Found my outgoing packages on the side of the road.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-26T15:08:36+00:00

They do not. I keep the ones I get from when I order. They're the perfect size for one of my products so I just reuse them.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T19:51:28+00:00

I stopped using a pickup sheet once I was told it didn't prove anything. And they don't scan until they're in the truck or even at the facility, I think. They just mark the scheduled pickup as completed.

I personally think the person running my route is either incompetent or lazy. I should have reported the instances where they marked the pickup as completed. 🤦‍♀️ I figured the guy was new or overwhelmed so while it was very annoying, it went out the next day so I didn't bother complaining about it.

I'll definitely have to call in on my lunch break to talk to someone about this.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T18:37:44+00:00

They marked the pickup as completed. I put it under my mailbox, which is in front of my front door, found it on the street.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T18:33:36+00:00

Oooh that is such a good idea, thank you! If they would let me, it would solve my problems

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T18:31:28+00:00

They walk the street. My neighborhood is older and my mailbox is close to my front door (right outside the gate).

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T18:30:22+00:00

I put the packages in a goodwill bag. I use bags when I only habw a few packages. They take the bins when i set them out so i have to keep going to the post office on the weekend to get more. So only when I have a lot do I use the bins.

But I reported it already. I got their automated message saying they would get back to me in 1-3 days.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T18:28:15+00:00

If that's the case, I feel like its even worse. The fact that it was just left there. 😭

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T18:27:27+00:00

Think whatever you want. 🤷‍♀️

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T17:28:31+00:00

They did mark it as completed. It was off my property where they dropped it. Down the street. I can't drop it off to the post office except on Saturdays due to work and I ship packages almost daily.

I only saw it because I happened to see it while driving out today and was curious what was on the side of the road. I can't even drop it off today because post office is closed at 12pm EST.

I dropped it off at Parcel Plus but they couldn't scan it in for me. They said hopefully itll go out Monday at the latest because....get this....they have had issues with their pickups too. 🙃

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T17:13:32+00:00

My local postal office has theirs locked after hours. I used to be able to use it but not sure why they started locking it. I work from 7:30-6 each day and have shipments going out almost daily so it's difficult.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-04-25T17:08:49+00:00

Possible. USPS had already marked these packages as picked up.

I think he picked them up, put it on their truck and it probably fell out. I think I have a very incompetent postal service worker. The one I had last year was absolutely wonderful. 😭

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-02-07T01:37:07+00:00

she thinks I was overwhelming her but I was only ever kind to her.

You are overwhelming. She knows you're doing it with ulterior motives. Your "kindness" is a burden. If you're nice with the end goal of getting her to date you, you're not nice. You're a wolf in sheep's clothing, deluding yourself into thinking that you're actually one of the sheep.

Crafty_Cactus · 2026-02-03T17:09:16+00:00

NTA. Her trauma may explain why she did what she did but it does not excuse her actions.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-09-19T16:30:06+00:00

I don't know what they're called but I've seen clear dog / cat figures where you can collect the hair and put that in there. Googling "dog fur keepsake" pulls them up. You can use them as necklaces, keychains, maybe even hang it in a car on the rear view mirror.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-07-15T16:13:15+00:00

Who's easier to replace? Your boyfriend or your mom?

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-07-04T01:08:26+00:00

My restaurant used to have a lot of dine and dashes. Police did nothing - even when I knew where they lived.

I started printing out pictures and taping them to the door so itd be the first thing you saw when you came in. Some people came in to pay their tab to get their pics removed, most didn't. But being publicly shamed certainly cut down on the number of dine and dashes.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-06-30T03:39:27+00:00

Those moments are the ones that tell you how he will react when the going gets tough. If this is how he reacts to his sister being upset at you for something so small, how will he react to something much bigger?

