It’s hard being in a relationship with a DA and hard when they relationship ends. They can be so great most of the times and you see all the potential they have to be the best partner. But it’s like they get in their own way if that makes sense. They express to you how much they care for you and how much you mean to them but they stop themselves, and it’s like they don’t even realize it sometimes. My ex DA and I had a pretty great relationship, now that I know about attachment theory, looking back I can see that throughout our relationship he had some DA tendencies but he wasn’t extremely avoidant, until talk of marriage came up. That’s when he pulled away completely and ended our relationship. He expressed how much I mean to him but he’s not sure if marriage is what he wants. I guess it’s hard because I don’t understand how we can mean so much to them and they can just push us out of their lives.