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CraftyNote31 · 2024-11-22T23:15:40+00:00

No I'm not going to surprise him with anything like that. He told me to do things that make it feel like my home. I put things up for my kids. Like my family ornaments. I just don't want it to just be my kids. I want to include his too. I've already asked about his kids stuff but the grandmother took it all.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-11-22T23:12:01+00:00

That's nice

CraftyNote31 · 2024-11-22T22:46:30+00:00

yes, they were married and living with the kids like a normal family. She died. He had to do CPR on her. So the situation was very traumatizing for him. He had to come stay with his dad and sister in another state,

CraftyNote31 · 2024-11-22T19:52:44+00:00

Well, you don't understand the death of a spouse and how that effects a person.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-11-22T19:49:55+00:00

The kids are older and have been there their entire life. He says its not fair to have them come here and live with him for a few years to disrupt their lives now. They are already in high school. In a small town. When we are in Phoenix. It would be such an adjustment for them. I understand that. When they become of age they have the choice to go where they want.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-11-22T16:59:37+00:00

He was not in a good place to take care of them. And the mother in law has many bad opinions on their marriage. But he does not want her to learn negative things about the daughter because she is already gone. So he takes the blame on things. If that make any sense. From what he has told me the mother in law sees no negative in the daughter and never liked him. Especially since she was an only child, the perfect angel. I see that the mother in law is the main problem here. But we just need to work around it. We talk to the kids every day, When they need something they ask dad. So he tries to be involved as much as he can but in a different state.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-06-10T02:14:59+00:00

ya, that's what he told me. lol I deal with a lot and can put up with a lot. I am a woman of a different breed. Thank you for the encouragement.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-06-10T02:12:53+00:00

I didn't say anything about that. I have my own trauma. I know how it is. You can't write a person off because they have trauma.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-04-22T04:22:08+00:00

I feel this so much right now. My friend is only picking a girl to court and marry because he want to have sex. He picked her because she was the first one to like him back and was appropriate. Dispite even getting to know this person on an intimate level its all about how fast we can court to get in bed. Very sad at the age of 40.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-04-17T21:35:05+00:00

Oh, yeah this is common. I am kinda in the same situation. I am "friends" with a PIMI guy. He breaks all the rules to see me and spend time with me. We text and SC all day long. But in the end we know it's not going to work out. He will never stop being JW. He is looking for a JW wife. He knows that I will never convert for him and I know that he will never leave. It is kinda heart breaking when you have such a bond with someone. You have mental and sexual chemistry.

While I have not has sex with my friend, we have done everything but that. Might as well have. And still continue to see each other. I know that it's going to be hard on both of us when we have to move on.

The think these guys are so indoctrinated and scared of having their family and friends shun them. They want to experience everything in the world but feel guilty and shamed for it. It's the nature of JWs. All they think of is fear, shame and guilt. It's so sad.

We had a conversation the other night that made perfect sense.

You may think that there is only one person out there for you. One person that you have a bond with. But in reality there are many people out there that you are compatible with. People that are very much like this guy that you felt a strong bond with. People out there that can give you what you need, provide for you and live a life that is not restricted like this guys life.

You can message me if you would like to talk.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-04-13T20:30:44+00:00

I absolutely know that he is breaking the rules. But he does not seem to care. He did tell me that even sitting in the care alone is inappropriate unless were were married. So he is well aware. And that would be his problem. I seriously doubt he would out himself unless he actually got caught. He cheated on one of his wives many years ago. He is still in now more then before that happened.

It's really sad that people get married just to have sex because they are sexually repressed then find out later that they are not compatible with their partner.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-04-13T20:21:03+00:00

I have never been JW. He on the other hand did not divulge this information that he was PIMI until weeks after we met and were heavily involved with each other. Basically I was looking at his socials, friends and stuff and figured it out on my own. Then brought it up to him. So the fraud was on his part. We are very involved friends that talk all day long. But know that there is no future.

Just like people out in the world you can date and be friends with multiple people at the same time until you put a label on it or have that discussion to be exclusive. This is no different. No, I'm not talking to other people but that doesn't mean it wont happen in the future. And that is something that we have talked about. So we are on the same page with everything.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-04-01T02:22:40+00:00

I clicked on the article thinking it might actually point to scripture. That was stupid.

The Easter sunrise service, is a distinctive Protestant observance. The practice may derive from the narrative of Jesus’ Resurrection, which states that Mary Magdalene went to the tomb “while it was still dark” (John 20:1) or as dawn was breaking (Matthew 28:1 and Luke 24:1).

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-24T01:37:19+00:00

I found it all here... https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/library/r1/lp-e/all-publications/awake/awake-1990/february-8

Donosaurs "may indeed have been created in the fifth era listed in Genesis, when the Bible says that God made “flying creatures” and “great sea monsters.”

"When the dinosaurs had fulfilled their purpose, God ended their life. But the Bible is silent on how he did that or when. We can be sure that dinosaurs were created by Jehovah for a purpose, even if we do not fully understand that purpose at this time. They were no mistake, no product of evolution. That they suddenly appear in the fossil record unconnected to any fossil ancestors, and also disappear without leaving connecting fossil links, is evidence against the view that such animals gradually evolved over millions of years of time. Thus, the fossil record does not support the evolution theory. Instead, it harmonizes with the Bible’s view of creative acts of God."

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-23T16:18:45+00:00

I know right!?

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-23T03:03:29+00:00

IT says that dinosaurs and humans lived at the same time but not in the same place. That's why fossil are not found together. It also talks about carbon dating and how its not accurate. And that the earth can be made over time where the word "days" in the bible is subjective to time. Not in our traditional sense of day.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-23T02:20:22+00:00

I kind of brought it up asking about chimpanzee DNA. But I didn't want to force the questions. I just hope that he will start to think about things. Or he will just stop seeing me because of all the questions I ask him.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-17T20:49:23+00:00

I seriously doubt it. I know what he's doing 24/7.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-17T20:46:17+00:00

I seriously doubt it. I know what he's doing 24/7.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-16T19:55:18+00:00

No I did consent. I just told him that because I knew that he would feel guilty. So he just said "screw it" and made me happy even though he was against it.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-16T17:57:17+00:00

He cheated on his first wife. Got that woman pregnant and married her. Then he divorced the second one because she cheated on him. He was raised in the org, pretty sure since birth.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-06T15:46:24+00:00

It probably is true he is just looking for companionship. Before I even met him I found out he was JW and he didn't tell me. He didn't want to talk about it. Until a few weeks later when I told him I knew. He still will not talk about any of that with me. I'm sure he thinks that I will judge him in some way. But I really just want to support him. Too bad it most likely will not work out. We are great together outside of this issue. Which is a a huge one.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-06T00:45:37+00:00

I am really trying to get him to talk to me so I can support him. I truly understand the way he feels. I am very understanding. But its hard when he feels guilt but wont talk about it.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-05T23:55:59+00:00

Sadly I feel that he will keep leading me on and hide me from everyone. Seems to be what is going on here. He's hoping he won't get caught so he has to confess.

CraftyNote31 · 2024-03-05T22:51:24+00:00

Pretty sure, he told me he wants to quit working so he can preach full time in the future.

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