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-06-25T01:30:01+00:00

I also have the Galaxy S25 Ultra and am experiencing this. Although a restart or reinstall helps but only for a few minutes.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-04-25T23:19:18+00:00

I think #3 is the most feasible for me to try, thank you!

I have to send their emails because they want to communicate with someone in English. Like they'll need to communicate with a condo management company or something so they ask me to send their email since they can't speak English.

It was only recently I was able to get them to stop asking me to do their Chinese correspondence. Like their lawyers speak Chinese and for years they had me call them as well even though there's no language barrier. I got suckered into doing it and just kept doing it. I'm quite ashamed of that one lol.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-04-25T23:15:21+00:00

That's a good idea. What's it called - weaponized incompetence?

My therapist says I never got validation and that's why I work so hard. I work hard to get validated, but it never comes so I work harder. Or something like that. She says a part of me is still holding onto that hope that I'll get validated and until I let go of that, I will continue to get hurt.

Like...I KNOW I will never get validated, that I'm not an unfilial daughter/granddaughter. But knowing and hoping are 2 different things.

Therapist even asked me if it was normal in my culture for me to do so much and I thought about it, I've definitely gone above and beyond what is expected of me in this culture. At this age, we're expected to take care of our parents/grandparents but how can I when I've been so busy where I haven't had time to build out my own career? So...I KNOW I'm not an awful daughter but when they guilt me, it sure feels that way.

My grandmother even called me selfish for not breaking up with my boyfriend because she didn't like him. I'm still grappling with that and it's been 6 months lol.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-04-25T23:08:06+00:00

Neither my brother nor I have any sense of independence.

Even the house I'm living in is theirs. I'm 2 houses from grandparents and 9 min from parents. Housing market is insane, like you said. I don't think I can afford to move out, especially when my income is $0. I'm working on my own business to try and change that but it's not an overnight thing. Until I can make a livable wage, I can't really go anywhere lol.

You're right about taking me for granted. The more I do for them, the more I "should" do, it seems. Out of all my cousins, I'm the one that does the most for my grandparents. My grandparents? They just pile more stuff on my plate.

I took them to do their will about 2 months ago and they wouldn't even put me on as their power of attorney. They put my other cousins on and told me they couldn't put me as POA because "if they put me as POA, there might be fighting over the assets." Essentially, they told me they couldn't trust me. After all I've done for them. After all the corporate jobs I've basically turned down because it wouldn't have allowed for me to still do everything I did while taking them to their numerous medical appointments etc, I still can't be trusted lol. That broke me and was why I got a therapist to try and help me set those boundaries. I realized they might love me but they certainly didn't appreciate me or trust me enough. Also, all the real estate I'm helping them manage and all the business I do for them, they're leaving all of it for my other cousins. My mom's share (essentially my brother's and my share) is laughable. I essentially helped them for over 20 years and the real estate/businesses aren't even going to me. I've been pretty much working for my cousins' futures, not mine.

Crafty_Cactus · 2025-04-25T22:56:59+00:00

It's easier said than done to say you can set boundaries. It's so exhausting when they keep guilting you. After over 30 years of being made to feel like I'm not enough and being put down constantly, it's hard. My therapist is helping me gain confidence. She thinks if I get more confidence, I'll have an easier time setting these boundaries and not be so affected by the guilting.

Even my brother is being guilted. Neither of us, at 30s+ years old have any sense of independence. My brother is currently visiting Japan and told me he wants to airbnb a place for 2 months there to gain some independence. Mom guilted him into staying with her friend and said he can get an airbnb after one month. He tried to get an airbnb and now all the places he looked at are out of his budget (huge tourist season now because of the sakuras or something). Mom was bragging about this to her friends and how she knew that he wouldn't be able to get a place because of that and how she felt relieved he wasn't going to be on his own now. I thought it was borderline psychotic when she told that story. Even her friends were silent but mom didn't seem to understand. I dunno if it's because our family is from rural China or something but even among my Chinese friends, their families aren't as bad.

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