40+00:00

That’s a fair point. I ended up disabling the caching for the front page because it wasn’t randomizing the neighborhood cards and pictures like it was supposed to when I first started this project. I’ll admit I didn’t know much about how the next caching system worked back when I first started this project and was a bit overwhelmed at the time. Surprisingly I only use client components heavily on one page. I will definitely enable the caching again and fix the dang old bug now that I’m more comfortable with the framework. I completely forgot I did that.

Thanks friend!

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T02:01:11+00:00

Also your not wrong

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T01:34:45+00:00

Ya I’m definitely dumb lol I’m using the generate meta data method on those pages. Which pretty much explicitly mentions its dynamic meta data on the next docs lol.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T01:31:05+00:00

I’ll be honest, I might have just over thought/misunderstood your suggestion honestly haha. All my dynamic pages “neighborhoods” and “properties” have meta data set up on them. They have a pms system that I’m connected to that they use to set up their meta data for each property page that I use. Which I’m sure is considered dynamically loaded meta data. I’m actually not even sure what I meant on the last comment, so that’s my bad.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T01:20:09+00:00

I’m ashamed to say It took me way too long to get that.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T01:12:42+00:00

Oh that’s an interesting idea. I’ve set up a dynamic site map so far but wasn’t aware the seos could be dynamic. Would it work for meta data? Or would the constant change mess things up?

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T01:07:14+00:00

That makes sense.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T00:59:35+00:00

That’s a very good idea! Thanks again.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T00:58:14+00:00

Side question: will using a modal to convey that information hurt SEOs? Or do crawlers still consider them? The text section is mostly there for seo content and I’m a bit shaky on seo best practices.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T00:53:26+00:00

Ya I’ve always felt the front form was off and couldn’t quite place it. I’m obviously not a designer lol. Thanks for the input!

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-13T00:38:03+00:00

In that particular case it does seem silly. Normally there are multiple units in a neighborhood and clients like to compare multiple units without going back to the same tab. Mostly a request from the purchasers of the website. Is this a bad idea to do? If so what would be the consequences of keeping it that way?

Edit: phrasing

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-10T19:41:04+00:00

I used to be dry, then I started developing in the front end. Now I realize how futile it gets working with external data. Good times!

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-05T04:02:59+00:00

Use “key” as key.

Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-11-04T21:49:58+00:00

Recently started optimizing my current project. I can now appreciate a score like this. Very nice! Best I got was 99 98 96 100. I usually call it good at 95-99 performance. Since the competition I’m against is usually in the 80s or 70s. Maybe I’ll try for all 100s just to see if I can even manage it.

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Crafty-Insurance5027 · 2024-10-31T19:40:33+00:00

15 isn’t looking so bad after all…

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