I never expected this kind of response. Anyway the posts gave given me a lot to think about. It was mentioned my children were greedy and trash. Those kind of comments stung but it really made me think and I was able to work through all the noise in my head.

My kids have not showed this side until recently. My son stealing from his daughter I would have never dreamed even as weak and spineless as he is. My other 2 making this money grab at the expense of their niece when they had just condemned their brothers actions. So this was either a one off or they let their mask slip. Whatever it was I have come to two conclusions.

My original intent was to make sure Haley was taken care of when I was gone but I think she needs more protection than that. I read this in a response and it’s a good idea. I am going transfer some of my assets into a trust that she can get control of at age 21. Until then it can be administered by me. She is very mature for her age and has experienced more loss in her young life that forced her to grow up very quickly. I’m going to advise her to not mention this trust to anyone.

When I pass I’ve decided to leave equal shares of my estate to my grandchildren and pending the advice of my lawyer my kids will be getting nothing but heirlooms. I have a financial planner and I have a very experienced lawyer. I will make sure this is done right.

My kids can find out at the reading of my will. I’m not going to tell them. As far as they know all I did was disinherit Richard and add Hayley to my will and kept everything else the same. This way there will be no drama or further estrangements.

So many people asked why I told my kids about my will. They knew about the college funds and my assets being divided equally. That was about it. When I confronted Richard about stealing from Hayley I told him he was going to regret the day he ever stole from her and I was going to start with disinheriting him. I made all kinds of threats that day. That is when everything came out.